grrrr

you probably get a lot of this on here, but i just feel as though i need someones opinion before i go crazy.
I met this girl 3 years ago, and sicne shes meant the world to me, she cahnged my life toally. Before i met here i was in trouble with the police, and getting quite heavily into drugs, but as soon as she came along something jsut clicked, and made me realise that someone loves me and it got me off the drugs instantly. The past three years have been the greatest of my life, ive shared so many happy memories with her, even tho it was a sort of long distance thing, i still saw her at least once a week, but mostly weekends and wednesdays too. she meant the world to me and still does. yet two months ago she suddenly decided she wanted time alone to think t over, and at the same guy this other guy came on the scene. now she is in a realton ship with him, yet she still rings me at least once a week to say she loves me and then suddenly she decides she never wants to talk to me again. Ive started back on the drugs too, i cant explain why, i really dont know why. I recently lost my gran and a close cousin too. It just seems that everything is happening at once, i really dont know what to do anymore. I love her to bits, and she still says she loves me.

well, i've never been in ur situation before. but i think that it's rediculous that she call u and tell u she loves u when she's with another guy. if she really loved u why wouldn't whe be with u?? have you talked to her about it?? try.
lemme know how it turns out!!

I dunno how I'd feel, but i wouldnt have put myself in that situation anyway, knowing that she was with someone else yet still carry on. Ive tried talking to her but she just ignores everything i say, and puts the phone down. Im thinking of going to where she lives and try get her to talk to me face to face. Ive done that before and she listened to what i had to say then, so im kinda hoping she will again

She knew about a month ago Id started again, but i told her that i'd stopped. I cant just come out and say all that stuff to her though,it'd b like it was just for attention. Thanks everyone so far

sounds like something my friends in right now
what kind of drugs were you into?

That is rough, but does going back to druge really make it any better? Everyone ends up heart broken or losing loved ones. It's all apart of life. Life gets confusing. If she really loved you, she wouldn't ignore you. If she really loved you, she wouldn't be in a relationship with another guy. Why would she have asked for a break, but got with another guy while taking one. I know you can find someone better then that. Whether you believe me or not is your choice. When you keep your mind on one girl, you never get a chance o see if you can find someone better. Drugs only make things worse for you. I understand what you're going through because i have a friend who went through this. You just have to make the best of the life you're given. I hope i heped. Good luck.

thanks, ecspecially to the last comment! had a drug free day so far. before i met her i was on all sorts, but nothing too major, just canabis and coke were the normal. but now ive started on heroin, i really dont know why, and i regret it, but theres something there that makes me want it

well i got a message off her saying she hopes im okay 2days ago. but ive tried ringing her and she wont answer. i managed to stay clean for a day, but its just drawn me back, i realy dont know what to do anymore

Well she obviously cares about you. If she didn't she wouldn't have messaged you. It's hard to get off drugs once you start, but the more do drugs, the harder it will be. Drugs can seriously mess with your mind. It takes time and motivation. Maybe you should start thinking about those you're hurting by doing drugs. There are people who care about you. For once stop thinking about how the drugs make you feel, but how they make those who care about you feel. Is this really the life you want? If you really wanted to quit drugs and start over, you would. It's not too late. You have your whole life ahead of you. Doing drugs makes life even more difficult then without them. You stopped for a day. That's a really good start. If you set a goal, you can reach it. I know i make this sound corny, but i'm serious. I don't joke about this kind of crap. Any time you need advice, i'm willing to help. I've had a lot of expierience with this type of situation with my friends.

I kind have gone through with the same kinda shii, only that I love this guy who means the world to me, and like we were split apart cause of his deportation, its a crazy long story, but we still kept in touch through 2 yrs and say that we love each other until this girl comes in the scene, he says that he loves me but at times takes about getting engaged with her in the future and what not which only breaks my heart knowing that we're good friends yet lovers but he says he loves this other girl too, its so weird and friggin confusing. But yea I'm just taking it patiently and still am waiting cause I know some where down the road our roads will cross again and then he'll know right there that we belong together... I hope.

well i tried ringing her this morning, and she jsut put the phone down on me, i think it was because she may be with this new guy. ive just tried ringing her again and i think shes just took the phone off the hook because its engaged. i cant carry on with it like this anymore i really cant

if u wanna talk more bout it u can send me through the private message and it directly goes to my e mail. cuz i know how it is the guy i love is talkin to that itch and i didnt even get to talk to him... he only cares bout her is what im guessin maybe im just gonna disapear from his life...

First of all I want to thank everyone thats helped me out with this. Im currently sat ina hotel in Leeds, not heroin for 3 days, no drugs at all in fact. I've got to admit its extremly difficult, but im coping. The reason I decided to quit? Well a few mates of mine got in contact with my ex, told her what was happening and she rung me, made me realise what an idiot i'd been, made me feel like id someway let her down, after everything i promised, she cried, i cried. I ve been clean since. Im sorting my life out, tommorow im going to go for a look round the university im going to hopefully, and i might be brae and try to see her tommorow, at least to thank her.

As I said earlier, thank you all so much.

aww bud. thats not fair on you, she shouldnt but you in that position by telling you she loves you.
do you say it back? if so how does she respond? next time tell her that she has to work it out soon. its either you or the other dude. and if its not you....i really hope that you can find another alternative to get off the drugs. ive had alotta experiences with substance abuse. so if you wanna talk just ask for my msn. mmk?
good luck

mhmm i probbally should of read the last post first. heheh
well im happy for you.
=D

That's awesome. If you keep going at this rate things will become more clear. Drugs can cause serious damage to your mind and body, but if you quit before it gets to that point, things will be fine. It's good to hear things are starting to get a little better. Your friends did a good thing by calling her and telling her. Your life is going to start getting better, i know it. I wish i could get it through my friend Jimmy's head to quit, but back on the situation, i'm so glad things are getting better.

Sometimes I wish to get back on some drugs...... cause that's what can settle me out for a bit..... The drugs sometimes I just like it.. But ey.. thats really good for u! = )

well things kind of messed up yesterday, i got there and she was with this other guy. and wouldnt talk to me. so that was a bit rubbish. she rung me this am though and saifd she was really sorry and she'd help me in anyway and that she still cares. im still off the drugs though.

ive been getting sms messages on my phone today saying that i hope i die and that she doesnt care about, i think theyre off him but she wont beleive me.

How about forgeting about her. If she is doing all the mean things you are telling the P&Q members, then she seriously does not care about you. All you are to her is a slave.

One bat of her lashes and you would do whatever she desires.

Sad No!