How do i know???

Has he cheated on you before? Do you trust him? If you trust him, then I think you should continue to do so. Unsubstantiated claims concerning cheating can be considered pretty silly, so I think you should do just that. Innocent until proven guilty, in my opinion.

Well, if he's cheated on you 8 times, I don't know why you're still with him. But that's your own business I suppose.

Well then trust him. It sounds to me like you do have a clue, and that clue is telling you to trust him, because you've been trying to convince ME, a complete stranger, that your boyfriend -- despite cheating on you 8 times -- is telling the truth. I don't have any sort of information on this topic beyond what you say, and you sound like you want to stay with him, so do just that, and trust him, which you already seem to do.

Umm. First of all. Are you really 13?

Is it legal to be engaged to get married at 13?

I'm pretty sure I wipe my hands of this ordeal.. Having a girl get married at that young of an age is just a massive excuse for all sorts of problems.

I hope some of the more vocal members of the love forum don't end up reading this, they'll go nuts.

I think that before making a major decision like getting married you need a bit more experience in what life is like. There is, in my opinion, very little chance that you've managed to acquire the level of experience I believe necessary. This is most certainly YOUR life we're talking about here... and so if you think this is a good idea, that's all your business, not mine.

"Ok so this summer wich is now i am in California and i am leaving my boyfriend wich is soon to be husband. "

You're 13. That's at least 5 years until you can make him your husband.
you should just stay in school and stop focusing on "guys you love". Seriously.

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Agree 100%

Guys aren't everything. You have to live YOUR life.

In all honesty, "once a cheater, always a cheater." From my experience, cheaters don't change. I am unsure why you are still with him if he keeps hurting you. You deserve someone loyal.

WHOAHOSAHFOASnfs...you are only 13? Is this a joke? I am in shock. Ok, my advice: Dump this guy and stay out of relationships for at least 2 more years. Focus on school, sports, your dreams...your LIFE and forget about this loser.

"well i thought about that but it is just that every time he does it he has some way to make me fall back to him"

You're young. And at that age, you'll be weaker - but judging by this, now is the right time to draw some courage and move on.
And people don't tend to change. If he cheated eight times, what difference does it really make to him if he cheats nine times - then ten...and so on. Either way, you'll take him back, and it'll all work fine for him.

And yeah, 13 is too young to be engaged. It may not be against the law, but I dare you to try and count five couples you know that met at 12/13, and have stayed together for at least ten years.

Stick to your school work, and carry on being a child whilst you still have the option.

there comes a time when you have to stand up for yourself, love yourself, and give yourself some respect. IF you are still with this guy in a year, you are going to look back at the beginning of you and him and regret never breaking up with him. He sounds like a jerk. He may care about you a lot, but if he actually loves you, he would not cheat on you. That is just the way it is....I think the reason why he keeps kissing you and hasn't completely cut your relationship off, and even says he wants to marry you (instead he keeps you dependent on him AND cheats on you) is because he likes to feel in control; he likes the power you give him. A lot of guys are like this and you know what?? It is VERY hard not to fall in love with these guys so I can understand your feelings...because I am sure he is a pro had abusing the feelings of nice girls. My best advice is to start moving on before you become too attached because your feelings will either become stronger and you will depend on him even more OR you will realize how mean he is to you and you will be ashamed for not breaking it off. Remember, there are SOOOOO Many more guys out there and there is the perfect guy for you somewhere...I bet there are at least 20,000 perfect guys for you in the world that will NEVER cheat on you. you will most likely find a guy exactly like the one you love now, or at least he will have all of his good qualities and he will treat you better. life is short, love is incredible, and know that you are something special and desired...not some guy's toy that he can mess with.

I don't think you're really 13. I don't think that any of this is real.

It's all just to....dumb....if you will.

If you really are 13, and if this situation is real....then I think that you are nuts. I would like to know where your parents are, and what the heck they are teaching you in school.

If you are 13, and he's 16, there is no reason why you should even be THINKING about being engaged. I'm 20 and engaged....and even THAT is young....so yeah.

So yeah...puppy love is cute and all...but I think that you're really messed up.

Just my opinion though. Sorry.....I don't like sugar coating things on here anymore.

"Ok so this summer wich is now i am in California and i am leaving my boyfriend wich is soon to be husband."

Good Lord. Read that sentence and think how ridiculous it sounds.
You're thirteen.
That's all I have to say. :]

You're 13 and you're engaged?

Geez! I'm 17 and I don't even know what love is. I'm just gonna shut up. Cause I know what I say will turn into an argument.

`Taleee.

Well if your family knows and grounded you from him....then something is wrong there.

I'm thinking that since you can't talk to him, and you can't see him, and you have to sneak around to just say hi to him....I don't think that your family is supporting you....and at least to me...my family is the most important thing in my life...and if they aren't ok with who I'm engaged to....then the engagement ends and I find someone else.

I think that you need to grow up a little bit. That's my honest opinion.

^^ I agree.

And, at 13? You can't be ready for love and getting married. You havn't even grown up yet.
And I also highly doubt your parents are supporting you 100% with this engagment. Geez, My mum can't even handle saying 'I love him' And I'm 17.

Grow up!