I Haven't said to g/f "I'm in love with you"

It seems, in general, guys don't love and only lust...and girls love everyone they come by.

I haven't told my girlfriend that I'm in love with her and I've been with her for a little over 2 months. I'm only 15 and she's 17 + soon to be 18 in 5 days...and she gets angry from time to time that I don't tell her. I thought it would be a good thing not saying unless I'm certain, or at least till I feel my heart is with her, and only her but it seems to be a problem. I hear all the time about how a guy lies about loving a girl or w/e...but maybe it's because he's so dang pressured into saying so. And, of course, girls love whoever that smiles at them and falls "in love" with every person she's been with supposedly. I said that I loved a g/f of mine b4 when I was younger, and when I look back I really wasn't and nor was she...it was just the pressures of a relationship. Another girl I told it to I feel I really did love...but I let her go after so long for she did not know herself. I do not want to mislead my current g/f by telling her something as "I'm in love with you" which I feel is a delicate phrase. (tho used so easily now)

I'm probably drivin' her crazy cuz I'm not saying and possibly never took so long. She may even leave but just because I don't say? Is there a way I can get her to understand? or am I the one thinking wrong here?
lol, and I wonder what contemplatations she's making on why I'm not saying those exact words though I've already told her how much she means to me and special she is...just not that phrase.

sooo....any takers?

Well, first of all, not all girls fall in love with the first guy that comes along. Anyways, back to your question. If you are not ready to tell her you love her, don't do it. Don't let her pressure you into it, then you would be lying to her as well as yourself. Just talk to her about your situation. Tell her how you feel about her. If you care about her and you want to be with her, let her know, and tell her that you are not ready to say those words, but you do care about her. If she really cares about you, and "loves you" she will give you the time you need to make the decision about how you feel about her. WOW kinda seems like sex advice. lol. weird. anyways I really hope I helped you, even a littlebit. Take Care.

*Ashley*

I think so... lol, it did kinda sound like sex advise but it's all good.

right now I gotta let it sink in before I can respond with my concerns.

uhm, i was making a generalization with girls though. I didn't mean to bash girls and blindly defend guys...on the contrary I'm a girl also, so that wouldn't work as well.

Sooooo....you're 15.....and your girlfriend is going to be 18...and she's mad because you wont tell her that you love her? Well to me it sounds like she really is just one of those girls that throws it around. Which...a lot of girls do...but not all. So don't say that.

I'm not trying to say that she can't love you...she might...but ya know...if she's going to be 18....the legal age to get into a lot of clubs, smoke, vote, all that stuff....and you're only 15...not even old enough to drive by yourself yet....that just sounds weird to me. I'm sorry.

an 18 year old looking for love from a 15 year old... isn't normally the other way around...

what do you mean by that? ("...it sounds like she really is just one of those girls that throws it around.")

Until I know exactly what you meant by the previous statement I can't reply properly to the rest stated...but I'm not asking her to love me.

It would generally be the other way around, I guess I'm an acception? anyway..

As for now I'm considering going with the 1st person that replied...since that's the only person seeming to help and not state the obvious and seemingly promote...breaking up with her?

I don't know, I may have misunderstood but I'm tired. I'm gonna hit the hay. Goodnight peoples. :)

*just out of curiousity...what's the longest period that you (anyone who reads this) didn't tell someone you were/are dating that you love them? ...and when you said so, meant it as far as you thought.

welll lets see...i've told some people that i loved them..but that was way back when i really didnt understand it. and now tha ti look back i do feel bad for saying i loved them when i knew i didnt. me and this guy were an item for a little while a few months ago and we didnt tell eachother we loved eachother for a month and then we jsut kinda started it. but now we really mean it. and we cant get enough of eachother. but we are torn apart by our friends. hes not my boyfriened..yet..it gets tough when your not sure if you love tha tperosn..because you know if they love you back your hurting htem alot. Trust me..we broke up about a week ago..and like he still loves me..and idk its just really confusing and hard. Love is a crazy thing..its a crazy word to even start with. It pretty much just messes around with your head untill it fits.I know it fits and i love him to death!! ..anyways..i think you should be able to tell if you love her..by the way she looks at you and touches you..and just all these things that fit. Good luck..*KELSEY

Kelsey, even though you didn't tell me like cold steps of what to do, you're shared warm experience has me understand more now. Thank you bunches.

p.s. what I am doing...is telling her how I feel about it, that way we are at least on the same page...hopefully once I tell her she'll understand. If not...well, we'll see. Then since the pressure is kinda off a bit I'll be able to express my feelings towards her without outside influence. Heck, I'll just go with what feels right and my heart.

hmm...otay.

oky first of all im dying to say that there is NOTHING wrong w you being 15 and her 18 i was 14 and 17 in-a-half but whatever. i think that if u just tell her y u wont /cant say it im sure shell understand my b/f was the same way i told i had to make sure that i really loved him b4 i just went off saying something n didnt mean it n he understud so if a guy(no offinse to any of u guys reading this )can understand i should hope that ur gf will understand
n im sure she wont b/c u tell her how special n how much she means to u so just talk to her. im sure u will do fine good luck
- kate-

What I meant by that was that a lot of girls will just tell anyone and everything that they love them. And from the sounds of it....she sounds like one of those girls. Just because I couldn't imagine being "in love" with one of my brothers friends. That's just me though.

And also...maybe she's not really IN love with you. Have her explain HER feelings to you before you say anything...because maybe you are just misunderstanding. MAYBE.

And also...just because you go out with someone...doesn't mean that you have to love them. NOT AT ALL. I went out with a couple of guys that I knew was just for fun...because it was nice haveing that person to lean on. But I never told them that I loved them. Then my ex told me baout 7 months into the relationship that he loved me, I said it back because I thought I did, but then we relized that that was way to strong and we broke up but we are best best friends now. And I'm engaged to another man.

So...talk to her. Get her feelings, put your feelings out there...and just see where things leave you after that.