Thinking back ???

My friend and I have been both thinking back to October 17th 2005 that is when we lost our two best friends in a car accident and on of our other friends was in a coma for three days. Then a month later the driver of the car was in a house fire and was killed. We both haven't been the same we don't want to hang with our normal friends like we use to. We both just want to hangout together just me and him. We both don't know why we want to be back to ourselves but we can't you have any advice on what we could go do?? We've went to the mall the park and movies and it won't get off our minds can you help ??

Amanda Renee

It wasn't even a year ago. You probably need more time to grieve.

I know where you are coming from. four years ago two of my friends died in a car accident. That was really hard on alot of people. the in march of this year, another one of my friends died in a car accident and two days before that my boyfriends friend died in a car accident. things like that take a long time to come to terms with. just take your time

*ashley*

I don't know what to do all we want to do is cry all the time and we cry for a few hours and when we talk we have our memories of each others but its not the same we don't have the laughter we did with them and it tears both of us up and I just want to cry is that something to do or not

Amanda Renee

Maybe letting out your tears is what you both need to do and support each other in the process of relieving your grief.
Just do your passed friends a favour and remember the happiness and laughter your friends had while they were hear and the joy and fun they brought into so many peoples lives, keep that memory of them alive as Im sure they would wish. They would hate to see you so down.

Yes, crying is good. Locking up all these feelings you are having over the loss of your friends is one of the worst things you can do. I say grieve as much as you need to, atleast you have somebody that you can lean on in a time like this. Eventually it will ease up, it just takes time.

I think that both of you guys need to go to grief counsiling. They will tell you what is healthy and what isn't. They will give you different ideas to try to get over the lose of a loved one.

I need to start seeing one for my brother. He died in January and he was my world. My everything. I love him with all my heart and it hurts to wake up everyday and not get a hug from him. I miss him a lot and I cry about it all the time. Sometimes I just get really depressed and don't want to see or talk to anyone even my fiancee. It's hard...but it's fresh...the first year is the hardest....it iwll be ok in the end.

Talk to someone who can REALLY help you.

We've even went to the grave sight and cried is that ok or not??? just curious and well we have spent the night together and grevied don't know if thats ok or not ??

Amanda Renee

Amanda do what you both need to do but as Sluvious already suggested I think if your obsessing and dwelling on this loss its best to see a grief counsellor...

well yea its not yet a year ago, so you need a little time to grieve... but if you try hanging out with friends it might help too