How young is too young?

I'm 17 turning 18 and i've been with my boyfriend for 8 months and am so in love with him...he told me not long ago that he wanted to propose to me...i've never felt like this about anyone before and i know i'm young but i know he is the one...i was just wondering what some people's opinions are on how young is too young just so i can brace myself for when my parents find out...he's told his parents his plan to marry me and they don't mind...so i'm up for any opinions...thanks! luv nicole =)

Its not too young no, but you've only been going out for 8 months. Think a bit more about whether YOU want to. If you still want to do it and you think you have a future together then go for it! :P

Well,

I would place you at the lower limit of what I consider a reasonable age to get married. That being said, I think people should try living with their finance prior to actually getting married for a few months anyway; you never know what you might learn after living together. What is the rush anyway? If you two feel ready to get married, then I don't think either of you should be worried about the other running off or something... you should have the time to live together and get a feel for what life could be like married.

If you wanna get engaged go ahead, just dont go rushing into getting married. At your age and at the lack of time invested in your relationship I would take the engagement slowly. An engagement is merely a public display of a private relationship and if your prepared to committ yourself at that level go ahead and best of luck!

now i know that when i went out with my boyfriend we went out for 8 months and i thought i loved him but we're not together anymore. just think about what you're doing and make sure it's love and not lust.

Thanks for your opinions everyone...I know some must be thinking what is the rush but my boyfriend and i wouldn't get married straight away, it would be a long engagement...and although we have been going out for 8 months, i've known him for 3 years and in our 8 months together we have overcome so many things it's not funny...but thanks for everyone's opinions

Personally, I think that if you already know he's -the one-, you should probably wait a bit. You really are young, I'm 17 right now and I couldn't imagine being engaged already (I know it's different for different people.. but still). What's the rush? If you plan on being with him for the rest of your life, than you've got all the time in the world to get engaged.

i am 15, and im engaged to my bf, becasue i no its right! your never to o young to be in love

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$10 says it'll last less than a year. Anyone want a Britney Spears type marriage?..

Ok, sorry, but 15, and getting married. You know it's right?.. I'm sorry, but that's hard to believe. Do you have a decent job yet? A mortgage? Yeah, didn't think so. I bet mommy and daddy will support you, because they will live forever.

Anyways, 18 is a decent age to CONSIDER getting married, I wouldn't recommend it, especially since it's only been 8 months. I agree with Sean, maybe you should live together for a while before making hasty decisions. You really can learn alot about a person after living with them for a while.

NIcole, i ,my opinion, is that there is no age limit for love but getting marry is another case. I think the answer to your worries is deep within your heart. Getting marry is a big step. Remember, it is your life make your own decision.

darien,i meant 17 omg sorry!!!! 15 thats sick lol, dont think so ive been with him since i was 14!

It doesn't really matter Sluts & Cuts Darien is fairly accurate in his opinions, you still have a lot of growing up to do at 17 :o) Im not saying it wont last but you have so much of yourself to find yet...

If you are muture enough, you could get married.

Just be sure that you do not feel like you missed something by marrying so young. A friend of my mom's married when she was 20, devorced when she was 45 and felt like she missed so much of her life, because she married so young.

im 13 and im in love soooooooooo sigh and he is 16

Darien is right. You people think you are in love right now at such yyoung ages. You get engaged and say he is the one. Half of you aren't out of highschool yet. I am willing to bet your parents still provide for you. Even if you have a job and pay for "your own stuff," you have no idea if you love the other person because you don't know how he is outside of this last step before life hits you head on. It is easy to say, but wait until you see him or here under pressure of working and paying for everything he/she needs. Wait for responsibiilty and all sorts of things like that to come along, then see if you are still in love with him or not. I say if you haven't had the oppurtunity to see the full 360 degrees of a person's character then you should definately hold up.

Like I've said in one of my previous posts, my boyfriend and I have been through a lot and I do see him with the pressure of working and paying for things that he needs as he doesn't live at home, he is out flatting. I have also seen every different side of him, the 360 of his personality. I know that being young, older people may think that some are not mature enough but I think that it depends on the individual. Some of the people that have commented have made some really good points and I respect your opinions. And for the other people that have commented about how they are in love, I hope that it works out if you think that they are the one.

thats fine age but you got to think have you lived your life and fully ready to take on the role of a wife at 18. i would get engaged for a while and then when u know u are ready the get married cause what is getting married but a piece of paper and a big party plus if it doesnt work out then u can separtate with out paying for the devorice
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if its meant to be, it can wait.
i understand, u love eachother, and i know how eager u must be to just jump on that carriage and get wed at ur age, but u should live together 4 a while maybe.
marriage is more than just loving somebody.
it is joining your life with theirs.
saying what is mine is yours.
it is saying, very bluntly "until death do we part"

and it is a fact that when couples get married younger, the marriage does not last, or is not happy. Whatever you do is completely up to you, but this is just my opinion, and my suggestion.

