This may be confusing, but i really need advice.

My issues just keep getting worse. Yesterday, at my friends party, i found out that my friend (Chris), who i like, is good friends with the first guy i said, "i love you" to. He moved to Europe about a year ago and we havn't seen eachother since. We were broken up by my ex friend. Getting back to the issue, my ex was telling Chris all about me, and how he still loves me, and how every girl where he lives is a s***. Chris has no idea that he is talking about me because my ex never said my name. Chris and i like eachother and we were starting to get close, but i don't know anymore. No matter how much i tell myself i don't still have feelings for my ex, i do. I went out with a guy (Mike) months ago to get over him, but it didn't work. Now i'm stuck. I like Chris so much, but i still have strong feelings for my ex. With in the next two years, he told Chris, he's coming back and is going to find me. He also told Chris that if never got a chance to be with me, he would want me to be with someone who would treat me right, and he said that it should be Chris. My ex has no idea that the girl Chris likes is me, and Chris has no idea that the girl my ex loves, is me as well. I don't want to hurt either of them. I'm nervous about them finding out that they both like me because of the problems that might occur. I'm sorry if this is confusing, but i really need help. Niether my friends, or mom, have helped. These guys are amazing, and i don't want to lose either one. How do i straighten this out with out ruining friendships.

i would go for chris... your ex doesn't sound too reliable (coming back to find you in 2 years) little stalker-ish besides you're 14 how strong could your feelings for your ex be? do you really think it's the rest of your life, till death do you part? go for chris have some fun these are the golden days don't waste them waiting

I'm 15, and age doesn't matter. This is about feelings, not age. My feelings for him are actually very strong. I mixed my words up. He is coming back to tell me how he feels because he wants to be with me. He didn't say to "find" me. I just put it into weird words. Havn't you ever heard couples lasting through high school? Both my ex and Chris are trying to find someone to spend the rest of there lives with. You probably wouldn't understand. Chris has only had 1 g/f and he's 16, and my ex has only had 2 (not including me), and he's 16 as well. They are into long-term relationships, as am i. Forget it, i can't explain this. Thanks for your advice.

I'll give my advice on this ok....now you say you have strong feelings for both of them, then well lets see this is complicated.......if you love your ex then just tell chriss the truth and that your sorry but this is the way it has to be. If chris has strong feelings for you then he wont stop at anything to get you back. and really your ex lives far away or is he moving back here?? cause if he lives far away then trust me longdistance relationships wont work out. so let me know what you think about all this I just said ok.

the1bit*ch

my advice is go with the one you like more.. isn't that really the decision you hav to make? but.. i would not advise your ex, after all, he is an "ex" for a reason rite? that mite get in the way of this relationship too!
hope it all works out!
jessy

Thank you for your advice. Okay to answer the question. My ex is moving back when he's 18 (two years). This is difficult. I do love my ex, but i'm not "in love" with him. ^To the above post. This may seem weird, but i like them equally because of their personalities. They are both so much alike. They are good friends after all. My ex didn't break up with me, and i didn't break up with him. Like i said, this is complicated. Niether of us wanted to break up before he moved. My ex friend (Sam) told each of us a different story. Sam told me that my ex was breaking up with me, but he couldn't bare to do it himself. She told him the same thing, only that i was the one breaking up with him. After that, we tried to move on. I'm not the type of person who gets into this situation. I've never gone through this before. Liking two guys equally is very confusing and difficult for me to deal with. Thanks for your advice. If you have any more, it would help a lot.