i'm stuck...help anyone (:

I think you sould do what you said. Tell them both how you feel. Sometimes these things happen.
By hanging out with the boy, you don't mean dating hanging out, right?

I don't like the fact that your boyfriend is controlling. If you want to hang out with other guys, you should do.

Anyway.. what in the world is the point in telling this new guy and your boyfriend how you feel. Isn't that going to cause more trouble than it's worth - especially as you're not sure what your feelings are. This is one of those incidents where I think being honest is the wrong way to go.

Before you ruin a good relationship, think about how you feel about this guy. Are you physically attracted to him? How about sexually? If the answer is yes to those two questions, then it seems you do have a crush on him (although physical attraction is a difficult call on it's own. It's possible to find many people attractive without having feelings for them).

If it's just an intellectual connection, or even spirital, if could just be friendship. You need to see if the body and mind are linked in this one before making a decision.

Next, consider your boyfriend. Is there something wrong in your relationship that's making you feel strongly towards another person? Take a long look at your relationship and see if there is a problem there before delcaring something you're not even sure of. Do you prefer this new guy on the whole? Or is your boyfriend still the one that means the most to you? Do you love your boyfriend, or are you in love with him still? It's important to tell the different. You may care for him a lot, and indeed love him, but if he doesn't make your heart miss a beat (so to put it), then you may not be in love with him any longer.

I know I've given you a lot to think about, but these are important factors you should look into before making a decision like this. Thing long and hard, and be sure before you throw a relationship away in search of another.x

if your boyfriend is controlling like that then i think you should dump him and go for the new boy

FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

"P.S.
my b/f is sometimes very controlling, and he told me that i cannot hang out with boys....
so i also feel very guilty for hanging out with the other boy. ):"

That means he thinks you're untrustworthy. ;\

Wow i was amazed to read your story...almost EXACTLY the same thing happened to me. Id been going out with my boyf for about the same length of time and i started getting really close to this other guy in school. My boyfriend was at university so i only saw him at weekends...nd he was ALSO controlling but i loved him.

It was all purely friendship with this other guy, but i got on WELL better with him than with my boyfriend, but i didnt want to break up with him after over a year when he hadnt done anything wrong and he loved me so much.

THEN the new guy told me he loved me and we had a little kiss (no tongues) lol, i told my boyfriend and he was kinda annoyed but he still wanted to go out with me so we did...

Eventually i drifted apart from this other guy but i always regret not giving him a chance coz i think we wouldve been really good together. Me and my boyfriend broke up in the end because he got TOO controlling and didnt like me going out with friends or anything...but im with another guy now and im so happy and the friend from school is totally in the past.

My point is, you could stay with your boyfriend and it COULD work out fine...but yo have to seriously think about who you get on better with, because in the long term it will matter more...and yo dont need a controlling boyfriend because it gets way stressful in time lol

Hope ive been a help xx