I don't know what too do..

I'm having problems at home... and everywhere else.. I'm in love with my bf.. and my mom hates him because he is 3 years older than me and because he is black... and I'm seriously thinking about running away... my best friend said that I could stay with her.. but I don't know if that's far enough... I love my bf... and I want to be with him... and I want to run away to be with him.. and because my mom and my brother fight all the time.. and it kills me... my dad doesn't live with me.. but no one thinks that should be with my bf.. because white and black people.. don't go together.. but I love him... should I go to my friends house... because I want to be with him sooo bad.. or try and hide it behind my mom's back... and if she catches me again... I'm pretty much going to be grounded for life.. and if that happens... mostliking.. I'm going to run away then.. what should I do.. please help me...

I am going to be completely honest with you.

If I were you, I would stand and fight for it. Realisticly she can't growned you for life. You may have to put up with it, but in the end it isn't her decision. It is you alone who likes this guy. She doesn't have to like him. Only you do. I personally would stay at home, and just continue seeing him. Tell her, "I like him a lot, And you don't have to. This has nothing to do with you." Say exactly as it is. My friends parents NEVER listen to what he has to say, so, I suggested to write a letter, cause they would read it. Hope it works out.

Sunflower's right.

Stay at home at all costs. Knee jerk reactions are the worst ones you can make.

Play it cool; play it cool with your mum; play it cool with your b/f and above all else play it cool with yourself.

I don't know if I can take it anymore... I want to move in with my best friend... her mom said it was ok... and I really want to... because her mom doesn't care who I date.. or she dates.. her mom actully knows.. I'm dating... my bf... and I would move in with my dad but he lives with my cuzin and it's my cuzins house and I don't think he would want me living there... and for other reason.. because I'm a girl and I'd be the only girl in the house and I don't feel comfortable talking to my dad about that kind of stuff either.. and he still doesn't want me to date my bf.. I was joking around with my mom once... and I was like well then Kates mom will adopt me... and she said ok... so I wonder if she was really saying that... because.. I really want to get out of this house... and I cant really play it kool... I have gone behind my mom's back like 5 times with this guy and she hates him... and if she catches me even talking to him.. she is going to get ticked and like I don't know.. I just don't want to stick around and find out... I just want to be with him.. and I don't care what anyone thinks.. i just need to know how...

wow thats a really tough place to be in-and its hard to give advice without knowing the whole situation. If i had to give advice I think it would be to wait it out-try to spend as much time as you can with your b/f without your mom knowing-I mean you only have 3 years left till your 18 and you'll be out of the house anyway-If your mom finds out and you get grounded there are ways to stay in contact with him...unless your moms unbelievably smart and strict---- but this is advice from someone who has never been in love and who doesnt know how your mom is---but i can tell you one thing-if you run away to your friends house she (or the police) will find you so quickly and you'll be right back where you started but in a much more sticky situation. I know my cousin ran away from florida to louisianna with her b/f to live with his uncle-the police found her after less than two weeks and her mom didnt even know about his uncle-if shes your best friend your mom most likely knows where she lives and that will be one of the first places she looks for you---

Good luck with what ever you choose to do though---

It is tough being young and having to deal with parents at times.