BABY DADDY DRAMA!

IM SO STUCK..I DON KNO HOW TO FEEL...IM STILL SO MUCH IN LOVE WITH MY SONS DAD...WE HAD A RELATIONSHIP OF 4 YEARS...WE BROKE UP ALMOST TWO YEARZ AGO NEXT MONTH..BUT IN THE TIME WE WERE BROKEN UP I GOT PREGNANT.... I WAS TWO MONTHS PREGNANT WHEN HE FOUND ANOTHER GIRL.. AND HES STILL WITH HER NOW..MY SON IS NOW 5 MONTHS...HES NOT THERE FOR HIS SON AT ALL..HE DOESN HELP ME SUPPORT HIM.. HE PUTS HIS GIRLFRIEND IN FRONT OF HIS SON..ALWAYS BEFORE HIM... WHEN HE HAS MONEY HE SPENDS IT ON HIS GIRLFRIEND NEVER ON HIS SON...AND NOW SHE MIGHT BE PREGNANT! SHES ONLY 16! I JUS DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO...I STILL LOVE HIM SO MUCH. BUT DONT KNO HOW TO ACT... ANY IDEAS? IT WOULD DEFINATELY HELP.....

PLEASE AND THANK YOU,
K*~

... get a court order for child support.

Okay, here's my advice...

First, I don't understand the whole getting pregnant thing while you were broken up... But that's beside the matter... If you know that he is the father of your son, then tell him that he has to be there for his son, because you cannot take on the responsibility by yourself, and you would like at least SOME support, and if that doesn't work, then get a court order for child support... Otherwise, if all you want is for him to be there PHYSICALLY with the baby, then talk to him and tell him that... Set up times for him to spend time with his son... Idk... Just some suggestions, I've never been in that situation, so I don't know first-handed...

~BJ~

K

You were only 18 when you had your son and 16 isnt that far away from that.

Get your priorities straight stop worrying about your ex and start concentrating on raising your son as best you first and foremostly by leading by example for him. You cannot control the actions or situations of your ex what you can do is control your own and startby getting over the fact that he is not with you anymore and is with soomeone else. You ahve a beautiful boy to look after now...and thats where your energy should be focused

You need to let him know that he has a son and if he doesn't start caring your going to take him to court . You have a baby now worry about your child let that old fire burn out and start a new one with some one else he has so why can't you just take some time and think things through let him know what he's missing out on.

I don't understand what you're doing with a child at the age of 18 anyway. But in my opinion, you need to keep at the father until he helps with your son. This child is just as much his, as he is yours and you should not be stuck with all the responsibly just because you are the mother. Take him to court, like everyone else has said, he shouldn't be able to just walk out on the child he created.

"She's only 16!"
Yes, and you're only 18. And I'd say you got pregnant at 17 so you're not much different.
I'm guessing he's also young and immature. There's nothing you can do.

Meh. IDK. go on Jerry Springer?

ok i was only 19 when I got pregnent with my son. My son is 3 now and he's never seen his father (by my choice, not his) The whole court thing, yes if you have the money to drag him through court to get child support but then he's going to resent you and possibly the baby too. I loved my son's father alot! Even after we broke up but there were certain circumstances that made us seperate. As hard as it may be you have to look at what's best for your son. And take it from me being a single mom isn't that easy but it's fun and it gets better. If you need anything let me know.

That's why you young girls should be careful with sleeping with some guys. They will just sleep with you, and when things go wrong. Like you getting pregant, they'll get up and leave. Is that what someone who claims to love you would do? Perfect example, sex isn't a toy. Look how much stress it's causing Kharisma. I hope things work out for you, I just can't stand to see the lack of commitment.