please i need some advice help me!!!

  • Darien
    18 years ago

    He's not worth it. A guy who wants to be friends with benefits, they only want one thing.

    On the plus side, you can be his friend. Maybe he's still immature and is afraid of a relationship, or who knows his reason, but maybe wait for him to mature? If you can't wait for him, find someone else.

  • SatinRisse
    18 years ago

    I have to agree.

    Be friends and ONLY friends. Non of this benifits shit. Because if they have one, they have more. And you don't need that. No one deserves that so be the smart one and be ONLY friends with him. I had a situation like this once...where the guy still wanted to mess around but I couldn't do it because I still liked him A LOT....so I teased him. A LOT. Lol....and he wanted to be with only me and I told him no. I just wanted to be friends. Not saying that was a very mature way to handle the matter, and I'm not saying that you should do the same, but I just wanted to throw it out there. Lol.

    Just stay away from any guy or girl for that matter that wants to be friends with benifits because I can almost guarentee that there are more "friends".

  • Darien
    18 years ago

    no probs..

    I know it probably drives you crazy, but you can't have the best of both worlds. You'll eventually get over it. Trust me, stuff happens, and it fades with time.

  • piglet911
    18 years ago

    omg i went out wiht a guy fro about 3 weeks and he dumps me and says he just wants to be friends with benefits it pisses me off.and i hate sharing especially guys!!!!! but if i were you i would stay his friend hang out after school and maybe you guys will get closer and hell realize how stupid he was for doin that or do the guilt trip game its mean but it works and he goes crazy.

  • Darien
    18 years ago

    right.

    Any guy who wants something like that, is definitely not worth it. Just be his friend, don't even bother playing that game. He needs to realize it on his own, don't force it out of him.

  • Darien
    18 years ago

    Well, when you become his friend, you will find out what he really wants. So that's why I said, be his friend and only his friend. Let him make a move, or just move on.

  • melly xx
    18 years ago

    you have to accept his choice and deal with it, i know i might sound mean but think about it, put yourself in his position
    if he's interested in being more than friends, then he'll tell you
    for now, find another crush...

  • Free Spirit
    18 years ago

    I'd say be friends and let him grow an attachment towards you. Be there for him help him out support him all those little things a girl can/would do and maybe he'll come to think like... uh what's going on, and that this should be a relationship since you'd be there for him and what not..... yet also just act as a friend so that he wants it more than that, cause friends with benefit is like i want you for makin out and a good chat but if feelings get too strong/close don't forget I warned you that we're ONLY friends with benefits, if you what I mean, play around with his head..... something like that, lol. Peace