Please Help i'm scared

First of all I’m 19 and I have been with my girlfriend for about six’s weeks and we’ve been talking about having sex. I’m really scared I think she knows I’m a virgin but I donno what 2 do I want 2 have it I get shy and embarrassed when we talk about it. Please help some 1.
Paul N.

hey..
form a girls point of veiw your gf will be ok bout u being one sweetY! honest if i were her it woodnt bother me like many girls it dnt.. thts where us girls can be slightly different from the blokes there lol

dnt worry n itll be a fab nite.. jus go with the flow n if u be honest with her bout it she will more than likely take the lead!.. take care

I would have to agree with Britt all the way on this topic...although you have not been waiting, "your whole life to have sex" ... your whole life is still ahead of you, but I agree that you have only been going out with her for what 6 months....that is not a long time, compaired to waiting 19 years to have sex...and if you are shy about talking about, maybe you are not ready...I am a virgin, I am 20...and I respect your concern...any more questions, please feel free to ask. Either way, I am sure your g/f will be happy, if she loves you that much she will understand that you are not ready for that kind of relationship...Take it slow...that is the best policy...

Peace, Joe

^I agree. I respect that you're a virgin, that's awesome. Most people lose their virginity between 12 and 16. If you have gone this long, why not wait till you're with someone for longer than 6 months? I don't plan on losing mine until my wedding night. It's your choice. If you lose it to your g/f of 6 months, you may regret it later on in life.

i'm ready 2 have sex and i know she is the 1 i wanna lose my virginerty to and i wanna have sex. but i'm scared and if she laughs or i'm bad at it she had sex bf what if the guy was better than me. thta y i'm scared.

You barely know her. If she's the one talk to her about your fears.

i do talk about my fears. and shes understandin about it and and she tells me not to worry. UT I STILL AM.

Ok, well If you talk about it, and she truely loves you, then why are you so worried? She will accept you for who you are...she will understand that it is your first time, and she may even take the lead, but I'm positive she will understand your concerns for it is your first time...

Peace, Joe

Belive me, there is nooooo reason to be ashamed or embarrassed about being a virgin. If it where me, I'd feel REALLY special knowing that i was your first. So don't even worry about that. And if you're sure she's the one, I'm positive that she's not gonna care if it's your first time!
~*Bri*~

If you were my b/f and you told me you never had sex? I'd probably fall even more in love with you! I am one and it's so damn hard to find a man who hasn't slept with at least 2-3 girls... and then dumped them easily. I'd kill for a man who hasn't gone and given it away!

You should be proud to be a virgin cuz some of us it got taken away from a rapist--Anyway, you are lucky to be one and I also have agree with Britt! I mean If you are embaressed and shy then you just shouldn't! I mean you might not know it but to me you sound like you don't feel comfortable! I mean I've been with my boyfriend like about 3yrs. & 3mths. and we haven't had sex wat so ever! It's too risky cuz wat if your relationship changes and it goes down hill? Wat if it doesn't? Think about if you really like this girl and about how your relationship will grow or not? But that's just my opinion! But just make the right choice! Good luck!
~*~Cindy~*~

Congrats man, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Also, you have nothing to be afraid of. If you think this girl is the one, after only dating her for such a short time, that's your choice, but I wouldn't jump into things. If she waits for you, that's a good sign. Also, tell her that you are a virgin, and that you are scared. If she said anything bad, then you know she's not the one. If she was caring and understand, then you guys can definitely work something out.

Be proud to be a virgin, at least you know you don't have any STDs. I bet a lot of kids will pick it up before they hit 19.

There is nothing to be scared of just take one step a head and u dont have to be embarassed of that u are virgin at 19 or talking about it bec its a normal thing...and if u are avoding the subjekt ur girlfriend will suspekt that its something wrong with her wich u dont think at all..... its good if u talk 2 ur girl about how u feel... best luck and i hope everething will be fine... u are the only one who can help ur self!!

-vip-

thank u every1 i hhave talked 2 me girlfriend about it and we desided 2 wait 3months and talk about it then. thank u. Paul
P.S. I LOVE U ALL 4 UR HELP...

v good point "italian stallion" bout the "you've been waiting ur whole life to have sex" thing. i thought it was a bit... cliché.

otherwise i agree with britt and "joe". i think it' s bit soon. and if ur sure "she's the one" (for this anyway) then after a while try again to talk about it. maybe it'll get easier!!

gud luk!!
sarah

yeah i agree with "italian stallion." someone should love u for who u are, not for who they want u to be. no one's perfect :)

I agree with Sarah.

If you're not ready, tell her, if she loves you, she'll respect that. Personally, I say wait till Marriage.

THERE IS NO REASON TO BE ASHAMED THAT YOU'RE A VIRGIN! SERIOUSLY!

~Well, if you're embarressed you're obviously not ready. You shouldn't be pressured into having sex. I believe that true love waits. If this girl really loves you, she will be willing to wait until you're ready, and if not than she's just in it for the pleasure and you should get away as fast as you can. My advise--wait until you get married, that way you know that you have saved yourself for someone that you really love, and the woman that you marry will admire you for that. Don't waste your virginity-- you can't get it back once it's gone.
God Bless

I think that having sex that soon is way to soon trust me. My friend has been with her bf for three years now and have not even thought about it. If you two are really in love then maybe you two can wait till its the perfect timing.

i seriously would wait for awhile to have sex...its a big deal...i was 13 when i lost my virginity and i got pregnat. i DIDN'T have the baby but still my bf left me thinking i was still going to and i was left with so much...your taking a !very! big risk and yeah...i would wait till i'd get married and knew the person A LOT better...

congrats on bein a virgin btw! its a good thing, trust me.

first answer this: do u love her?

think about what your considering doing, onli u can make the right desision remember x

I think if a guy is a virgin and is able to talk about it openly shows confidence and confidence is key. Im only 16, but when I find out that a guy is still a virgin that shows strength and self-control.

Good on ya!

God Bless,
!Mallory!