Was it wrong?

Ok, so it has taken me a week to gain enough courage to post this..but i feel really really horrible about it, and think i completely made the wrong decision...now i dont want your pitty, i hate pitty so dont think that is what im doing, i just need advice..my life has a lot of problems right now, and im trying the best i can to make them right, but most of them are out of my control..but this one was not..my friend got mad b/c i wouldnt do something with him, so then i gave in and did so he would be happy...I lost all self respect i had for me, is that really wrong, or should i have gave in?

...Sounds sexual. I think that feeling comfortable with your choices is important, so you probably should have disregarded your friend's wishes on this one

Your job in life is not to make other people happy. You should be more concerned about yourself, than doing something you are against. Going against your own personal beliefs and losing self-respect for yourself will end up in a snowball effect. You should have indeed disregard your friend's wishes.

I love snowballs!!!

Kay. Yeah. I agree.

I understand what your all saying, but darien..i dont live to please me, i cant please me...i was always taught to please everyone else..so i guess that's why i do the things i do

I was the same.

My mum raised me to please her. What I wanted didn't matter. If I was pleasing her, then everything was fine. But you should start thinking about yourself, and do things for you. No one else.

I don't know how!

hey, i was like you too. like in school, church, friends, i was expected to do great things to please other people. now that im older(only14, but still) i feel like i have to rebel, and i have made decisions that nobody wanted me to do, and it feels greaat. just to be free from things that you have to do. you should respect yourself and just think about how much happier you'll be if you make decisions for yourself(hope that helps) love and luck
mollyjade

It helps..thanks babes

You need to do what is right for you. It's hard to think about yourself, and it seems selfish, but in the end, you matter to you the most. You could never please everyone in this world, not matter how hard you try. And if pleasing others is more important than your own moral values, then you need to take a step back and rethink what YOU want.

Ok, well now i have another problem and im not gonna make a new thread...something is wrong with me, i cant stop crying..i know im depressed, but like im thinking of everthing that is happening, and im a cutter but im trying not to right now... but i cant get it off of my mind...what should i do to make my tears stop...?

This will sound harsh, but you can't change what happened, so there is nopoint dwelling on it. If you think about it, you can't turn back time so al this "Oh but what if.." isn't going to help anything. You just need to accept that you did this thing, and -try- to move on. It's what works for me when I do something I regret.
what you are experiencing is deep regret and it won't change, unfortunately.

Nelle you should find someone or something that comforts you and well either talk to them or do w/e that something is i'm quite sure that you can talk to any of your close friends and if they don't know you cut just tell them it's really important and they just need to talk to ya for a while wow it's sad how i can't even take my own advice but please try this it might help =)

Well Nelle, it's hard to make the tears stop from falling. What you need right now, is someone to catch those tears, or to wipe those tears away. A friend, doesn't matter who it is, but someone. It's never good to be depressed alone, because bad things can happen. (Cutting) So if there is someone you can trust, then ask them to be your shoulder. It might make you feel a whole lot better.