is it bad or unhealthy to.......

Is it bad, or unhealthy to write so much about my ex... and my feelings for him...a lot of people think so..but thats the only way i can get stuff off my mind or clear my thoughts...someone help me out on this one... is it bad?

It seems like a much better idea than to surpress the feelings and pretend they don't exist... that's never a good thing. Feelings are feelings, you don't get much control over them, so I'd say go on and let them out.

^^^ I agree, you can't hold in your feelings, it on;y makes it worse, writting poetry is an outlet for many...it is a way for them to put the way the feel down on paper, and at the same time creating an peice of art...it truely is a beautiful thing.

Peace, Joe

I don't have anything different to say than what has already been said; however I can tell you why people don't think it's healthy. To put it simply, they think that you're just holding onto pain that could go away if you didn't concentrate on it... People aren't really great when it comes to empathy, only sympathy. (meaning, they may feel for you, but they'll never actually know what you're going through... Thus you writing about your feelings will never make sense to them - unless they too have suffered just as much pain or know what you're feeling, and write aswell.)

Anyway, I hope that made sense. lol I tried. If not I'll come and edit it when I'm more awake. Don't worry about it being unhealthy or bad, it's neither and will help you clear your thoughts and better your skill ;) Best of luck and good wishes. -Stefhy

P.S. I'm pretty sure those aren't actually proven dear, Sarcasm is a wonderful thing - and Apethetic Soul has it down :P.

No, of course not. I haven't read your poems, so I don't know your mood, but if you write about him with a sad tone, that means you are obviously sad about him, and you are just revealing it in your own way.

lol..apathetic soul...i got the sarcasm

lol

Now, it may be bad or unhealthy to harness feelings that you and him are still going to work out after you have broken up, or never actually ever been together..or spoken in coherant conversation for more than 2 minutes...or...I really have no idea who I could be talking about ;)

but I think that's a seperate issue from poetry.

P.S: That writing can cause cancer stuff. that can't be true. and if it is then i'll happily die at the young and tender age that i am. please tell me you made that up..

*samantha*

No, Its healthy to get it out of youre head. I think it is good for youre mind, since you rest it after writing a poem.

You write your feelings. It is best to get them out of your mind. If your emotions lie on your ex- then write them. It means you still have healing to deal with in regards to your ex. If ppl have a problem with this. They do not have to read your work. Just be satisfied that each poem you write is one step closer to closure.

I think it's good. After a break up with a boyfriend for five years ALL I did for a few weeks was write. It helped A LOT!! Had I not had poetry I probably would have went crazy. You have to have some way to get everything out, whether it be writing, talking, drawing...what ever works for you.