I'm afraid to be alone...

I think I have a fear of being alone. I never really had boyfriends until about 8th grade, I always just had guy friends. But at the begginning of my 8th grade year I started dating this guy Mark. He and I ended up dating for 17 months. I really cared about him and he and I worked well together. The entire time we went out we never fought. But eventually I went off to highschool and he was stuck in middle school(he was 9 months younger.) We continued dating for a while until I realized I never got to see him and that I really wanted a boyfriend at school. At that time I began getting interested in another guy who I ended up leaving Mark for. I am not proud of this. Me and this guy dated for a year before I realized I had to end it. I could tell I wasn't happy for a while but I think the thought of me not having anyone scared me. I allowed myself to get emotionally abused because I enjoyed the "perks" of having a boyfriend. And now I don't have anyone and I am finding it hard to cope. If anyone has words of wisdom or advice...PLEASE help me.

I can understand a fear of being alone, romantically speaking, but I think that at this point you have a lot of options --socially-- and should take advantage of them. Don't worry about romance, get going on your normal social life. Make girlfriends, make nonromantic boyfriends.

I agree with ^^, u have a lot of options socially right now. i mean ur in ur high school years and u should be having fun. the fear of being alonse is something that i can understand because i have that fear too..but the being abused emotionally part is a big "no-no. i did that too, i let my ex abuse me emotionally and in the end i only ended up more hurt. some day that one special guy will come around it might just take a while. luckily i finally found my boyfriend and im sure in no time ull find the right boyfriend for u too...just give it time

How did you cope with the lonliness before you found your boyfriend?

Well I know that when I was inbetween girlfriends for two years I was a bit mopey, but I hung out with my friends a lot, and eventually got another girlfriend, seemingly out-of-the-blue, and she's someone I'm still dating, and have been for 2.5 years

Before i found my wonderful boyfriend...im very proud of him as u can tell...i just hung out with A LOT of friends, flirting was okay but i never got into a serious relationship after my emotional abusive relationship. Just make sure u go out and u have friends who will NO MATTER WHAT make u laugh! that's all u need!..and maybe some Cookie Dough Ice Cream!

I went thorugh a rough time in 7th grade because all my friends had b/fs and i was always turned down. It's been a few years and i am not going through it anymore. When you least expect it, someone special will come along. It takes time to find someone willing to stay with you. Recently, my longest was a month and a half. Now i have an amazing guy who is part of my life. We plan on waiting till next year to start dating because we don't want things to fall apart and i'm fine with that. Don't fear being alone because the fear will keep growing to the point where you won't even want to try anymore. Just be patient.