what am i todo?

what am i supposed todo? I am only 14 and the guys that i like are both older than me. One i know my parents wouldnt approve of and the other works for my dad. The one that my parents wouldnt aprove of is around 20 and the one that works for my dad is 17. My dad knows that i like the kid that works for him and doesnt think i should he thinks that it is just a big mistake and that i am just going to get hurt. Can anyone give me advice or help me?

I WAS in the same situation as you but my guy is 25 and am 17 and i went too far with him. girl all i have to say is dont even think about it. All you are going to do is cause yourself a whole bunch of greif. Your puppa is right girl just listen to the ones who love you the most. They lead you in the right direction.

First of all jaimie, you should come to the dance tonight because than you guys can hang out without the resraints of having to be around your parents, if it goes good, than who knows, if it goes badly, than hey gurl, you know im ALWAYS here for you, no matter what - i've known u since i was like 2 haha seriously tho u should come down tonight and hang out wit me... hopefully ill cya there...
luv u 4ever and ever..

**meggie**

I'm 20, but I would not even dare thinking about dating someone that young, for several reasons.

A. I'm not the kind of guy that only wants sex, I actually want a loving, lasting relationship.

B. Girls at your age are not mature, and become really clingy and obsessive.

C. If he were to have sex with you, he could get charged for pedophilia, since you are considered a minor.

My best advice is, you have two choices, it shouldn't be that way. When you can't decide on something like that, then there is doubt in your mind. Having doubt about relationships usually always end up in it ending. Another thing is trust. How can you like two guys at the same time, it wouldn't be fair if you were going out with one of them, and liking another guy.

They are both still too old for you. Your parents know what's best, remember, they've been there, done that. So their advice is a lot better than us. Listen to them.

well same situation but one guy...21 sweet nice everything (a dream man) everything a girl would want and I'm only 16. I wanted to date him so bad I couldnt cz he didnt want to cz he's too old for me. maybe you should sadly listen to your dad about the 17 year old and the 20 year old well now thats a different story..if you and him were ever caught together he could go to jail since you're only 14 and he's 20. It might not be a good idea to be with him either. I dont mean this in a bad way but maybe you should stick to boys around your age even though they probably are a little immature(no offense to the ones that are). I hope I helped and don't give up. You're young you shouldn't be to caught up in boys...at least not yet.

Take Care

~DyingBlackRose~

~Well, guys that much older than you, if they're intrested at all, they are probably only interested in 1 thing... My advise is to stay away. High school is so much different than middle school, and you learn a lot about people. The people who right now you think are angels, soon could turn out to be your worst nightmare. If you're not careful, you could really get hurt...both physically and mentally.

Good luck+God Bless

thanks for all of the advice and me and the 20 year old have talked and we just wanna keep it friends till i'm older and he said that if i want to "pursue" this other kid that i shouldnt feel bad about doing. Which i have to say i do have some guilt likeing 2 at once but...he said that i should try to get this other kid. I think he is also saying that he has found somone else. ~tear~ but hey there isnt anything i can do about that other than keep my head high, and hope that i dont nkow the other person. The reason why i go for the older guys is because A) they are way more mature B) when i am with somone my age they just want to make out and stuff and i want more C) i look like i am way older than all of the guys that are my age. I look 18 and they look well 14/15. The first time my ex had layed eyes on me he thought that was 18. And when i found out that i was only 13(at that time) he freaked. but we kept dating because he was 16 and if we had kept dating then i would be 14 and he be 17. But yeah thats more story. thanks for all of your advice i really aprciated it and it has helped me out alot. and the 17 year old i think mght like me, the way i like him. and dad siad that he sorta aproves of the 17 year old he just needs to learn how to drive. He's lost his licence twice already...for speeding. like most people. well thnx

A) they are way more mature
- That's because they have grown up, and you should too, because by the time you are 18, a guy the same age will be the same maturity level. So don't rush things. And don't expect the best from someone older, they aren't always mature.

B) when i am with somone my age they just want to make out and stuff and i want more
- Kids your age in general want to do the same things, not only the guys. Stop trying to grow up so fast, because when you hit my age, you will look back and wish to be young again. Enjoy your youth.

C) i look like i am way older than all of the guys that are my age.
- I look way younger than my age, and a lot of 16 year old girls think I'm their age. It's better to act the age you are, instead of pretending to be older. I act my age, that is the only way people believe me when I tell them I'm 20.

At the age of 14, I was hanging out with friends and going to the park. Scraped knees and playing games. That's what you should be doing. Don't throw away your youth.