My parents got married at 21, because they waited, and they are happy.

My neighbor married immediately after high skool and they just divorced after 20 years of marriage... he was cheating on her with a college student... who is also, the same age as his daughter, which i find disgusting...
but anywho, just my suggestion!

Well, getting engaged and just living together for, um, a year or something, could be a great idea.
If you feel ready than I can't see anything wrong in it.

//T.L.//

I agree with Sean.

I say go to college and both get a job first.

well if you think your ready to get married and really think your ready then you know your ready it doesn't matter wat age you are as long as you love each other. age doesn't matter i know my uncle and aunt married young

I think that you should wait.. not because of your age but because of how long you've been together. Whats the rush?? 8 months isn't very long.. I think you should give it a bit more time. Get engaged, but then wait a year or so to get married. He may actually be the one but you don't want to risk ruining a relationship for the lack of wait.. I hope that made sense. But to me, age isn't the factor here its the length of the relationship =) hope it all works out for you dearest!!!

I am 17 as well and have just gotten engaged to we have been together for a year spent our anniversary in the hospital (not how it was supposed to happen but it was nice just to have the time with him even asleep in intesive care doctors need to learn how to do their jobs better that all I have to say) we have gone through some really tough times and are about to go through some tougher ones. our plan is to get through all this wait stay together another year then I'm moving in with him, I am finacialy stable (I pay for my parents bills and my own trust me its not fun, already graduated) So I guess what I'm saying is go ahead a get engaged. but befor you make any real actions wait a year or so to make sure he isn't bsing (its happened to me befor) then try living with him until you know you are stable and if your still happy and together then go ahead get married, I don't care what age people are it just matters how they handle the situation and if they do it in a way that ensures that it is right for you not worring about them in that sence because if something is wrong on one end it will fall apart
good luck any way, because I know no matter what anyone says you will do as you want and see fit.

I agree with Seans post. =)

..Wow, I feel so left out. I'm 17 and havn't even been in love yet, let alone consider getting married. Tehe.

hmm... love him.. there's no age limit. but different [love] levels... wait it out... finish college... stabilize your own life... then think about marriage.

I suggest living with a person for a while before considering marriage. That way you can tell if you are right for each other. Their true personalities and habits and immaturities come out after living together for a while. It's your life, live it the way you want, but don't come crying back to us for advice when something slips up.

anybody who says "if ur in love then it doesnt matter how young you are" have not lived life. marriage is not all about love! until u both can provide for yourselves then u shouldnt move in or get married with each other. marriage is a life and it has a lot more principles then love. and remember, people change the most form the ages of 18 to 25......so neither of u will be the same person and u need to ask yourself will u still love that person? and right now u dont know. what i was taught was that i shouldnt get married till i can provide for myself, my wife and a child cause u never know when one fo those lil ones will spring up! and do u really want a kid at 18? thanks for listenin!

So many of you have such wise opinions and I thank you all for them. Quite of few of you have said that 18 is too young to get married and agree, I don't want to get married now, I want to get married in a few years. My boyfriend said he wanted to propose to me and have a long engagement not to get married straight away. I thought i'd just mention that just in case there was some confusion

First of all, congratulations on finding this true of a love so early! second of all, don't lose it! hold onto it... i think you're never too early to be in love, and what you've just said here ^^ is smart... i would at least stick out your twenties together, b/c everyone says that you change so much in your twenties... but my friend's cousin was proposed to at her and her husband's last show choir performance their senior year of highschool and i just saw them together and they are just cute... it worked for them... so they were the same age as you, and i say go for it... but i would definitley try maybe living through the twenties first together, still being engaged, just since you're gonna change so much... and who knows, you probably won't change, or you'll change and grow together and have the longest marriage... i wish you the best of luck, and i hope when i get to be your age, i find that special guy too... congrats!

Thanks heaps it means alot to me ^.^

Indeed congrats. I hope things work out. If both of you truly love each other and are smart about it, then it can work. But remember, a real marriage doesn't only rely on love, that's how you find someone, making it last relies on trust, commitment, respect and other things. Good luck to you and your fiance. Hope you have a great life :)

wait till ur older, my sister got married at 17, and she thought she knew him well enough to get married, but she didn't... now she's pregnant and she regrets getting married to him before she knew what kind of guy he is

i think you should know him alittle more. i'm still very young, only starting my second year in high school but my boyfriend is gonna go to college in a few days. but a few days ago, on his b-day, i proposed to him, with the 300 dollar ring. I didn't ask him to for his hand in marriage...

I was 23 when I met my ex hubby. We met in March, lived together in May and I was pregnant in August. This was a relationship to be doomed. At such a short time I think it is too soon. Also, as a 18 year old you are still too young to get married. There is so much more in life then this big commitment. I believe that one should have an education and their ducks in a row before thinking about this huge commitment! Just my opinion on this!