i dont know what to do!!!! Please

My boyfriend Chris lives in Oklahoma and i live in NY. We r both 16 and love each other deeply. The only thing is, is when he comes up here in July we r getting engaged. My mom knows but my dad does not. and he also does not know i am moving to Oklahoma this summer. But my mom knows. So i dont know what to do? should i stay in NY and not risk having drama or go to Oklahoma with my boyfriend and be happy? Please help!

yeah but he's really strict and i'm even lucky to be able to talk 2 chris. My dad hates him. But the rest of the family loves him? And do u think getting engaged at 16 is wrong or ok?

Ok you probably dont wanna hear this but i think you should stay in ny your only 16 and you guys are young not saying your not in love but stuff happens well i dont really know the whole situation
how long have you guys been going out? and do you have family in OK? bcuz what happens if something happens between you two and you break up or something where you gonna go?i mean your still young maybe you should let your relationship grow a little more maybe wait till your 18 to move .. well i dont know really no one can decide for you.

^^ agreed

i mean come on your sixteen and "deeply in love" stay in NY something like that is too rash at you age

^I agree with the above posts. Saying you're "deeply in love" at 16 and planing on being engaged is a little absurd. Especially if the guy lives in Oklahoma. Focus on school.

you know what i have the same problem as you same age also... this guy im in love with wants to marry me to or wants to get engaged also this summer .... and we live 4 hours apart and i want to move with him in toronto ..... so you know what if you truly love him do what your heart tells you .... not what other people are telling you ..... im glad your family is happy for you ..... and your dad will adjust to it ... hes a dad id expect him to be afraid of his daughter falling in love ... good luck keep me posted .....
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Ummmmmmmmmmm finish school and perhaps grow up a lil, experience a lil more life whether it be with your partner or on your own before you committ to something so big...kids these days.
i know you feel passionately but if its meant to be, it will still be that same feeling in another 10 yrs why feel the need to rush ahead of your time and grow up so quickly?

I'm done wit school. Plus my mom says i can thanx for your advice.

well im going through the same thing...kinda a lil diff. but im 15 n dont have a mom to run to. well i think u should talk to ur mom she knows ur dad better than all of us together thats y they r married so maybe shell tell him or tell u to wait to tell him and im sure u kinda of alredy talked to ur mom but keep talking to her and think about it are u really ready to get married,be a wife, a mom,and all the hard struggles dose he have a steady jobn ready to support u and kids get a house. then also think about like they said what if things dont work out is ur dad still gonna let u move back or r u gonna stay there on ur own if u wanna talk more katepanda@yahoo.com n rember its just advise but do the rite thing im sure u will.and im sure things will work out!!! i think u r really in love and if u r things will work themselfs out so either way the best will happen im sure good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I live 6 hours away from my man. We've been together for almost 2 years, and love eachother a lot. We get to see eachother about once a month and in Aug he is going to be moving here to Chicago with me. We just got engaged about a week ago. It sucks being a part, it hurts like hell and we want to get married next year. My mom knows but my dad doesn't...but that's because my man wants to ask my dad for permission first. My dad is really old fashion. Lol.

The only BIG difference with our situation...is the fact that we are 20 years old.

I think that you should stay in NY. Wait till you graduate from high school. If you guys are still together, THEN move. And stay in school. If you want to get engaged...get engaged. Don't NOT go to college though. Go to the same one if you want to. Just don't put that off. And wait till you are out to get married.

Anything else I think is a bad idea and I personaly do NOT think that what you are doing is a good idea. You are ONLY 16. That is just my own thoughts though.