im so confused... its long but plz its important..

my ex and i r best friends yet he says he loves me and he loves this other girl too, sometimes he says he wants her very strongly yet he feels strongly for me and cares for me. he's very far from me but we hope to meet and keep in touch though he wants to meet that girl too who he only talked to online and the phone, and says if he meets her that she'll be it, though through this whole time he talks bout "us" and how it could go further... but just recently he said that if he meets her that he doesn't want anyone else... not me as his girl anymore... or as his first choice like he used to say... he has been messin around with my head right? and when i said i dont think we should talk anymore he said that we should still remain as good friends, and find another guy... and that i should be there for him if things dont go right with that other girl he'd tell me his problems.... but i love him so much and knowing that he's with someone else...i cant explain... should i continue being a friend and not give up on my love cuz he never met her and if he does and she rejects him then..... u know or should i leave him for ever and let him know who he lost, cause i had so much to offer i would be the girl he'd never want to leave... ive been there for him in every way and situation i was a true friend and a lover... but he messed around and broke my heart so many times... idk... what do u think i should do, its so confusing and heart breaking... its been 2 yrs ive been keeping in touch but just the other day he said he only wants her and me as just a friend..... guys r serious jerks... so yea...

okay first of all, i dont think you can possible be in love with two people. and if he has never met her its kinda hard to know the real her. i understand that its hard to let go of someone that you think you love. i dont know you so maybe you are in love maybe its just lust, but either way, how can you allow yourself to be hurt and used. your so much better then that. he cant just drop you when something else comes along and pick you up when he needs to. its not fair on you to be chasing a guy that wont chase you. you said hes broken your heart so many times....so why let him do it again....find someone else who will put it back together.
hope this helps
good luck, keep me posted..

ur right i dont need all that shii, and sice ive taken so much of the bull shii i know im stronger and i have realized that he aint worth a spit. we used to go out until he moved like really far and so decided to be friends and i still was in love with him it was very weird and complicated story and yea that girl popped in outta no where and thats when things went bad like for me... and he says he loves me and her but its weird cuz now he says he wants her more than me.. and ive scaraficed so much been there as a good friend... and he sends me mixed signals that he wants me.. and what not. but thanx a lot keep posting it really does help, and yea i will this time find someone who is worth it... = )

ok there are two different loves....
honest there is...some ppl might not agree with me but there is.. he might still love u but he is IN love with her! u can love someone but u gotta be IN LOVE with someone.. its strange but i still see me ex about like all time we dont spk but he lk n tht! um n i still feel the ach i felt wen he hurt me... um but its bn 11months now n i finally found a nice bloke i think.. its early days tho but im just gonna see what happens..

but if he sends u mixed signals thts blokes for u when they dont want someone they feel for they dont want anyone else to have u even tho they are with another!!! i were in the same situation with me ex but he used to wk with me n it werent good... but now u no he still tels me mates that he misses me n he was an idiot the do what he did n he has lost someone great!!! n yeah before i wood have melted in his arms but now i like i can do beta than u n u no wot i can n i think ive found someone great!!
so it might take awhile for u to find someone who deserves u but hang in there as ull prob come across some right idiot men but there will be one gd bloke waiting in cue....

but what really has helped me to totally n utterly be overme ex is tht this one day he really upset me.... n my mate texted him off my mobile saying leave me alone blah blah n u no wot he dont contact me no more so maybe cut all ties if u cant n wont handle having him as jus a mate if eh is gonna mess ya head up etc..

but take care

Hun my last boyfriend said he loved my but messed around like all the time on me. He ovesley did not love me. Belive me you will know when a guy loves you because he will never ever think about cheating and he will do nothing but do do do for you and take care of you and all of your needs.

You don't need this guy!! Why do you want to be second best?? You don't deserve to be! Say ta ta to him

Yea it's always hard to do the right thing... like leaving him and what not, I've tried so much God but I end up talking back to him... it's like I can stop talking to him but something always pulls me back in talking to him. The other day he was like if he was making a mistake loving that other girl and blah blah... Seriously reading all these comments makes me want to not to talk to him but when I'm all alone or something or online and I see him online, I just HAVE to talk to him... it's like an addiction.... what can I say I sound pathetic but I need to stop and I will end this hopefully...