My mother is a racist and the boy I love is black..

I have had a crush on a boy for a long time, I am totally not a racist but my mother dislikes him.. she doesn't say to me: I don't like him because he's black but I know for sure that sthat is the reason..

I don't want things to get even messier between me and my mom, we went through a hard time and it is finally getting better.. Advice?

wow...

i'm going through this EXACT thing. i even wrote a poem about it...

and everyone that i asked for help told me to talk to my mom about it. they also said that there's nothing i can do about it because of my age (14).
ask her exactly what she doesn't like about him. tell her that there's nothing wrong with him being black.

if he treats you right, and you really like him a lot...
don't let your mom get in the way.

but, what relationship would you rather have: you and your mom (who will be there for you forever) or you and this boy (who might hurt your moms relationship with you, then break your heart. leaving you to be alone)

the choice is yours. i know it's hard....

i'm here if you ever wanna talk about it!

Lauren

^^ I somewhat agree.. Even if he does treat you right, your mom doesn't like him & even though she shouldn't get in the way, she is. Therefore, you dating this boy will hurt you and your mom's relationship. Your mom will always be there for you, but there is a great possibility that this boy won't. You should talk to your mom about it, maybe even convince her to meet him and get to know him better to see that he really is a nice person, and maybe she will change her mind. But either way, if you two were meant to be, you will end up together. Good luck and I hope that I helped some!

Go for it because you love him, not because you want to do what your mother thinks your shouldn't

its not up to your mum who u like and fall in love with, follow ur heart hun

what you need to do is talk it over with your mom.
you need to tell her how you feel and why you feel this way. This is your life and you need to make this decision whether your mom likes your decesion or not. This si your life and your mom cant do anything about who you date.
you should make a list by yourself of 10 good things and 10 bad things of staying in this relationship, it will help you think about it.
good luck, and follow your heart. Trust your gut.
god bless,
melanie

im goin through the same thing i went out eith this black guy for 9 months and then he propoed to me and i dont know what to do either. i love him so much

Family is and will always be the support you need. Talk to them, they aren't always there to annoy the hell out of you, or to make your life miserable. They are there to love you, and support your decisions.

i once tried dating a black guy.

my brother got in the way all the time.

he turned out to be a pothead though. so i stuck by my brother.

though, i'm still not allowed to date any other black guys though.

of course, my brother, as the main male in the house, tries to play the father, my YOUNGER brother, and NO guy, black, white, canadian, is good enough. He always finds something wrong.

you're mom is just looking out for you. but, racism is not cool.

You know someone once told me, those who hates another person just because of their skin, usually blames something as miniscule as skin colour because they (hatee) has something the hater does not have.

Racism is an animalistic trait...As a human being we are suppose to accept each other based on our similarities not our differences.

Your mother is never going to change, rather than explain to the poor woman, pity her for wasting her small life on something so pathetic.

Ok!

Hmmm..This is hard...

I kinda agree with Sluvious..But I don't. I mean if it is love it won't fade, and will stay..(Which by the way, is true..First hand experience)

But he also does have a point about the Mother thing to..and so do a few others..I mean..if you and your Mum are starting to work things out, and she dislikes this boy..how can you be sure, he just isn't in it for a little while? I mean you never know..and in the end he could leave you heart broken and things between Your Mum and You, could be seriously disturbed, and aweful.

I agree it's a hard choice..I mean..
Your Mum
OR
The Boy You Love.
It's just another curve ball that wonderful life has to throw out..also could be a good life lesson..

But what do I know? Huh? Lol..
I hope I sorta helped. O_o

Alright i am kinda going through except im the black girl and he's the white boy and his parents dont want them dating me so yea i think you should sit down with your mother and tell her how you feel and tel her that everyone is the same even though they are different skin color and everything like that and then make him sound really good to your parents im talking 4.0 grade point average helps his mom around the house is a virgin i mean everything and anything you can think of even if its not true because if you love him like you say you do then you would do anything for your man so try it and see what happens what do you got to lose?

I agree with Wax. Racism is terrible. That doesn't mean that this boy is right for you. Even if he were white, there is a chance your mom might not like him. My girlfriend's parents aren't racist... they just hate all boys.

I'm not sure what you can do about your mother being racist... I certainly don't know of any remedy for that. I think that you should carefully consider what this boy means to you though, because even if he wasn't black, considering the consequences is something you should do.

Honestly, I think you should just ignore the fact she does not like him because he is black. You like him, and nothing should come between that. Cause really she won't be dating him, so, it has nothing to do with her. Don't worry about it. She may be mad for a while, she'll get over it. It is not the end of the world.

Good Luck with that!

wow... thats a big problem. but your mother is your mother, and this boy is just a boy. I'm biracial so i cant say much about racism, although i have been discriminated against... however, YOUR issue.. if this boy ends up hurting you, your mother is going to be there to help. (yeah im younger than you but i help a lot of people... sorry.) if she says something about him that you dont agree with if you do break up, you will probably get offended, but NO boy is worth the relationship between a mother and her daughter. hope i helped at least a little bit...

Allanah Rayne

its your life follow your heart and stay true to yuorself, live for yourself not for someone else

This is a hard one but I think that i can really relate to you. I mean this same thing happened to me. But maybe you should just talk to your mom about it and not it a mean or hostile way, just relaxed talking. Maybe if she met him then she might change her mind. I hope everything works out for you, I wish you the best of luck