Advise please??

  • N J Thornton
    20 years ago

    Well here goes....I have a one year old daughter whom i love more than life itself. I'm still in a relationship with her father and we're thnking about getting married to help support our daughter ( and becasue we love each other that much). When i first fell pregnant with Jessica my partner wasn't ready and neither was I. He reacted badly at first and didn't want to keep it. However i couldn't face an abortion so he had to come around for the baby's sake. He now loves Jessica to bits, she's his daughter of course and that's great...
    The only thing is i think i may be pregnant again. I've shown the early signs of pregnancy ( i'm not going into detail with those though) and now i'm three days late with my period. I daren't take a test incase i am pregnant. I daren't tell him incase he reacts the same, i just couldn't go through it all again. Plus i just don't know if he could cope. I know this is a tough one, but please can anyone help me. I don't know who else to talk to.

  • Jacki
    20 years ago

    If you claim to love him then you would tell him. If you plan to get married then starting a marrige out on a lie is not good.

  • N J Thornton
    20 years ago

    Hmm well i've taken the test and... i suppose its good news, it was positive. I'm going to break the news to my partner later this evening when he gets home. Athough i think he already suspects somethings wrong as he asked me this morning if i was ok. So wish me good luck, i hope it all goes well. I'm sure Jessica will be happy with a little brother or sister :)
    Thanks to everyone that replied.

  • Robyn Park
    20 years ago

    Sorry I was too late to give advise, but I would have said to tell him. Congratulations on being pregnant! And let us all know what the outcome of it was (how he took the news). Good luck!!

  • N J Thornton
    20 years ago

    Hey everyone...erm well i told him and i was really suprised. He came in last night and i waited until he'd got him self sorted, then i sat him down and told him. He was suprisingly supportive, i was thinking maybe he's grown up a lot with having Jessica. Just to double check he made me take another test, and it was still positive. So thanks everyone. Maybe i just over reacted and paniced because we got caught out again. Everything's fine, although we're not telling many people until we've been and had a check up at the docs...
    So i guess this is the end of this post :)

  • Megha
    20 years ago

    congratulations!!!!!!!! :-)

  • kylee
    20 years ago

    alls i can say is if he loves you he will understand and he wont react in a bad way!