&&IwishIWasntSuchAFailure. Please Help!

* LONG! SORRY! advice please!!*

ok so here's the thing.......
have a boyfriend
his dad lives in utah
he goes there in the summer
for june july and august
all of those damn months
so he says well i wanted to talk
to you about something,
and of course it was the famous
and oh so aggrivating and heartbreaking
"i think we should only be kinda together
during the summer"

how the hell can you only be kinda together?
he was like well i dont want either of us to feel bad if something happens but i really really like you seriously
and when i get back we will see how things are or whatever and hes like well i think that it will make us so much stronger and maybe we might want each other EVEN more than we do now

i dont think he has any clue how much i
actually like him..and i have liked him
forever, this is just my luck, finally
being with him and then he's gone for 3 months
and im totally insecure as you can tell
so i dont see why HE would like someone like ME
UGH.

so tell me if this is good, bad, terrible, true, anything!
am i over reacting by being mad?

Get rid of him. Anyone who says "I don't want us to feel bad if something happens over the summer" is planning to cheat on you. Trust me.

he's gonna hurt u in the end... honey find someone closer, someone who wont say something that only makes u feel more bitter inside, trust me. i have gone through that sorta shii and am still goin through i just wish i had the strength to do that before a long time ago, but now im stronger cause i went through it and will be able to get rid of him... but now he's attached to me, while loving someone else and not even me, through the long distance he found someone else who lives 40 mins away from me and now he only wants her not me.. so i wasted my time keeping in touch with him, and in the end it didnt even matter... so yea seriously find someone else, u can do it cause its not too late, he basically lied to me and made me believe a whole bunch of bull.... so yea, bout guys dont trust them... they one way or another end up leaving u hurt. its up to u though... just take my advice.

sweetie, hes basically telling you that hes gonna cheat on you. if he really does like you, he wouldnt let 3 months get in the way of that. hes obviously not ready for a stable relationship.
i know what its like to be insecure and vulnerable to guys. ive been there many times. but you need to be strong, show him it doesnt bother you. show him you are worth more..because you are.
keep me posted
xox

thanks SO MUCH for all the advice,
that is what i was thinking,

if he really did like me then he wouldnt even have to think about the possibility that he might cheat.

and then i was like well fine because we are going on this church trip to texas and i'll just find someone else while we are there! but that isnt me! lol i HATE when people cheat on other people it pisses me off beyond belief
and my parents are divorced because my "father" was cheating for 3 years or something so yeah

ugh. i knew this was gonna happen
i hate when you like people so much they are your
world and you're just something they can show off.

he doesnt know it bugs me,
thats why im freaking out on here.
haha.

if i guy breaks up with you during breaks that is sayin that he wants to be able to see other people when he isnt with you and to me that says that he doesnt really care for you so i would leave him all together

Even though it will be hard you have to find someone new but if you are like me you wont listen to what other say becasue you are too much in love. I always have to find out things for myself. Thats the only way you learn.

Ok if he told you that he wanted to break up for the summer because he didnt want either of you to feel bad about what happens while he's away...that means that he wants to date around, and if you don't let him go then he's going to do it anyway.

I'm in a long distance relationship and have been for almost year. It's been about 9 months so far. It's hard as hell and jealousy gets the best of us sometimes. But....we are coming out stronger then ever and I love that.

But see the difference is that when I said that I was moving...he said that he was going to move too....that he was coming after me. He didn't say that he wanted to break up. He didnt say that he wanted to go on a break. So in your case...I'm thinking you need to let him go and find someone that will really care about you because this guy....doesn't.

he didnt really say a break he just said he wanted to be "open" about stuff.
well wth i dont even know whats going on anymore

Ehm..If he only wants to "Sorta Kinda Be Together" And he told you that cause he is leaving. Even though he said he doesn't want either of you getting hurt..

Is him basically tell you he knows he is going to do something over the summer that will hurt you..if my boyfriend did that I'd be really hurt and probabely leave him knowing if he said that, that I can't trust him what so ever..

yeah..

ugggghhhhhh! haha

thanks for the help everyone! much appreciated!

yeah you just gotta say something about every thing right?

I with the 'get rid of him group'. Sounds to me that he wants to keep his options open whilst he's away, and be saying your 'kinda together' means you're still hear when he gets back.

He's a loser. Drop him.

ok so im thinking of saying

"if we can't be fully together then maybe we shouldnt be together at all"

is that stupid? or what? i dont know god i like him so much and now this has to come along.

You should say that girl
the full 100%, or nothing..

He obviously doesnt really love you like you love him. Cuz if he did, three months wouldnt matter. Atleast it shouldnt.

^^^
THANK YOU! lol
thats what i told him
and hes like well yeah
but i think it will make us stronger
i was like ________ you
im sick of hearing all
of your excuses!!

^ good for you girl, he sounds like a real loser

thanks for the help everyone!!
and we are broken up now

i'm really sick of dealing with fake,
lying, stupid manwhores!

hahahaha