friend?

ok i have this friend. we have been friends for a while but lately she has been saying this about my closest friend jess(knows everything about me). i think that she is jeously of me being with jess so much but i never know. and lately she has been talking to me and she starts talking a bout her bf and then when i tell her to stop she gets really mad at me and then she starts a big agrument. The last agruement we had she said she won't be my friend anymore but then about 2 weeks later she started tio talk to me. another she she does is that she tells me something personal about my friends and then gets mad at me when i tell them that she told me that that ande then it starts a big arguement with us even more and it this might just all happen in like 1 month and it is really getting me mad and i don't know what to do. She is really my friend? does she really care a bout what i like? does she really care about my feels? Doe she really want to be friends with me. This all goes throught my head and i never know what to do. Can someone please help me.

1) if she is saying things about your friend jess, she is probably jealous of her. it depends on the kind of things she is saying about her. a good way to solve this problem would be to spend more time with her even if it's just calling her more or planning to hang out soon.
2) talking about her bf... if she's just excited about something about him or something that they did together...let her talk! obviously, she wants to tell you. maybe she just wants you to listen. if she can trust you with things about her bf, then she might confide in you with other things too. if she talks excessively about him, try to change the subject after a little while or ask her some questions about other things.
3) if she says that she doesn't want to be friends with you, and then she starts talking to you again, chances are she's either a) using you b) missing you and can't stand living without being friends with you or c) forgetful...lol.
4) maybe she just wants to confide the things about her other friends with you. if you tell them she told you, it will obviously get back to her, and it most likely hurts her. try keeping those secrets (unless they're bad things) to hold her trust.
5) there could be more behind the issues... maybe she's really hurting inside and taking it all out on you. you never know... try to find out her story and love her the best you can. and with your ?'s? ask her. it can't hurt to talk! if she's really a true friend, she'll have a

ok i have more issues with her now. she ta;lks about her b/f 24 and they have been going out for 8 months now. and the things she is saying about my friend jess is that she is a rat face. she doesn't even kjnow her. the things we fight about are stupid stuff. i talked to her b/f about being bored and she is trying to say there is something going on between us. and 1 more thing i never get to hang out with her because a) she talks about her b/f the whole time we are somewhere b) talking to him on the fone the hole time c) out with her b/f d) has him over and i don't want to goo over there because all she wants to do is kiss him right in front of me. who does that. and she won't tell me anything she a better friend with my older sister than me. she rather talk to my sis about stuff than me.

Ditch her. And see how long it takes for her to come crawling back after she splits up with her boyfriend. then blow her off. I'm all for revenge.

thanks. for the advice.

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