Selfishness, brutal truth, and whining too much.

if you say you want an opinion
don't freak out when it's not what you want.

If you say you want help
TALK TO SOMEONE WHO CAN HELP YOU.

Don't get mad at the truth,
You can't avoid it.

Sooner or later, it will slap you in the face and make you feel worse than you did in the beginning.

The thing is, me or anyone else telling you this probably isn't going to help you.
But once you experience it, you'll probably look back and think "Wow,I was really stupid and immature...".

Does anyone agree with me, or am I going to get posts back saying "you shouldn't judge people" or "you have no idea what it feels like".

fair enough!!!

I don't even see where someone could say you're judging someone...

Butterfly I am liking your posts. You should come join us people who tell the truth to these "depressed" 12 year olds, and then get whined at for it.

yeah, I'd give my mod stickie vote too

I think you should be able to post your opinion without crossing a line into insulting. There is the brutal truth and then there is just plain being insulting.

Many people stay behind the line on here, and many cross it

You're right, there is telling the truth, and then there's crossing the line. You're totally right, and I'm often wrong like everyone else. Often though, people confuse telling the truth with crossin the line because it's not what they want to hear. But you are right.

You're right. Sometimes brutal truth IS insulting....example: best friend is being a total b!tch. So you say: "You're being a total b!tch." Brutal truth and Insult at the same time.

I mean there are other ways of saying that kind of thing but maybe we should actually learn from getting slapped across the face....otherwise it'll just keep happening.

It is true, that some things are truthfully an opinion. Makes it false by fact standards, but true in a way. Example: it is true that I believe The Sims2 is an awesome game, but it's also my opinion.

It's also good if the person knows when they're just being whiney. I may have pressure on me, but complaining about it and not doing anything to change it isn't going to do any good. I can often turn my mood around how I want, if I want to be depressed so I can get some good writing out of it, I can, if I want to be happy so I'm not bothering other people, I can be.

Dealing with things without getting upset is a good skill; often required, for surviving daily life.

I agree, I've also posted about people asking for help. If they really want help, then stop whining and actually take some of those advices to heart.

Butterfly, I think you`ve made a very interesting point. I completely agree that if someone gives you an opinoin you don`t like, you shouldn`t blow up. And if you`re going to ask for help, you have to listen to what the people are saying and seriously take it into consideration.

**samantha.