The Pain Is Too Much....

I just got married 3 1/2 months ago and haven't seen my husband since the last day of our honeymoon. He had to leave because the military wanted him at his station right after our honeymoon. Im supposed to be going over there as soon as everything gets ready for me but its taking so damn long and I miss him so much. i hurt inside with wanting him and of the love i feel for him. Everyday he is on my mind and my heart aches because i cannot be with him. I especially hate the waiting....The only way i truly feel happy is when im with him and even though i feel happy, its not the same you know? its like im pretending and putting on a facade for everyone so that they won't see what im feeling, that im not truly happy.

Help me.

Good ol' Sluvious is right. I have a long distance relationship myself, and it's been a year and a half now waiting for us to be together. Believe me, I know it sounds rediculous and hopeless; but I'm still gonna wait no matter how much it hurts. The only thing that helps any kind of emotional pain such as this is distraction. Keep yourself busy. See friends. It might not bring you right back up there, but it'll help for a few seconds. It's worth a try. Good luck to you and best wishes. Keep well. -Stefhy

My father is a military man so I have grown up watching my mother go though what you are now for many many years. Fact of the matter is, you knew this was the life you would lead when you married him, you knew with his line of work you would be spending alot of time alone and you knew at times his prescence would be physically distant. I realise this doesn't make your feelings any less or the situation any easier for you. I feel sorry for you like I did my mum, always left on her own to raise us kids, Dad always a phone call away but never there to wipe her tears when we were horrible lil rats giving her grief...
Its easy to say "Keep yourself busy and get a hobby" but they are much easier said than done, especially when your slowly sinking into a lonely and depressed state. However I do think they are beneficial ideas for you take on, being a member of the PNQ family is a great way to start. Many people here who are willing to listen and offer advice when you need it, plenty of clubs and competitions to keep you busy on those lonely nights alone at home and more importantly plenty of people who are lonley like yourself and in need of friendship and advice...its amazing what helping someone else can do to yourself esteem...I hope things get better for you the interim...let us know how your going :o)
Eirisa