Is this pathetic? or I am just a loser

I really feel pathetic and worthless right now, it seems like nothing will ever actually work out for me. I'm a 17 year old virgin and I've never even kissed someone before. When I tell my female could-be-girlfriend friends this, they reject me, not wanting to be the one to "de-virginize" me. Would it be best to not tell my partner that I've never even kissed someone before? Or continue telling them this and hope for the best in college?

...Alright. I'm 18 (nearly 19). I had my first kiss when I was in the 6th grade, but I was a virgin until I was legal. No pressure. Didn't worry about it.

I have a best friend who didn't kiss a girl until he was 18, and that was at a party, the first one he ever got drunk at. Sorta sad really, he would have liked it to be a bit more romantic.

My friend is not a loser, and neither are you. Or well, I can't say whether you're a loser or not, but you're not a loser based soley on the fact that you've never kissed a girl.

If you act all nervous about it, then that might cause some problems for you; try not to dwell on not having kissed someone. By the way, telling people that you've never kissed anyone before seems like a weird way to have a conversation. I mean, if someone asks, don't lie about it... but it sounds weird to just volunteer information -- as if you have some motive for doing so. If they don't ask, don't tell... there's just no reason to.

yeah the only reason I said anything is because she asked me if I was a virgin and i was like yeah i'm a loser i've never even kissed someone...so yeah that might of been wierd lol. idk i try and get out and do stuff, i used to party a lot before I got into the juvenille system and got on probation, but maybe somethin will actually work in my favor someday lol

I say, continue telling. Only if you've been dating for a while, and are comfortable with them. I think your friends aren't very good if they are trying to "de-virginize" you. I think it is good, because the right guy may come around, and swept you off your feet. I don't think you should worry about it to much. It really is not that big of a deal. Sex is Sex. Kissing is kissing. The only really thing that matters is the relationship it self. Good Luck.

^^right GIRL will come around and be swept off HER feet by HIM, sunflower.

PLUS: One of my best buds is 20 now, and he is a virgin. Got his first kiss a couple months ago, and thats it. He doesn't care, and neither do we. We don't pressure him, or tease him. He is the NICEST, SWEETEST guy ever. I am honestly shocked he hasn't yet. But, it is his choice, and my friends and I respect him for it.

^ haha thanks :P

Thanks Sean Allen. I have never been able to spell. I can do math though, lol. :P

Well I'm a bit younger, but I would think that girls would WANT an inexperienced guy only because they're usually more nervous.

However, in your case w/ your "could be g/f friends" they might think differently.

All I have to say is wait for the one that makes it feel right, maybe let her come to you, and in the meantime just be proud that you're not like half the teenagers in the US who lose it in high school.

Like I said and will say again, THERE"S NO SHAME IN BEING A VIRGIN! YOU SHOULD BE PROUD OF NOT FOLLOWING THE TRENDS.

And if any girl thinks that's pathetic, they don't deserve you

My sister, and she's beatufiul believe me, didn't kiss a guy until she was 18. she waited for the right guy, unfortunetelly those were kisses waisted until today with her husband. because you haven't been kissed doesn't mean you need to be kissed in order to have guys like you. i had a girl who kissed probably 50 guys and i had never ocne kissed a girl, so it doesn't matter. and i agree to the respond, don't follow the trend of not being a virgin, just forget it and wait for the right person.

You don't have to lie about how far you've gone with a girl if it comes up, but it probably is better if you don't bring it up. Too awkward. If a girl is rejecting you because she doesn't want "devirginize" you, than that's just stupid, you can find someone better.

For the record, I'm a 17 year old virgin, and I'm really glad I decided to hold onto that during a few certain times when I thought I was ready to give it away. Got all the time in the world..

not pathetic at all.its totally okay.if some girl rejects you because of it,shes probly just shallow.i know a guy whos 16 and is in the same position.theres nothing wrong w/him,hes a wonderful person.but hes just still a bit confused on how it all will fit together.it'll all work out.no worries. -lexie

Well, first off, you arent a loser and this isnt pathetic.
if they want to be a good girlfriend
then they need to respect you
who cares if you have never kissed
a girl or have never had sex
You're 17 you've got an entire
life ahead of you
just do it when you feel right

plus the whole being a virgin,
personally i think thats great
because there's a ton of
like 12 and 13 year olds
in this town that have been pregnant
or have already had sex

its like whoa, slow down a little.
plus im a virgin

and think of it this way,
you know you dont have
an STD from having multiple partners

HAHA.

LOL

Hey colby, if you think you're loser or pathetic, I don't know what you would think about me...lol

My situation is very similar to yours, though here in Mexico some things are seen different. Still, sometimes I do feel insecure because of my lack of experience.

I would like to chat with you, since I didn't know someone who was going through this. Send me a private message if you want to.

XoXo
Gaby

To be honest I would pefer it if the guy was a virgin still, and it wouldn't really bother me if had even kissed somebody or not.

It is not a bad thing at all. I personally respect you for it. Most teens lose their virginity between 13 and 16. If a girl thinks you're pathetic because you havn't lost your virginity, is she really worth it? The right girl will accept you whether you lost it or not. My friend is 16 and he hasn't kissed a girl or lost his virginity either. He doesn't care what people think because he's waiting for that special someone. ^ I also prefer guys that are virgins. These girls must have lost theirs already, huh?

join the club! at least you have enough balls to (A) to say that you've had not been kissed! (B) i know that you most likly got into a great college! (C) i don't enough balls to even say that i like a person man i s***!!! see not alone

Personally I think that if you give 'it' up too soon just for the sake of doing it or to be able to say that you've had sex (I'm sure that's not the reason, but I'm just using that as an example) then later on you will meet that special person and regret not waiting for them. I believe that sex should be for marriage alone, but a lot of people don't, so I'm going to speak generally. Whenever you decide to have sex, don't throw it away. Wait for that special person, whether you're 17 or 25. (or even 40. there's no shame in that)

^yeah agree