falling to pieces

If you are reading this then I really need help. If some of you have read my other topics you know I have a boyfriend in Oklahoma and we have been dating for 10 months now. I love him a lot. And I don’t want to give him up. But my mom broke a promise and told my dad everything. Now I can’t even talk to my boyfriend. The whole promise concept was about me moving down there but I had told my bf long ago that I wouldn’t be leaving until I was ready. And now my parents don’t believe me. Well my bf thought I was joking until last night when I told I would be going to college this fall. And he fell into pieces. And I feel so bad. My life is getting so hectic and so difficult that I’m starting to lose control. I want to make my parents proud but I just can’t seem to do just that. I love my boyfriend and I want to be with him and make him happy but I can’t seem to do that either. I’m stuck in two families with no way out. And what I mean by two families is that my bf’s family wants me down there and wants me to be with my bf. So that’s what I mean by I’m stuck in the middle of two families with no way out. If you were in my situation what would you do?
A: be with your boyfriend screw what anyone else in your family says.
B: leave your home and just be happy on your own
C: break up with you boy to make your parents happy
D: You have no idea
E: Other
I just don’t know what to do. I have been feeling like other people control me and I don’t have a say in anything. I need your advice really bad. I am falling into pieces.

This is a very large decision. Though you may be suprised, 10 months isn't enough to bet your life on. I think that if there were a way for you not to have to chose between your boyfriend and your family, that would be best, but if it had to be one or the other, I'd go with the family. You honestly have so much of your life to live, it'd be terrible if you lived it with your family upset with you

It's a major decision that I think only you can decide. Cause I mean you probably love both your family and your boyfriend, but maybe sometimes you need to get away from your family and be with the one you love. But other times you need your family more. I think it just depends on how you feel about your boyfriend and how you feel towards your family. But mostly I think that no one can help make your decision. I think that you need to make the choice thats best for you. Do what makes you happy and don't let other people control your life, because later you're going to regret not doing something that you've always wanted to do. I hope everything works out for you.

Take Care
~DyingBlackRose~

Good luck Angelina, and bookmark this thread.

This sort of thing is a terribly personal situation and decision...

~ There has to be an in-between point here. Don't move in with him...if it's meant to be you will last through this rough patch. You can still visit him-I'm sure. If you can't have your boyfriend and your family, both of which you love, then will you ever be totally happy. You have to have your boyfriend to be happy, and you have to have your family to be happy. Reach a compromise---together---in which everyone will be happy.....God Bless

as you are 16 im sure a lot can still happen in your life i wouldnt stake everything on a bf. respect your parents that an important relationship you DO NOT want to lose.
good luck
'xxALLYxx

Your parents must be having kittens! You're 16 and smittened. You stand to throw your whole life away over a guy you obviously miss and he misses you. However, you must reach a compromise. You have a duty to yourself to do well with exams and have a good time with your parents while your still young enough to do so. You'll leave home sooner than you think. But not yet.

Talk to your b/f and your parents and let both parties know how sensible you are. This way your parents wont worry about you. Your b/f if he's worth it will wait. And more importantly, you will have a peaceful mind . Good liuck.

can't you tell him to wait for you?..

you can be near him..jus by sending letters..kissin in it..or pix..blabla..

tell me how u gonna diceide

wow, ok. this is exactly waht i would do. i would go to your boyfriend because even if thinds don't work out with him, this is your chance. if you love him, go to him. your family should be happy with whatever you choose to do, because it is YOUR LIFE, not theirs. make sure you do what you want in your heart, not what someone else wants of you. your parents are probably not putting much faith in your relationship with this guy since you are still young...but if you think this guy is great, believe in that. go to him. your parents will forgive you even if you make a decision they do not want you to make. family is family no matter what happens.

I think they should be happy and support you in your decision for going to college. You're thinking about your future and there is nothing wrong with that. Your boyfriend of the now may be in/be part of your future, but that's then, this is now. Things change and I understand that they're sad that you're going, but at the same time they should support you to take initiative for your own life and think about yourself for once, not just what other people want. Basically it's all up to you, I'd just say follow your heart and do what is right FOR YOU. In my opinion, you have your whole life to love someone, but you're basically in the prime of life right now. I think I'm pretty safe in saying that if you decide to stay with your boyfriend now and not go to college, and if it doesn't work out then you probubly won't want to go to college when you're like thirty and everybody else is 18. Know what I mean?

This is something that you have to do for yourself and your life. If your boyfriend isn't willing to let you go for that reason, then, personally, I don't think he's the kind of guy you want to waste your time with.

personally, i think love is more important than college. College is overrated. I just graduated highschool and my boyfriend and I are taking a year off together and then we are going to try to go to college in the same area so we can still drive to see eachother on the weekends.

you don't need to go to college to fulfill your dreams...unless you dream of wokring for the rest of your life. My dream is to train racehorses and I would not have to go to college to do that...but I am because I have nothing holding me back. ...I am going to a college to get my horse training license......but anyway...i will stop rambling now. bye bye

did i just totally confuse everyone?

you said you don't have to go to college to become a racehorse trainer, but then again you're going anyways to get your racehorse training license??

haha yeah.. you pretty much confused me lol

i say screw your family and go with your boyfriend..your family will forgive you but your boyfriend might not and then you could end up losing him.

Yeah id go with the boyfriend, ive found out the hard way that families can be very untrustworthy, sometimes they forget what might be best for you and think toomuch about what THEY want. Go with your guy it will make you happier and hopefully your family will see that xx