Need help, frustrating problem.

Ok, i met this girl like 3-4 months ago, she didn't mean anything to me then. I talked to her occaisionally over the net. But around may we became pretty tight. I cant live without her and she means the world to me. Shes such a star, and i wouldn't give her up for anything. I consider her my bestfriend, she considers me hers aswell.

We know each other so well, but only on a personnal level. Just recently i have started seeing her more often. But the bizare thing is, i just forget to or prevent myself from talkign to her and interacting with her in reallife. I really hate going out in groups, so when i go out with her and a heap of other people they've all known her for far longer, so they have more memories and such.

But i know she likes me more than all of them, she invited me to her semi rather than any of them. :D
My problem is, that when we're out in this group situation i just cant bring myself to talk to her, whether it be i dont think what i have to say is interesting or that shes talking to somebody else.

I'm afraid that unless she can appreciate me in real life just as much as on the net we might drift apart, whihc would be awful. If anyone can shed some light on this or give me some advice that'd be great. Shes away for the next four days and when she comes back we're doing something in a group of three. So i have until then to fix this up. Thanx in advance to all those that offer help.

My advice is to suck it up man. A group of three isn't that big. I mean if you like this girl, then you would be willing to sacrifice your likes and dislikes for her. Which brings me to another question, how much do you like this girl? and would you consider dating her, or is she JUST a friend?..

Because if you like her as only a friend, tell her you're not comfortable in big groups, and that you feel left out and stuff. You should try to hang out with her more, just the two of you. That's the best way to get to know her. You're gonna end up dating her, I can so see it like that. But anyways, just talk to her about it, in person, online, however you feel comfortable. Good luck man, and take care.

I did speak to her about it, yesterday. Shes agreeable with the fact that I cant handle big groups. Thats fine. Shes supposed to be Just a friend, but even from the little information i've given you can probly tell that we will end up dating yes. But i'm not going to admit that to people who knows her.

I just didn't really have the confidence to speak to her when i had the chance. Shes supposed to be my bestfriend somebody who i can talk to about anything etc etc.. But i'm really hesitant. My advice for myself was to just get over it and grow up.

The only time i've ever spokne to her 1 on 1 in real life was the first time i met her. Evertime i've seen her since then shes been with at least one friend shes known for ages more. I'm still really lost about this.

=O! You're from Aussie!!!

Yeah, anyways. This same thing happened to me and my best friend, Mitch.

I don't really have any advice though, Just what Darien said.

What happend with you and 'mitch' in the end?

Yeh i'm an Aussie, and so are you evidently.

Um well. We liked each other for ages. But my friends didn't like him. So he was really shy when it came talking to me around my friends. And then alot of stuff happened. My other best friend got involved with me and Mitch, and things got really screwed up. And then we didn't talk for a few months. And, now we're just best friends.

And cool. Why are you on so late? o.O

Nothing better to do :P
I really needed advice on this, so im sticking around for a while to see what is said.

The problem is, her friends are now my friends, i found my way into her friendship group, and they all think i'm a champion. They've always all been friends of mine.

You got nothing to worry about then. Just talk to her. Having her friends think you're a champion is like, really good. Lol..

Yeh, now that i look at the whole thing, it kinda seems as though im just convincing myself theres something wrong, which there isn't. It helps to talk to people not involved. Thanx.

Yeah. That's alright. =)

Any extra advice by anyone is gladly appreciated, im still here and will be for the next 10-20 minutes. This is the only place i thought to look for advice.

It really all depends on her. If she is the sort of girl that will listen to her friends, then you might have a problem. If she picks you over her friends, then you know there are good signs in that.

If she knows, she should do something about it if she likes you. Do you know if she likes you back the same way? or are you assuming?.. Because it would really hurt you if you were wrong..

She'd pick me over all of them, shes told me that before. I dont know if she has any feelings beyond friendship, if i answered it would only be conjecture. We're probly too close to be considered 'just friends' anyway.

All her friends think im a good guy anyway, so i dont have any problem at all, apart from the fact that i am hesitant to talk to her or drag her away from another conversation shes having.