What do I do without him?! I'm so lost! :'(

Basically yea, I was with this boy for 2 months.. and that is seriously my longest relationship ever... i've been out with like loads of other guys before him and none of them lasted cuz i just couldnt take any of them seriously, but then Matt came along.. And i fell in love straight away. He's 22 and im 16 and yea i was with him for 2 months loved him to bits and everything was going so good.. Until Tuesday. We had a argument about trust cuz he found out that a month ago i thought he was cheating on me and he got really stressed about me not trusting him, we had a huge argument.. And that night we were texting eachother about the whole thing, and I said to him that i only thought he was cheating on me a month ago.. and i trust him now but it was at the time i didnt. But he still said to me if there is no trust what is the point in us going out? Then he rung me and said we needed to talk and everything so yea I met up with him and he basically ended it with me just because of that.. And i havent stopped crying since. the only relationship i was serious about and it ended like this... Im so torn up!
Im really confused though, as the night he ended it he told me it was just a 'break' and we might get back together he just wants to see how it goes as mates 1st, and he told me he still loves me and he'll always be there for me and all that.. Then later i texted him saying 'if you have no intention of taking me back then can you at least let me no so i know where i stand' and he sent one back saying 'i just dont no what i want at the mo' but ive been asking him about that since then and hes just basically said to me he only wants to be mates. so it makes me think he only said it to make me feel better.
But apprently when he finished it with me he went straight up to his best mates house and told him he regretted finishing it with me.. And I've been told by other people he still talks about me and he's been really quiet and not himself since the split and on the night he finished it he told me he was crying about it.. It makes me think that if he's so bothered about it all why wont he take me back?! ive already told him i do trust him now it was just before that i didnt trust him. I'm so confused i wanna lte go but i cant, i spent all my time with him and now i feel so lost without him i dont no what to do with myself anymore all i want is to get him back but i dont no how or what to say anymore!!
someone please help me?
x

Right. Well firstly, STOP CRYING! It isn't the end of the world, however you might feel.

A break is generally for a couple how have been together for a long time (years, not months) to see if they still love each other. A break after only two months is NOT a good sign whatsoever. It could sincerly be that he needs time apart to think things through, etc, but I doubt it to be honest.

Secondly.. age.. now I know what you're think.. age isn't an issue, etc. It is though. When you're 20 and he's 26, it'll be different, but at the moment you're just finishing school (?), he's out in the real world. Things like this very rarely work out.

He probably does still talk about you. You were with him for a couple of months. Doesn't mean you two should get back together. If he broke up with you for such a stupid reason, then it'll only get worse in the future. He doesn't seem worth you time from my opinion.

Finally, my closing statement, as much as you'll hate to hear this, it really doesn't matter all that much. There are SO many other people out there. You know, when I broke up with my first 'lasting' boyfriend, I thought that was it.. since then I've met so many new people. I've liked many other people. You will too. There WILL be someone more closely matched to you, who won't break up with you for something ridiculous. Just give it a bit of time, because you really don't need him.x

Thanks, I know I will get over it, it will just take a bit of time but the thing is i dont want to get over him, i wanna be with him for ever and ever. we went through so much to be together, its a long story. basically the whole of my town didnt like the fact i was with him just because i got with him not long after he came out of a relationship with 1 of my friends and he got beaten up twice because of it.. i lost nearly all my friends over this because i thought he was worth it.. and i still do think he is worth it i just wish we were still together so i dont feel i have lost my friends over nothing?

someone please help me

anyone...?

The age difference is a little absurd, but it's not my place to say anything. If he won't take you back even after you told him you trust him, it's not worth it. The fact that you didn't trust him before obviously still hurts him. All you can really do is move on but if you havn't told him you still have feelings for him and miss him as much as you say, then you should. If he still doesn't take you back after you tell him all your feelings, then move on. There are so many other guys out there. Maybe one closer to your age would be a little better. Good luck.

get a new one!

i would get a new one but i aint interested in no one else, and yeah i have told him all my feelings bout missing him and everything, i dont get how people can say he aint worth it when i cant even be happy without him. i dont no... im just so confused and everything... yeah

KRRRRRRRRRISTEN!!! My smelly plum!! Love ya loads! I added ur new msn u smelly poonani haha love ya xxxxx

hy if u soo luv him dan try it next time..now's not da right time..so maybe nexttime..whe he's also lil cool down...but i'm sure soon u'll forget him..if u don wan him any more, but if u do dan wait a lil while let him n u cool down n maybe u can ducess da problem again!...

hope dis helps~

Ok first of all Im so sorry...

2nd of all i now exactly how you feel.. except i was 14, and he was 20 (I was mature)..Anyways it took me like a year to get over him.. and i finally did.. when i see him, i still think about the times we had but were still friends and life DOES move on.. and i cried for several months sometimes wallowing does help. it did for me.. no matter what everyone else says it does help hope this helps send me a private message if you ever wanna talk

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~!*Meaghen~!*

Taylor, get a life.
Yes it is WOW indeed, u obviously dont understand how i'm feeling so if u cant find nothing nice to say just dont say nothing at all okay. im going through a lot of s.h.i.t at the moment and i dont intend to take any more to just leave it out.

Meaghan, thanks, its nice to know someone that actually UNDERSTANDS how i feel! Unlike some inconsiderate people, look people... if u wanna give me grief just leave it out for a bit yea cuz as u may have noticed this aint exactly the best of times for it. But yea... thanks Meaghan.. that helped a bit and i dont feel so alone, i shall PM u if i ever need to speak to someone, thanks again!x

Right Taylor thanks a lot for your opinion you could be right i just had a proper s.h.i.t day yesterday and just couldnt take things the right way so yeah.

