Boyfriend Problems

Okay, I posted something like this, but really would like more imput on it.

My boyfriend, I love a lot, but he is such a pain in the ass. I have like good moments with him, but bad also.

Here are all the good things about him/us.

- He does anything for me. (I want to go out, we do, I want to watch a movie, we do, etc)

-When we are happy, we are really happy.

-I know his family really well, and he knows mine

-We know everything about each other

-We really do love each other

Here are the bad things about him/us.

-He use to lie to me, and now it is impossible to tell when he is or isn't

-The was a whole bunch of issues with his ex's.

-We fight over the stupidest things.

-I can not trust him

-And I found out a year ago he was thinking about being gay. He said it was just a though (because our friend came out and said he was bi) And, sometimes I think in 15 years time, he'll decide he is

I love him so much. But I've been hurt so many times, it is so hard to know what he is thinking any more.

I am scared for the future. I am scared what will happen.

I love him so much. It's just so complicating.

Anything you have to say would help on the subject.

He use to talk dirty with one of them, then he started to like another (because of what she was wearing)

I have talked to him. He pisses me off because when we talk about "really" issues, he forgets. Or just care until he is away from me. He can remember every girl he has ever met, ever little thing, but conversations we have. He never thinks.

If there is a trust problem....and a communication problem....what else is there? You can't have a love that will last without those two things.

If talking it out doesn't work then maybe you need to "take a break". If you are complaining about him the way that you are then why are you guys together?

I want you to tell me that. I want you to tell us why you guys are together. Ignore what makes you mad....don't mention that.....talk about why you guys are together. What makes you happy. And forget about the stuff that you already said. Give us more. Personaly...I don't understand.

When you have been with someone for a long time, you get use to being with them. You get use to everything. I love him to death. But all that shit he has done in the past to me, really hurts. I know his family like my own, and losing him means losing them. It is complex. You know that song,
Three Days Grace "(I Hate) Everything about you" Well, that is us. I love him so much, but hate him for everything he has done!

It is so hard to Trust him!

i have been in a situation SO similar. and i know it is hard to break up with someone, and i know this is not what you want to hear, but this guy sounds like a bit of an ass and in the long run i think you would be happier without him.

i think you should tell him to listen to you..

How can you be sure if he loves you or not>?..if he doesn't want to dicuess the main imprtant stuffs of luv life..how can you call it luv?...

ask him does he want's dis same relationship..(always arguying abt small stuffs)..
co'z if he don't want dis old relationship, and want's to improve dis relationship..

than he must listen n talk it over abt going on like dis or not..bla bla....

n did you already told him abt you being confussed abt trusting him ..??..hope yo do...

best of luck*

Again...if you can't trust him...and hate everything about him...then you are going to have to leave that comfort zone and break it off. You need to be with someone that you can trust. And that you love 100% and hate nothing about. Except maybe the way he ties his shoe...or the way that he wears his belt....but nothing else....that's not love. That's just comfort.

"It is so hard to Trust him!"

Then you two have relationship issues. Talk to him about it. If you can't figure out a way to trust him, then your relationship isn't worth that much in the end anyway. I hope you can work it out, but you need to understand that trust is one of those things that has to be there, and if it isn't then things aren't going to end up well at all.

Trust is the main thing you need in a relationship. If you don't have trust. You don't have nothing.

Okay. He has not done anything for a couple of months now, but it is hard to tell anymore. He is getting better at lieing. I know he loves me. I talked about breaking up yesterday, and he got really upset, and kept calling, and bagging me not to. I know he loves me. I love him to.

This problem has to do with both of us. He hurt me mental for 3 years. (I am surprised I never left him before what we had turned into love) And now it is my problem, cause I keep causing fights because I am always upset with him, because I am so worried he is lieing to me. I start fights over nothing, because, I am scared of what will happen next.

I don't know what I am expecting from this post, cause I have talked to him, we've discussed it. It just has to do with trusting him again.

Again, anything you have to say would help.

maybe you two can see a therapist together. or something. about trust and lying and whatnot. or maybe you can see one and suggest he see one too.

My roommate has always said that if it were up to him, everyone in the world would go to a therapist once in their lives, since therapists are so useful. You don't have to have a mental problem to see one, they can just listen and advise based on their experience and knowledge about general mental characteristics. You need to work over your past and your inhibitions about trust. He needs to not lie. You need to not think that he's lying a lot. He needs to actually not be lying.

trust is the key to a successful relationship

Thanks everyone for the advice. No more replys to it are necessary. I finished with him. So hard. But it had to be done.