Obsessing the negative

Life is beautiful- sure theres anger and hurt and pain. But beyond that theres happiness, and laughter and love, and peace and kindness. Stop obsessing the negative. I only realized this yesterday, if I had known earlier. Most of us who post on sadness and depresssion- we are teenagers, who haven't experienced much- yeah we probably had our fair share of heartache, but we still "have breast milk under our tongue" we haven't really experienced life enough to be condemning so harshly. You're born and you die, and in the time that passes in between death- you have alot to deal with. You can't plan suicide because you got an argument with your parents, or a fight with your boyfriend. Suicide isn't the way out, because regret and guilt will be buried with your soul, and that's not good. Smile because the sun rose, and marked a new day, Smile because you had somewhere to sleep, Smile because you have food, Stop obsessing about the negative, and the bad, embrace the positive, I only realized this yesterday, and maybe someone will read this and realize that it's not the end of the world, and that everyone has problems and alot of people have it worse than you.

Amen to that.

Sorry, the required height for preaching must be larger than Jim Jones ego.

um... wax.... i wasn't preaching- i was simply stating the truth and if that is what you consider preaching... perhaps that is the route of all your "problems"... don't ever go there with me you won't win sweet heart
xoxoxo

Hm. I guess your right. I obsess over the negative alot without even thinking about what I'm doing, but I recently broke out of the habit.

Though, I think that is YOUR opinion, not a fact. You don't know what alot of teenagers have gone through. I bet a lot have gone through more things than they should have... so I don't really think you understand when some people think of the negative, their whole life is the negative.

Its true. Suicide is not really worth it.

Though... some people aren't happy when the sun rises. It marks a new day, and what if that new day they know its going to bring pain?

I think some of your message was true, and it should be sent to certain people. But you need to think of the other half... the other half of people who regret they live each day because it only gets worse.

Remember, some people have controll over life... but SOME don't.

I don't think anyone has control of life, just their actions and reactions. We don't pick the scenario and heartbreak. But I know plenty of teenagers who have gone through hell- and they still find a reason to smile, and laugh, and love. I've been through fair share, maybe one day I'll be brave enough to post the poems about my childhood and what I've gone through, and how it haunts me. But complaining about life, really stops you from living, and enjoying life. We all go through it, some worse than others, but no one has lived the perfect happy life, and thats what some people have to remember, they think they are the only ones, struggling and hurting, and that the world is against them, I know personally I once thought like that, and the rainbow on the other side doesn't exist, "just suck it up" and live and love, and be happy, it's quite easy. Honestly bad things are suppose to make stronger, if it didn't kill you, you should look back on it and keep it off that petistol, stop worshiping pain and rejoice in happiness. I'm not preaching, I've just grown up.

And it makes it alot easier to stereo-type teenagers- for society to cast us all as weak infantile disasters- who cannot cope with life so we find escape routes- by hurting ourselves, or other people.

Yeah I didn't realize Wax was kidding till after I posted... much later.. and I felt it pointless to go back... because at that moment it is what I though... but yeah what can I say I'm rash I'm a "typical teenager" no I'm kidding... but Wax should say j/k or some indication to let us know "hey I'm joking"

I get what your saying.

Its just sometimes, being through a stage where NOTHING seemed to be going right, I found it hard to just smile and think of the good things because all the good things that happened to me didn't matter, only the bad things overcame them. So, I guess its how you look at it. I look at both sides.

One side, someone can easily put something in the past. I mean, just something little happening, who cares? It shouldn't bother you. Just go along.

But the other side is when too many things happen at once and your overwhelmed... and you do obsess over the negative cause thats all thats happening right now.

I think teenagers need to learn this at an early point before they get overwhelmed, you know? Because if they learn not to take things TOO seriously, and let things go, then their wouldn't be half the depression there is right now. I mean if alot of teenagers learned that a breakup isn't a big deal, they wouldn't be so heartbroken for months afterward... they'd move on.

Its really getting sad how so many teenagers are depressed and obsess over the negative. I just wish it would stop. But I do not really blame the teenagers for feeling that way... I kinda blame the society we are in.

Yeah- a month ago I was that teenager- the person I am hates the person I was- because that person was weak- and that person submitted to conformity- because self mutilization is becoming the norm amongst teenagers- we have so many pills and disorders- and this and that- and depression is real- and it is serious- but you have to help yourself- you can't continue to blame and point the finger because you are hurting yourself- there is no logic in that- this site is a poetry site so obviously you express yourself through poetry- and all that pain that is in you let it out that way- and if you were a cutter, a real cutter- and you finally look at yourself and what you alone have done to yourself- you will realize that it wasn't everyone else but it was you- you hate yourself not everyone around you- because you are inflicting pain upon yourself- I blame myself for the stupid things I did to me- but I don't blame myself for the things that led up to it- I should have sought help then and maybe it wouldn't have taken so long for me to be at this place I'm at now-it does sound like I'm preaching- but people claim to want help here- and that's the best help- invest in a little introspection- help yourself- love yourself- because no matter how much you claim to love your family and friends you can't truly love anyone until you love yourself- and i dont mean to sound like im preaching or an expert of anything- and maybe what works for me won't work for you- but I doubt it- Once you accept yourself and love yourself- it all follows- and depression becomes a thing of the past- obviously you will be sad on some days- but my god it's not a reason to jump off the building or slit your wrist

I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that.

Yeah. Thats the hardest part. Realizing what you are diagnoised with... or even realizing that its you who has to pull yourself out. I'm still going through depression... but i'm at the point where I know how to make myself better, how to carry myself the best way I can - and know how to get better. At times its hard, but it took me so long to get there. Sometimes I'd just sit there and wish something would happen... but alot of us need to realize that instead of waiting for things to change, why dont' we change them?

Yeah. I agree with you 100% I think preaching is fine. I just ease myself of some of the pain with poetry... but I consult with professionals about the real emotional stuff. I think too many people think that mere people off the internet can help them with their cutting or depression - in reality, they need theirself and a professional.

Wow, sharp words from Bianca.

and yeah, that was pure sarcasm. mostly because, you said some good points, and there was nothing to really add to it, but to go in a different direction. bitter perhaps about hearing 'wisdom beyond the years of the author.' like how a lot of the critics got about Dakota Fanning's narratives in Spielberg's mini-series "Taken." not a bad character, but after 22 episodes, became rather repetitive.

everytime I have to go in to long explanation of sarcastic comments, I feel like Larry David