What have I gone and done?

You think that the folly of love exists in youth. You're wrong.

My ex of 7 months who I cannot get over fully and contact her for any excuse - though she usually slams down the phone has found another guy. She says it's new.

I've been seen around with a girl who's only a friend - seriously, a friend, and she's found out.

The other night my ex strolls into the bar with her new bloke. This is the bar where friend works and I usually hang out on saturday nights. I wasn't there. My friend does'nt know my exes face. But apparantly she stayed a while - obviously hoping that I'd come in and be devastated - and I would have been.

Monday night I rang my ex and we slept together. She said things like: 'we've both made our points' and 'I want a baby'. We were like a brand new couple. However, she slept on it and now wants to mentally erase the whole episode. She's stating that we can't ever be together, that my jealousy ruined things in the past.

Question is: What the hell is she up to?? What the hell should I do? I can't mull this over in my own head because the memory of the situation is still white hot and so my answers are blurred by my thoughts and love for her.

Damn, that feels good to have written that and get it off my chest.

Hopefully getting it out helped you. I'd feel pretty dumb trying to give emotional advice to someone who's been around more than twice as long as I have.

Bascially she cheated on that other fellow with you. She probably felt really guilty and that's why she said you can't be together. Also, in the heated moments, you tend to say crazy things. You should probably know that. Yeah, you kind of need to move on my friend. This girl is a flip-flop, you don't want to put up with her.

Advice is advice is advice regardless of age or culture.

Then I have a question:

You've been out of the relationship for 7 months. How many of those months has she been dating other people? What about you? Has there been any other nights shared between the two of you after your breakup?

^^actually several questions...

Shes keeping you at an arms length so in case someone or something better doesnt come along, she knows you'll be there to pick up the messy pieces and make her feel better about herself. We can be evil and heartless bitches us women seriously I hope this doesnt sound to harsh but she is using you...Im sorry!

Sean:

The same thing happened around Easter time: same scenario - and then she blew hot and then blew freezing cold. This happened to such a degree that she refused to see or speak to me and cancelled the 'let's be friends' thing.

I guess I just need another perspective on this thing because I'm truly blinded and am living on hopes. I haven't been near another female only as friends - she got a whiff of this and now she's circulating in places where I go with her bloke. She said the other night that 'we've both made our point/s' and gave an indication there was something to work for. Now she's off track again.

Am I stupid or is there rewards for being persistant in the face of all adversity?

Ebutsina:

I know what you mean. I just can't see it that way as yet. I guess I need to sleep. I'm pretty f****d up at the minute - to say the least.

Darien:

What do you mean 'she's a flip-flop?'

^^

I mean she went on a date with a guy right? Then she goes to you and sleeps with you, then decides to not be with you. Doesn't it seem like she's confused? So that's basically what I meant.

Spoke to her today. She says it's him she wants and not me (ouch!).

ouch indeed. I'm sorry to hear about that Mel, seems like you might need to face up to the cruelties of this reality that she's hatched up for you.

I think you're right, Sean. I've gone into the spider's web, been sucked dry (no pun intended) and been spat out.

The female of the species, indeed, are far more deadlier than the male.

You are right about that my friend.
What a wicked web she weaved.