im scared to fall in love

as much as i want someone to be there for me to love me for me.. i am scared to love someone whole. when i met someone im afraid to get close to them because i know that i will hurt them one way or another..

that doesnt mean that i dont know what i want. i do. it's just, im afraid of what i want.. like, what if want i want is not what i want after all........ am i being selfish?

im not sure what my point in all of this is. im not sure what im trying to say at all either. i just, well, im scared to fall in love for the wrong reason and the right reason................. *sigh*

I think I have been in your position, sorta...
See with me I always felt like I wanted someone to love me extremely, mostly because I never felt real love for me from my family so I felt as though I deserved to get better love, and that nothing beneath that would be better.

But then I didn't know how to love because I have never loved, so I was terrified of falling in love, I'm in love now and I hurt him, just llike I knew I would, and it feels terrible.

Don't be afraid to get close to someone that you feel you care about, it won't make things better, only worse. I don't think you are being selfish just a little confused of what you want.
Don't be scared to fall in love, it's the best feeling you will ever have!!
Sometimes not knowing if you are gonna hurt someone has to be pushed out of your thoughts, nothing and noone is perfect. Just don't intentionally hurt them..

I know whats its like not wanting to be close to someone cuz you might get hurt but if you never get close to anyone, isnt that hurtin yourself too? Isn't wondering if you are selfish hurting yourself just as much as fallin in love and getting hurt? you will never know if you will get hurt until you try, and being in love is a whole lot better than wondering what it would be like... Hope I helped a lil bit. If not I am sorry.

OMG i have the exact same problem as you, i feel as if im not good enough and I dont want to get hurt. And as much as i dont care bout wat ppl say bout me i h8 being talked about! it sux balls. haha yeah well i hav no advice seeing as imin da same boat as yah but gud luk anyway.

xxoo,
alysse

Sorry:(

Don't be afraid of falling in love...just be cautious...take it slow and if your with the right person then your already in love and you won't even kno it.

I say be cautious because people can say "I love you" and not mean it even tho they think they do. Save those words for when you really kno its "the one" so that way your less likely to get hurt or hurt them...

sometimes i dont believe love exists....

i dont think love really does exist either. i mean it aint as strong as some people make out to b. love is probably a really small factor in any relationship

this is mr.mohr-(really) you take pride in being a
prisoner no? thats ok in my book, falling for any-thing has a consequence. we cant foretell the
furture and that includes you-him-love-friends,
suddenly the world embraces everything together.
now you have more prisoners. gotta feed, gotta
fuck, gotta clean, gotta do this do that-anyway,
wait. let someone fall for you? peace

i understand your point. its hard to have your heart broken take it from someone who knows. but if you never go out and face that fear of being hurt you will never get what you want and you will never know what you want until you take that step to your future even if that means stepping out of your comfort zones.

KwAn

wow.....worst case sinero....

hmm...u know i thought i was the only confused person about all this...i couldnt straighten my thoughts in my own mind..so i could never talk to any1 about it properly and actually get them to understand what i mean...i can totally relate to ure problem...but i dunno what can be done bout it...sorry :-(