Parent Trouble =(

I have this friend. This guy friend. We've always had something between us, but we've never done anything about it. We never actually felt it.
Well the other day, I did. And I fell hard.
So, your asking "what's the big deal?"
There's a slight problem.
He's black. And...I'm white. We're both cool with this. I thought everything would be fine.
I was wrong. Ever since I've told my mom, she hasn't said ONE word to me.
What am I supposed to do? Do I make her happy, or myself happy?

I really need help. And I appreciate you reading this...
I'm just so lost...and I'm hurt that my mom has felt this way...

Thanks to anyone who answers...

Lauren

Your profile says you are fourteen... And I know this may sound harsh, but there's really nothing you can do. This does suck... majorly. But I say you keep being friends with this fellow and try to talk it out with your mom - you know, ask her exactly what bothers her about him. If she still refuses to lighten up, then it's all up to you and your heart - what matters more to you, his love or your mother's approval.

Good luck and God bless ~

Car

^ i agree.. There really is nothing that you can do about it, and I can't really tell you what to do. But you need to ask yourself is this guy really worth hurting your relationship with your mom. Boyfriends come and go (some stay.. don't get me wrong, but for the most part.. your young, you will go through many) but family is always there no matter what. Just try to make the right decision & go with your heart. Good luck.. I hope everything works out for the best!

thanks you guys.

my mom's exact words were "i don't believe in whites dating blacks"

i'm so mad at her! she doesn't even KNOW him! i just...i can't believe her....

if she only knew how happy he makes me...
but i'm not going to talk to her about it again...
i still can't believe how she feels that way...

but thanks...i REALLY appreciate it

No problem.. I'm really sorry about your mom thinking that way, maybe she'll come around...if she doesn't mind you two being friends, maybe you could invite him over sometime as friends & just let your mom get to know him & maybe that could help change her mind. But anyways..Good luck with everything!

ohhhh geez.

i don't think there is any possible way this boy is coming over. and she's fine with us being friends...
i thought that she really wouldn't mind me liking him, because he's half and half (white/black)
i'm just ashamed of saying what my mom said, because i don't want to offend anyone. sorry if anyone 's offended...but that is my mom's opinion...

thanks =)

Some parents just think that way, and a parent's mind is the hardest to change. If my child dated someone who isn't white, I would NEVER discourage it. but her not talking to you is immature.

i know^
tell me about it...

but she's talking again.

well thanks to everyone who helped.

but i asked this boy out...after chicken-ing out several times...and building up my courage...

his response::
"i'm too much of a pimp to be in a relationship"

well, that adds to the cracks in my heart.

but thank you so much anyways!!!