okay.... can somebody please give me a little advice??

okay recently i liked this guy who only wanted to be friends with benefits and i told him to bug off and yesterday i recived this letter in my locker from a secret admirer.... he told me that he wanted to be with me and today he revealed himself to me the problem is that he is one of my really good friends, and i feel that i cant date him how do i let him down know that without hurting his feelings??

If you can't date him, tell him. How else is he suppose to know?.. amber.. you need to figure things out on your own, instead of constantly asking people. I see you giving other people advice, why don't you think of a solution for yourself. And like I said, if you can't figure it out, then you can come and ask us for help.

Well there is really no way to let someone down with out hurting their feelings belive me. I have been in both situations to where i have been let down and i had to let someone down. All i can say is let that person know that you care for them and all and thats the best you can do. If you need to talk just send me a private message.
Nichole

^ I agree you can't turn him down without hurting him, but you can find ways to tell him without hurting him too much. All you can really do is tell him how you feel and that you care about him a lot but just as friends and you want it to stay that way. To what Darien said:

amber.. you need to figure things out on your own, instead of constantly asking people. I see you giving other people advice, why don't you think of a solution for yourself.

^Sometimes people can help other people out and give them advice, but when it comes to personal issues, it's more complex. I need advice with my problems even though i give other people advice with theirs. It depends on the person. Sometimes the situations we get ourselves into confuse us, but seem pathetic to other people. Love and relationships tend to mess with our minds. Wow..i'm typing a littlt too much. Ha..okay i'm going to stop now.