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My boyfriend says he does not look at other girls and if i look at other guys he goes dead silent over the phone. he lives in Oklahoma. Ok so theres this guy up here that i kind of like. And he like me but i'm in love with my boy in Oklahoma and if i tell my boy he will like go crazy and wont talk to me. But the guy up here is my x-boyfriends best friend. So i don't think i should even be talking to him. I was already told by my x to leave the guy up here a lone or else. So i don't know i am really confused.

What are you confused about? If you love your boyfriend, then stop saying you like other guys. Don't fool around behind your boyfriend's back. If you can still get along with this other guy and manage to NOT fool around behind your BF's back, then go ahead. Otherwise, leave the guy alone.

see i don't fool around thats just wrong i have never cheated on a guy. If i don't like him i just don't date him or i break up with him. And i am confused because i think my bf is lying to me. he says he dosen't look at other girls or talk to them. Now come on. Do you think he's lying?

That depends on what you mean by 'looking' at other girls. Seeing a girl and thinking she is pretty, or beautiful, or whatever, is completely natural. Even if he is lying about THAT, that doesn't matter in the least.

If by 'looking' at girls you mean meeting girls just like you 'met' that guy where you live and start to talk to them and maybe start liking them... Well lemme tell you a story:

After high school, my girlfriend and I stayed together. I went to a different college, and stayed at home at community college. While I was at college, there were a LOT of girls, a few of which were possibly interested in me, if nothing more than a crush. I spoke to some of them, but I never let it get past friendship, I never cheated on my girlfriend, and I never wished for things to be different.

It wouldn't suprise me if your boyfriend was capable of the same level of commitment.

The semi-ending of my story is that my girlfriend broke up with me because she found a guy at home ;-).

He turned out to be crazy, she's currently in the process of breaking up with him, yadda yadda.

There probably isn't a moral to the story, but maybe you will find it interesting.

that sucks. thanks. it just sucks that i live in NY and he lives in Oklahoma.

As far as him feeling guilty about something, I don't know about that.

I don't know if he literally meant that he doesn't look or talk to any girls. First of all, does he have a lot of guy friends in oklahoma? Does he have any friends that are girls? How old is he? Did he say he doesn't talk to girls, or that he doesn't flirt with them, or talk to them a certain way?

If he's never had a friend that is a girl, then maybe he doesn't talk to girls in a friendly way -- maybe he only talks to them when he's flirting. In that case, then maybe he hasn't spoken to any at all.

Before you start telling him that you think he's lying and all that, why don't you try to get more information. Honestly, telling someone you think they're lying is pretty harsh, especially if it is someone that thinks you love them.

He didn't say he never talked to a girl. He 'said' (and we don't know if this is what he literally said) that he hasn't been talking to girls. He obviously had to have spoken to sandie.

if u want to talk about anything else you or any one else can email me at csiagent08@yahoo.com. I don't care. yes he has a lot of friend in oklahoma. yes most are girls. He's 16 same as me. he says he doesnt flirt talk or look at other girls.

well yeah we talk to every single night.

AND:

Your personal experience sounds crappy, but I don't think that it should have a bearing on how Sandie reacts to the situation. The guy you had a problem with could be just as different compared to Sandie's bf as he is to me.

Britt, you and I have different personal experiences, and thus have different perspectives, but even if there is a chance he is cheating on her, I think she should try to get more information before accusing.

"he says he doesnt flirt talk or look at other girls."

you mean 'flirt, talk, or look' or do you mean 'flirt-talk, or look', lol it makes a difference.

Even if that is true, if he doesn't mention the girl, then he's probably trying to forget about that and stay with Sandie. You can't help your feelings, but you can help your actions. IF that is the situation, well, Sandie hasn't told the bf about that guy either.

I just realized that the title of the thread is misspelled.

yeah i know

no he hasnt given me a reason not to trust him. and i do trust him. But he's own step sister is like in love with him. Did i mention that he's comming up here in August for my birthday?

ok well sandie has gotta go. Ya'll have fun. talk to ya later brit.

his step sister got us hooked up. she used to live in NY.

just saying bye to britt....

Today is 10 months for me and Chris. (my bf's name is chris)

And bye sean. Thanks for eveything. Ummmm do u want my cell #?

bye you both talk to ya later. sean i emailed u. K. Buh bye. call k

interesting question...

If you sent me an email explaining why you'd possibly want to give it to me--I'd highly suggest:

1. not giving it here
and
2. thinking about why you'd want to give it to me at all