This Boy or That Boy.. HELP!!

I Have a Boyfriend, who i really love, But he's really forcefull on me when he wants to do stuff. I say no, but he doesnt listen until i have to say it in the angry voice. I met a guy a not long ago, i'm friends with him and he likes me, i like him too, he doesnt know i have a boyfriend either. he's really sweet and gentle around me. i havent cheated on my bf, but i'm seeing my guy friend on the weekend and i dont know what will happen, whether something might happen and i dont know what to do. I dont want to lose my boyfriend, but im really scared of him about if he would rape me and thats not right, he's at suicidal point too and really fragile at the moment. Can anyone help me???? :(

^I agree. Get away from him. If you really feel that he might try to take advantage of you and won't stop, get away. If you are scared of him, you don't love him.

You love your boyfriend who gets mad at you, but like another guy at the same time? You LOVE your boyfriend? No, no you don't.

Britt is right, get away from your boyfriend, and don't even bother trying anything with the other guy you like. Quit causing drama, wait a while before you start dating again.

^^How come every thread I come to..You're always above me?

Anywho, Everyone's right. If you think you like another guy aswell, You don't really LOVE your boyfriend. Speshly if you're afraid of him.

`Taleee. xx.

Hey I think i have another perspective...

this boys at suicidal point. What if she leaves him and he kills himself, not being able to handle the added grief to his already screwd up life?

If you dont love him, leave him, but not in an explosive way...end it really REALLY REALLY sweetly...or else you might ruin a foolish teens life. Im worried :(

oh so i read ur post again and u say u really do love him. well i will believe you.
you need to understand that there are some boys out there who tend to get desperate from time to time...if he REALLY FORCES you into stuff...if he is extreme... then he is dangerous. you shouldnt feel any such signs that all the time he looks at you with lust.

but if say, he is moderate...i think that much lust is in every boys nature...and he is just taht kind that shows it. U need to think, if it is extreme it is something to really think about, if not....you should give it some thought before you decide to leave him. I mean...i dont know...i just feel sorry for him and feel that he shouldnt be left...and he might ruin his life if he gets too emotional.

About that other boy in the picture...I think you should try to be only friends with him...cheating on people does BAD things. Maybe going about it the honest straightforward way would be better.

But again....if you feel he is going to rape you...or looks at u lustfully all the time....it IS SERIOUS. You must think about yourself first in that case.

You really need to calm down and assess the situation.

Hope that helped...Dhaval

Even if the boy is at a suicidal point, his mental health isn't something that he can hold her to at 'gunpoint'. He should get himself a therapist, she should get herself out of the relationship.

She should get herself out of the relationship.

^^ WHY?

reason #1

"But he's really forcefull on me when he wants to do stuff. I say no, but he doesnt listen until i have to say it in the angry voice."

reason #2

"I met a guy a not long ago, i'm friends with him and he likes me, i like him too, he doesnt know i have a boyfriend either."

Not fair to her, her boyfriend, or this guy that she is splitting her feelings while not being honest about them. Not fair to her that her boyfriend is being too forceful, and that she is afraid of being raped. Not fair to her that she has to stick around to deal with his mental health issues.

her, her, her! why not a little about that poor fellow? okay so he is a little insane about some stuff...and she also says she loves him and we must believe her....i still stick to what i had said earlier...he just seems too much the guy like me (NOT in the forceful stuff way...but he is in a fragile state now...and would HATE to be dumped) ashleigh shoud really think...she is the best judge of the situation. That other boy is sweet, but who knows how he truly is when maybe they start going around? I think she should try to figure out her boyfriend, his state of mind, and really think and then act, before making any hasty decisions. Ashleigh, please respond, do you love him?

his fragile state of mind isn't the point here. there is just one really big point:

she is physically afraid of him, and he doesn't always listen to her requests for him to stop.

that point, alone, is enough. whether she loves him or not is immaterial to the argument. what his mental state is irrelevant. that there is another guy, regardless of whether he is kind or mean, is unimportant.