ive realized something

i have noticed that a lot of ppl on here giving advice do not..i repeat..DO NOT..have an open mind..most of them are constantly calling someone a name because of their choices...which might i add,... DON'T help the situation at all...if u give advice you need to take into account how the other person may be feeling...they may not have a good life like u may have..they may not be as happy as you are...respect is a huge lack in these forums..its ridiculous that when someone leaves a comment and someone else doesn't like..arguments get started and the topic to begin with disappears..i suggest from now on..ya'll have an open mind..learn to respect everyone for their own opinion and ways of life...maybe we could get along eventually..thats all i have to say..dont like it?..deal with it..much luv

I think it's you who needs to learn the respect. You don't like the advice that others are giving and you and your fellow cutters start arguments because of it. YOU should respect the feelings and opinions of others. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions whether we agree or not we should all be allowed to voice them. I give "advice" and offer anything I can give in my own way...that should be enough...I shouldn't have to transform my way of being because you don't like it and you shouldn't for me. RESPECT is a two way street.

lmao..girl i aint no cutter..and im not depressed...see what i mean..stating my opinion..and u just jumped to conclusions

What a concept! LMAO

Im not talking about babying people neither..just choice of words here arent always the best ones...its just like when ur telling someone to grow up..thats not all they need to hear..and as for you natalie...your attitude is not necessary..i was NOT coming at you..so respect is something u obviously need to learn also..i was not hear to talk down to the people who call people names.. i am just saying...

i am taking ur responses into account...i was making a general statement..and it seems like because i say that ..you guys are making it seem like i would baby people..and not give them advice or not respect them...i am not like that..i was stating what i saw...and i said to deal with it because i knew there would be people who would try to argue with me about what i had said

Nina...I'm here because I care. I respect anyone who can talk about these issues in a civilized way. If someone wants to talk, I am open to talking to anyone and will do so respectfully. I am not willing to talk to someone like YOU.

You said people who give advice need to word things differently. But why? Why should we rearrange how we respond to spare the feelings of those who post things like "I CUT TOO DEEP!" I don't like that so I'm going to give a REAL response...my TRUE feelings.

ok anyways lol..this obviously was not how i had planned it working out..u can ur responses..thats fine with me..i didn't think anyone would need to blow up at me for saying something..im going now..lol bye

I'm not blowing up...I thought we were sharing our opinions. I wasn't arguing...but what ever...

no i didnt expect everyone to agree with me..i just didn't think it was necessary for an argument

Who was arguing? - I surely wasn't. DISCUSSION IS HEALTHY!

I can understand people being upset at being called pathetic, etc... but certain names apply, and I don't think that the truth of that should be understated. Calling some cutters 'attention seekers' is an honest statement... some people cut because they are yearning for help, whether they consciously realize it or not.

I think that a lot of people post topics in this forum for the underlying purpose of recieving sympathy and empathy. Arguments occur when they recieve information they don't like to hear, and start grasping for whatever nonimportant information they can come up with to cloud the fact that they should be accepting the advice instead of fighting it. If you post something, and don't want advice, I'd suggest adding a tag at the bottom saying:

"~*I don't want advice, just people to tell me that everything is going to be okay, or that I'm fine*~"

LMFAO

I agree with Sean. People don't like to hear what they don't want to hear.