This may be long, but i need help.

Okay,
I went to the mall with my friends last weekend and there was this guy. I had met him once before, but i didn't really talk to him. I spent 8 hours there with him and three other people. He's a big flirt, so he was messing with me and the two other girls as well.

We went to see a movie and he grabbed this girl Amandas hand and mine as well. He took his hand off of hers and brought it over to mine and said, "your hand is cold, but i don't care", and started rubbing it. Half way through the movie i got up to go see something with my friend Michelle, and when i came back he was sitting in my seat. He pulled me on his lap and i sat there for the rest of the movie.

After Amanda had left we walked around the mall and he kept grabbing me around the waist and making me laugh by being an idiot. At the end of the day, he asked me why i wouldn't look into his eyes. All i said was, "because i can't", but the real reason was because i like my friend Chris and i didn't want to start liking anyone else. That's when he said, "what if i told you i like you too", and i just turned beat red and said, "i would say, good for you".

Before he was dropped off home, i told him that was the problem. He asked me if i was talking about him liking me, and i said "not you liking me..", and he said, "why is it a problem if you like me?", and i didn't answer. I gave him my number and we said goodbye.

My friend Chris found out what happened and he got pissed. He said he doesn't trust this guy and he got really jealous. I asked his permission to see other people, so he has time to figure out what he wants to do (i wanted to ask his permission). He said that he was honestly scared that if i was to date another guy, when he finally got the courage to ask me out (he told my best friend this by the way), that i would want stay with the other guy. I don't know what to do about this situation. I didn't think i would like another guy, but i do. I have NEVER felt comfortable having a guy grab me around the waist, or holding my hand, but for some reason, with Billy (the guy at the mall), i felt comfortable. My friends were shocked to find out i sat on his lap because i've never done that with any other guy.

I'm sorry to bother you with my problem, but i'm confused. Should i get involved with a guy who's a big flirt, or continue to wait until my friend is ready to be in a relationship?

i think you should get to know the other guy a little bit more cause all guys are sleeze bags and i find it funny that chris only had enough curage to ask you out when there was a threat....so yeah i think you should hang out with the other guy more...and maybe you will find out hes not worth it idk just dont get caught up in the teenage love game
good luck!

Wow. I think If I were you, I would probably get to know that guy at the mall a bit more. But then again, it would be a hard decision. Get to know the guy at the mall more, then decide from there which one treats YOU better, and which one YOU like better. I really hope it works out well for you.

yeah i deffinetly agree

My opinion is that if you plan on having a relationship with someone, you shouldn't go into it with half-hearted feelings.

Before you choose one or the other, you need more information about how you really feel about each guy. It isn't hard to get caught up in a moment with someone, and sometimes there can be a lot of chemistry. That doesn't always mean everything is going to be great in the long run. Sometimes it does.

Confusing? Definitely. That is why relationships can be difficult. That is why people break up.

What I'm trying to say is that when it comes to a choice like this, you really need to figure stuff out. This isn't a choice you should be making just yet. Learn more about mall-boy. Think more about your friend. As Sunflower said, this is about your happiness.

I personaly think that you were comfortable with Billy because he IS like you said...a big flirt. I mean...he grabbed your hand...and another girls hand. If I were you...I would just keep it friendly with you guys and go after Chris. I mean...he sounds like he really cares about you. Billy...sounds like he's...well...a teenage boy that just wants to get another notch in the belt!!

I also think that maybe you started to have these feelings for Billy because he did get you to do those little things that you've never been comfortable doing before. If they just poped up...I would ignore them and go for the guy that really cares about you.

Just my opinion though!!

You all are right. I think i got caught in the moment. I know one thing for sure. I have a connection with my friend Chris. We both sit and enjoy the sunset everynight. We both think a lot alike. ^I think what Satin said is right. Billy is a big flirt and he might just want something. He has lost his virginity, and that makes me nervous. I don't know if he would be able to take no for an answer, but there was chemistry...a lot of it. I guess i'm going to have to think things through. It's summer and i might not see Chris till next year..and Billy i will probably get to see a lot sooner.