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  • Kara !
    18 years ago

    I wouldn't normally write about my love problems, but I'm getting a bit desperate and fed up now, so advice is needed.

    Well my problem is my reputation. When it comes to sexual relations, I've done more than any of my friends. You'll find so many people who've done much more, and a lot worse than me, but because of the group I hang around with, and being the one that has done the most, I come of looking quite bad from it all. So I calmed it down. Over the past year or so my love life has been very low key. The only people who know anything about my life since my 17th birthday are my two best friends (I've now 18, and have been since Sept, incase you were wondering).

    Just recently I made a new friend, we were getting on very well, and we got closer. He kissed me, which became this huge scandal, and a very vindictive girl decided to tell him all about the things I'd been doing before I did turn 17. He's barely spoken to me since.

    Yes, I know if he's going to avoid me because of things that happened a long time ago, then I probably shouldn't bother with him. But it doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. I really did like this guy, and I was very disappointed about it. And what's worse, is this isn't the first time it happened.
    I'm a little annoyed with myself for talking about this, but I suppose it's better to talk about it, right.

    I'm not sure what type of advice I really need. I can't change things that have happened. I can't hide them. And nobody will let me forget them. And although I've moved on, it's always coming back up again. What do you suggest I do? Is there actually an answer to this?

  • Darien
    18 years ago

    ^^ agreed.

    Free yourself from your chains of the past. (Don't let it drag you down) It's something you won't forget, and it's something you may regret. But mistakes are made, just learn from them, and you become a better person. Yes, you should move on. It was his choice, and you should respect it. I know I would have been the same way, the only difference is, I would have at least tried to stay friends. But like I said, it's his choice, and there is nothing you can do about it. I know it hurts, and it will, but like Sunny said, it's all about soul-searching. You will find someone, so just relax, and take it easy. Things will fall in place when they are ready.

    Take care,
    Darien

  • Kara !
    18 years ago

    Sorry. I've just reread the post. It came out worse than it was meant to. What I meant is all of my friends have had long time relationships, and just the one partner, whereas I've had a couple more. I'm not a nymphomaniac. And I should have always mentioned that the guy I was talking about has slept with more people than me. That's why it hurt that he did that.

    But really, thank you both for your advice. It means a lot to me.x