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i have a "guy friend" who used to be my boyfriend back in like september '05 but then we broke up after a little while... last month i went to this dance that he was at... his friend bob* had brought him, so yesterday I sent this bob* kid a text message and asked if he was going to the upcoming dance b/c i was wondering if he was bringing sam* but then sam* freaked out because he thought i was hitting on bob* so now we're in this huge fight and he keeps calling me a whore... plz plz plz plz help me figure out how to make him realize i still LOVE him A LOT A LOT A LOT!

* = names changed
**meggie**

aww.. dat suxx.. well, the best thing to do is tell him what happened, just explain everything.. everyone likes an honest person! :) good luck!
jessy

well for one thing dont repete words like a lot a lot alot and you should try to explain things to the best of your ability and see if he understands and try to get "BOB" to help you out on it also!

aw well you should explain to him what happened if he wont talk to you maybe *bob will help you and explain to him that its all just a misunderstanding .. or maybe write him a letter or somthing .. i dunno well hope i helped a little good luck♥

.x♥Kristy♥x.

sams your ex right?

well he's also a stupid moron he's calling you a whore for hitting on a guy 8 months after you left him... even if you had hit on bob he would have had no right. so asumming bob knows you weren't coming on to him ask him to kick sam's head in... or talk to him

Thanks for all the help guys... last night we talked a little bit but ahh... yeha it didn't really work because he was busy hanging out with another of his little "whores" as he told me. he said he would call me back a few minutes after i called him, but he didn't so i sent a text and told him not to lie... i said dont call if you dont want to but dont lie and keep me waiting just because you know i will. Before that he had left me a voicemail but it wasn't him - it was some chick talking about something.. but i dont know what... i heard my name and i heard her say "megan, and i was like... and he was like YEHA!" when i heard it i was really sad... but the only reason he even called was to tell me that he didn't want my voicemail to say "hey its megan & sam* you guys know what to do" but the thing is.. he put it there... and GRR iono...anyways thanks anyways... keep the advice coming if you got anymore...
**meggie**

that guy has no right to call you that megan.

That guy had absolutely no reason to call you what he did. Even if you were hitting on his friend, he still shouldnt have called you that. He doesn't really sound like much of a friend. But don't let him do that to you, no matter how much you like him, just don't let him do that to you. Nobody should disrespect another person like that.

sticks and stones...

You're 13.

Grow up. There's other boys out there. Plus you are way too young to know what love really is. When you move and and live on your own and can fend for yourself, then you are in better shape. Do you guys like ride bikes for your dates? Don't use the word love unless you mean it, when you look at the future. What do you want from this guy anyways? That is stuff you should think about before throwing the word around. If you keep saying it, it's going to lose it's meaning.
Seems a little harsh, but's it's the truth.

Time will tell it's stories, and you will look back and laugh about your mistakes. Trust me.

You cant say that i dont know what love is, because you don't know who i am, and maybe there is more to "love" that even you know... you cant say that just because im 13 i need to grow up and whatever... because you cant say that somebody is too young to be in love... it just isn't right...
**meggie**

*copy*

Love is a powerful word, and people often misuse it. People in their 30's claim to love someone and are married to them with kids, and a few years later divorce. Is that love? No, it can't be, because love is suppose to be forever. Like the love your parents give you and you return, something like that lasts forever. I don't think you can find love at your age, or even at my age. You don't really know when you've found it. You can claim to, and it not be. So I contradict myself when I say, you can find love at any age, but you will never know if it is true or not.

*edit*
You more or less have an obsession that is blinding you from the truth. You claim it to be love, because that is what you want it to be. But how do you really know? That gut feeling you have? Is that even enough to claim such a strong word?.. Love does exsist, between family and friends. When it comes to finding soul-mates, it's harder to find. Stop abusing the word, or it loses all meaning.

i understand what you're saying and i dont wanna argue with you because you are older and probably know more about life and love so you are most likely right, but "love" when you're 14 could be different that "love" when you're 20 or whatever.... saying i "abuse" the word is what i'm having a problem with... the fact that i may say it and not mean it quite as much as i claim too or as much as you may could be true... but i dont neccessarily "abuse" it. I might not really understand myself what "love" is, in your opinion, but the way I see myself, this is the happiest I have ever been, being a wh0re and all... i dont know why (other than love) i would stay with him for soooo long. say as you wish, just dont tell me i abuse the word.. i may have a missunderstanding of the full meaning of the word, but i dont "abuse" it as you seem to think..

**meggie**

You will abuse the word. Believe me. Eventually when time passes by, you will have the same feeligns for someone else. You might even have more for that one person. You will end up saying you love him now. You are still very young, and you will probably be telling more than one person you love them. That is why you don't rush in to things you are not completely ready for. Trust me on this. I haven't figured it out yet, but I am slowly seeing the truths. I am very careful when it comes to that sort of thing, because the heart is fragile.

And I'm not saying you can't say you love someone, I'm just saying, becareful when you say it, because you better mean it.

Any man who even DARES to call a women a whore is not worth even being looked upon! My advice is his true colors are coming out in his jealusy! And who knows? If you date him.... and maybe marry..... those words of discrimination could lead to permenant scares both mentaly, and physicaly! No man has any right to call you that! Back out now sweet heart!

Damn! That sucks! He has no right to call you that! Well I think you should talk to him if you can face to face --cuz that's a better way to discuss about things, in my opinion--anyway, umm... yeah just tell/explain everything to him! Well yeah hope everything goes good! Take care!
Cindy

thanks guys... im going to hang out with him tonight, im going to a dance that unfortunately ) : hes going to be at, i hope that this gurl named kalli wont be there because she has messed up a large chunk of our relationship, but either way, i plan on sitting down somwhere, seperate from everyone, with him and talking about what happened, and hopefully we can work it all out....

**meggie**

Good luck to you.

Thank you, now that you aren't rubbing the word "abuse" in my face, I feel like you may actually have a posetive side to you negative words.

**meggie**

It wasn't negative words.
It was words of wisdom and inspiration.

I have a very positive side, that is why I wouldn't want you making the same mistakes I made.
When you learn from your own mistakes you grow, but when you can learn from other people's mistakes, you mature.