Raped?

I dated a guy for a long time and then we broke up. I was heart broken but i was okay. Well 9 months ago i had a party about 3 years after we broke up. And he showed up. At the time he had a girlfriend. He was excited to be there and told me he wanted to see me get really drunk. Well it ended up that i did get really drunk and i passed out in a tent. The next thing I remember is the tent being unzipped and him coming in. He started pulling my clothes off and stuff and I said no. But he didn't listen and kept right on and stuff happened. I remember saying no a bunch of times. And I only remember part of the stuff that happened... Like certain things he said to me and stuff. But i guess i had kissed him before i passed out, but I said no.. And i didn't want him to do it.. And the next morning I pretended nothing happened. Do you think this is considered raped? Is it my fault for letting this happen to me? I need advice.. It's causing me major nightmares.. i black out from time to time and i can barely talk to guys. I don't know whats wrong with me. I've only told one person and that was two days ago and it was only when he told me he had been raped by another guy and i felt so awful for him and he was only concerend about me. and now i feel stupid for feeling the way i do about what happened to me because of what happend to him... And I dont' want to tell anyone because I feel bad about his girlfirend because i would never do that. I'm not that kind of person. Plus they just had a baby and I don't want to mess things up for him.. and he seems to have changed a lot.. Can someone please help me I'm so confused??

well it is rape well i belive so you didnt want it to happen and you were saying stop so yea it was rape. you shouldnt feel like its ur fault i mean u didnt tell him to do that to you, i myself know about getting raped i was little and my dad well long story so yes i relate to you and dont feel bad its not your fault it took me very long to figure that out but yes it was rape and it wasent your fault

If you said no its rape. If you didnt its not. From what you said you said no numerous times, so it was rape

Well, you should have gone straight to the police. No means no, and people must learn that, even if it's the hard way. If you are ok with what he did, then let it be the ticking time bomb in your subconscious mind. It will only do you harm. If you think it's rape, then you should have told someone, namely, the police. Any guy who gets a girl drunk and takes advantage of them is pathetic scum. You need to be more careful with what you do.

nvm

Ok, first in a way i know how you feel, the same thing happened to me unfortunately..I was at a party too it was kind of the same thing, but a little different..there is a lot i could say to you, but i'm not gonna do it now if you want to talk to me you can email me at youngbabii23@aim.com...or if you have msn messenger you can add me it's the same address as my email, and i will talk to you there!!!! but seriously, you really need to tell someone! If you want more advice, come ask me!! stay strong girl!!

well i sorta know how you feel but i do consider ir rape but if you ever need or just wanna talk im always here my aol sn is vampierprincess6@aol.com my aim is xokaylaiciousxo@aim.com kk stay strong and never give up luv ya lts
kayla

yes it was rap and you need to tell some one or you never feel any better!!!!!!!!!!!!! i no that it is going to hard but if you don't he could do the same thing to diffrent girl!!!! if you need to talk my aim is lovesucks1506 you can talk to me any time i am almost always online

stay strong always you can get threw this
xoxo linda xoxoo

Rape is violence.

u better tel u parents..or docotrs..i hope u r not pregnent!!....

luck for ur lyfe

I would tell her. Because he might do that to someone else. He cheated on her. Tell her.

heya i no what it is like i havent told hardley anyone that i was raped and i still cant bring my self to it, you are not alone on this one !!!!!

xxx kt xxx

tell someone and fast..... u dont know wat might happened next....i know how u feel...

in this case(i think) it wouldnt have mattered if u said no cause u were under the infuence so he was taking avantege of your situation...i think. but yea its rape

I agree, it was rape.
I don't think I need a degree in law to work that out. The best thing you could probably do would be to first tell your parents or someone trusted, and then the police, that is, if they're willing to do anything.

//T.L.//

it was definetly rape, you didn't want it and he forced it, and its NOT your fault at all you were passed out you didn't really even know what was going on. I would tell his girlfriend about it too, she needs to know, cause if he did it to you he might do it to other girls too.

Hope this helped some,
Shelly && Michelle

the same thing happend to me i kept saying no but my body culdnt muster enough energy to put up a fite i know how u feel i get terrified when im alone with guys alone and i have flashbacks...but its ok u just have to work thru it and realize not every guys like that