can he be my lover and my best friend at the same time?

Me and my best friend like each other ..but were not looking for a relationship but its like hes always there for me no matter wat ..we talk about everything but theres times when we tell each other how much we love each other we tell each other all these sweet things is there a possibility to have my best friend as a lover at the same time??

I think it's good to be good friends before you start to date, because then you guys know each other on a different, more casual level, not just romantically. I understand that going from best friends to boyfriend/girlfriend can be a really big step, but I can't really tell you what to do here. All I can say right now is to follow your heart. If it's meant to be, it'll happen sooner or later. If it's not meant to be, then it'll probubly just work itself out. Just be careful of each other's feelings.

That's all I felt I had to say, does anybody else have anything?

Sometimes it's difficult to take a good friendship and turn it into a relationship because of the effect it could have on the friendship. Friendships can lead into something more, but i think it's best to just stay friends. My friend and i have feelings for one another, and that is starting to get in the way of our friendship. Just be careful, friendships should be cherished.

My fiancee was one of my really good friends before we got together. After the first month, I wasn't really feeling the whole relationship thing...he had stronger feelings for me then I did, and so I broke up with. We tried hanging out after that and OMG...it was so hard and I hated it. I want to lay down with him, I want to hold his hand. It was hard. So I told him, and we got back together. I had a lot to work on because I hurt him, but we worked through it and now here we are almost 2 years later and we just got engaged about a week ago.

My advice to you is to take things slow. Don't do the friends with benifits thing because that always end up hurting someone in the end. If you guys have such strong feelings...why fight them? Just get together. It just puts a name on you guys but makes things less....strange.

If you don't want to worry about what will happen to the friendship...then don't do it. Take some time apart from eachother and try to make those feelings go away. If you don't want to fight them, then enjoy them!! You don't know what you might be pushing away right now.

most definitly there is! a lover should be a best friend shouldn't they? since you understand each other so well it should make your relationship stronger. i say keep it like it is and things will go right from there

Hes supposed to be your best friend.. your lucky =) go for it and i mean worst case.. if you guys have the basis of a friendship there and the relationship side doesnt work out then you can go back to best friends

Love can start out as friends.