Looks

Okay. It seems like everything is all about looks. Like, one of the topics says something like, "I like him because is so hot!" Really. That is awful. So here is a questions...and be honest!

When you meet someone, would you say it is overall looks that attrach you first, or what? Like, what is the first thing that attracts you to your prefered gender? (FIRST THING)

For me, it is their eyes.

The person's face, overall -- aka how all the elements of a face work together.

That is just a preliminary attraction though. I don't think there is anything shallow about being initially attracted to people you think are... well... attractive. Once I start talking to people, more important elements of attraction come into play.

Well of course. Something would attract you. But you wouldn't overall be first attracted by there "hot bod", and if yes, then what other element would attract YOU to them. Ex. Hair, humour, livelihood, etc.

I think you all have reasonable answers.

Annelyse--

Even if most people are attracted at the intial stage by physical characteristics, I'd assume that afterwards nearly everyone deviates into their own little world of attraction. Whether a girl has an opinion and is intelligent is of the utmost importance to me, for example. I'd talk to her after being physically attracted to her, and if she doesn't strike me as particularly intelligent, then I'd probably end up not being so attracted anymore.

^I would also say the way he carries himself, but i'm drawn to the eyes and smile as well.

...Am I the only guy brave enough to answer this thread? Was it meant only for girls?

Embarassing...

lol...you can answer.

I always notice a guys eyes, and if he looks at me when he is talking.

It is looks that strike initially. But I'd never date someone purely because they were good-looking. Their personality is more important in the long run.

ill admit at first sometimes it is looks
but mostly for me it is if he is funny and outgoing
if he can make me laugh im taken

At first it would be looks, but looks keep to looks if you know what i mean.

If they're rude and have a bad attitude, I wouldn't care if they were the Hottest person ever.

To be truly honest, if i can see something in their eyes then i'll go for it. otherwise if i can't, i'll stick with friend, and looks play the role about 10%. if they're decent looking then hey! i mean, i dont shoot off, OMG SHES SO HOTT I WANT HER, nah, most hott girls are pretty much cheaters and liars...most of 'em, not all of 'em, so it's their eyes

his look..
But if he doesn't have a nice personality i'm gone again in 2 minutes even if he is gorgeous =D

im a sucker for gorgeous eyes....but if a guy can make me laugh, im all his :)

I do NOT care what ANYONE says a person's appearance has something to do with you liking them. People say that it's wrong to like someone for how they look and yada yada yada but WHY else would you want to be with them. On a first glance I look at a man's mouth...if I don't like his teeth and lips I wouldn't take a second look...call that shallow if you will but ATTRACTION starts some where. I've met a couple people that I thought were dog ugly but turned out to be awesome people and THAT attracted me to them...there's always something. It's different with friends though...you get to know friends and personality attracts you to them BUT you can NOT tell me you'd walk up to some dog ugly stranger thinking wow he might have a great personality. NO ONE WOULD DO THAT!!! Everything has a beginning...

Eyes and Personality is what will drive me insane...I would do anything...*sigh*

Honest looks comes into play after personality...thats how I am...but if personality doesn't take effect...they are not worth my time...I can't stress enough that I fall in love with someone who I can tell everything to...telling her she is my world

~ I'm not gonna lie...a guys looks is what first attracts me...but that can totally be effected by his personality. I think that whenever you're around someone who at first doesn't appeal to you, and you spend more time with them and get to know them...if you like their personality, then they start to look better to you.
Thats how it happened with me. When I first met this guy I definately didn't think he was the most attractive person in the world, but I gave him a chance anyway. As I got to know him, I started to notice that cute way that he smiles at me, or ugggh.......his hair when he takes off his football helmet..yum.lol. Anyway...I think that if you give everyone a chance and don't be TOO shallow about it, than you might just find someone that you really like...then that attraction will come naturally.

The first thing I notice is his eyes..

The eyes are the window of the soul...

I first thing I notice is if they can make me laugh

i used to go after looks straihgt away n i kinda still do!!!! n it really aint gone in my favour!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
umm but yeah alot of ppl do go for looks.. as its more important until u get your fingers burnt a few times!!

but now if they can make me laugh n i still go for lks but not as much! but if i feel comfortable with him n makes me smile n laugh then thts good enough for me now!!
wen uve bn hurt a gd few times u learn!

"I first thing I notice is if they can make me laugh"

does that mean you don't notice them until you've already been a ways into a conversation with them? That must be awkward.

His face/hair and the way he acts towards others and in general is what gets me to notice someone.

I think looks are a way to attract, but if his attitude isn't right then that's a big turn off. I don't think anyone can really define "hot" because to some what may be attractive is a real turn off to others. ALso, say I'm not really physically attracted to one person, but I like his attitude and personality, so then I'll have more respect and after a while he'll become more attractive once I get to know him.

The first thing I notice usually is hair, or smile. But usually I'm really attracted to a guy if he has a good sense of humor.

I'm attracted to a guys laugh. If he's laughing in a good spirited way and alot- I know I have a fun guy.

well first thing that attracts me by most boys is eyes and sometimes smile

The first thing I notice about anyone is how they LOOK. duh. for girls, it's usually ass, boobs, cooch...um...yeah...but I'm very subtle about it. it's amazing how stupid some girls are. they'll be staring right into my eyes, and they have no idea I'm not.

girls that call me on this, few and far between, are those I find myself most attracted to...and probably shouldn't be.

I NEVER, EVER, NEVER approach girls. or anyone I don't know real well. but I'm hot, I can afford to. wow. that sounds conceited. but it's true. girls approach me all the time. but I send them packing. unless

attitude, however, of course, makes me drawn to certain people for any extended period of time. looks helps. I wish I wasn't so shallow. but, I don't know how to finish that sentence. but Natalie84, I think your opinion is extremely close-minded. I don't appreciate your candor. it isn't cute, or the least bit charming at all.

You're right that did sound conceited. But at least you admitted it.

hahahah. I'm not attracted to stupid people (stupid as in a mix between immature a, dumb as a rock, and shallow), I can tell you that. I have the uncanny ability to get really sarcastic around them (you know that biting kind of humor). Sean is right, the face is great. It is a mix between angles, curves, and different kinds of lines. If you people don't study faces I suggest that you do, not as in a hott sense but just look to see how the face is made up (symmetry and such) then add in the mix what society deems as good looking and study them some more. It can be interesting.

To answer the question. I have no idea. It is very random as to how I meet people. Kind of like the good old phrase Shit happens.

^^ as I read that first paragraph I felt like my face was a frog being dissected by somebody's eyes... lol. I get what you mean though.

You can love a person's personality all you like but if you are not physically attracted to them then it'll never last.

I love a good bum complemented by nice legs and a ship sinking smile.

first: Looks
Second:Attatue
Third: Personality

when they smile! if they've got that look, can't really explain it, but its lovely and my boyfriend has it! oh and personality and status in area where we live. and they must be laid back! and ermmmmm...... job! bit of everything really.