But yea i saw HIM today, he was acting the same with me as he did when we were going out, mucking about with me and it just felt really weird? dont get me wrong i loved it! being close to him again and seeing him and speaking to him properly for the first time since the split.. but i dunno it just confused me even more than i already am?x

I have a feeling he might still like me? cuz of the way he acts around me is still the same as what he was like when we were going out and he doesnt muck around with any of my friends like he does with me? but i just cant understand that if he does still like me, why he wont take me back cuz ive told him trust takes time and i trust him more than i did when i first met him and its a start. i have a feeling it might be because he might like someone else aswel?

"You're 15, and he's 22. You've been going out for two months and you can't live without him? Read my sentence above five times and start thinking."

I couldn't have said it better myself!! Taylor that was awesome!

See Miss Emma...you're 16 years old in school...gossiping...riding bikes...having sleep overs with your girl friends and this MAN is working on a career...working to OWN things and doing other things that ADULTS do. You two live two totally different lives. MEN date LITTLE GIRLS for pure enjoyment...they get what they want and then they leave. Two months only and now you can't live? Hmmmmmmm....seems as though you were far more serious than he was. Let it go. Patience is a virtue...you don't need any ties to a grown man...you're too young.

I know for a fact what we had was more than him 'getting what he wants and then leaving' maybe u are right about me being more serious than what he was but he's used girls for 'getting what he wants' and he treats them like absolute dirt i know because i've seen it! but he was not like that with me at all..

hey yea well you don't know me and whatever but I was just reading your problem and I know how you feel..being in love is the best feeling in the world, but hes obviously not the guy for you... and if he is you guys will be together in the end... and guys don't change for girls and honestly if hes used girls before chances are he was planning on using you...and why he broke up with you was absoultely stupid..he was just being a guy and can't commit to you so he used that as his reason to break up with you making you feel like it was all your fault...and it wasn't...trust takes a while to develop and if he couldn't understand that then ____him...you'll find the perfect guy and then your gonna be happy that you have him..Just wake up in the morning smile and go and be happy...I promise you'll find the right guy

Hey Amber thanks a lot for that it was real nice of u to say I feel bit better now i've read that from u it was really comforting. Even though he's all I want at the mo, I've come to realise that if he doesnt want me back then there is absolutely nothing I can do, I'm just really glad and greatful that he's still willing to be mates with me still. Cuz not many boys are willing to make that effort and stuff and yeah. He was so sweet.. He kept asking if we could stay mates and he said he'll still be there for me all the time no matter what.. But hey, Guess I just gotta keep moving forward, not look back and move on! I'm giving up on looking for realtionships as from now on though cuz it aint worth the hassle, I'm gonna stay single free and just have fun! :) thanks people xxx

If you know for a fact that he used other girls what makes you think that you were any different?

LMAO @ Taylor! HAHAHAHA

Look here little one...what do you think a grown MAN wants from a little girl like you? Your love and appreciation? LMAO He wants your GOODS! He wants to have sex with...you're his little toy until he finds a new one. But you know best so BEG for him to come back and use you some more.

AND for the record emma you said it yourself in another thread...

"I've always gone for guys that are older than me, and most of the time it doesnt work out..."

READ IT AND WEEP!!! Like I said...they'll stick around JUST UNTIL YOU PUT OUT. When you give it up the game is over...he has won.

Emma, you are still a child. An adult doesn't want a child. go for guys your own age! It will last longer.
Two months and you're blubbering everywhere? Jeez that's kinda sad. You love him, in just two months and you are totally besotted. Aw poor baby. Deal with it.

"Taylor was that a threat or just u being pathetic?"

Is TAYLOR being pathetic? Uh huh. She isn't "in love" with somebody 6 years older than her after two months.

Anyhow, this is another case of asking for an opinion and not getting the answer you wanted. You can choose to listen to or not listen to what everyone has been saying, it doesn't matter to me. This relationship, your life, everything, it is all your responsibility. Make your own decision on it.

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Exactly.

.... i think we've all been through a break up were it hurts like ****but hey if its meant to be i guess it'll happen right ..... we just gotta learn to keep on smiling even if you think nothing will get better cuz im telling you now theres always something to smile about

Im telling you to stay strong ok ... i know how your feeling but hey theres something you always have to smile about ... yes it hurts like hell and it feels like you'll never love again but dont worry in time some else will come around and love you more ..... if you ever need to tlak about anything .....

From Jen

Cheers Jen its nice to know not everyone in the world is so inconsiderate.

Its not about how long i've been with him, its about how i feel about him. just because u think there is no way u can fall for someone so bad in just 2 months it doesnt mean it cant happen to other people.

Hmmm yeah alright, how was I even insulting her anyway? Telling her to shut her trap isnt an insult? Not that I know of anyway..

emma, what do you want, advice and opinions or sympathy? Because if you just wanted sympathy, then you should have said so, and I'm sure most people wouldn't have posted. If you wanted opinions and advice, then you're going to have to deal with the opinions you dislike as much as the advice you agree with. That's part of the whole asking-for-help thing.

It's obvious that Emma never REALLY wanted any advice so we may as well just leave this thread alone. She'll wake up and smell the coffee one day.

emma, you love him, fair enough, you miss him, fair enough, you want him back, fair enough but do you have to talk about in loadza different threads, youve made your point and people are trying to give you advice but you seem to be taking it all the wrong way, you asked for advice and people are just telling you how it is, your still young you need to live a little, omg am you his stalker. seriously though you need to get over it before you start sounding to desperate