Wow tough call here

Ok so I met this chick on the internet through MySpace. She lives like 45 minutes from me, and I met here for the first time in person Friday. She looked a little bit different than her pictures, she was super dittzy, and to put it nicely she really likes having sex...Well I didn't have the greatest time with her, and I went home early for this reason. Saturday I get on MySpace and I have a message from her, apologizing for having to shuck corn, watch a lame parade, and meet her wierd friends, she said she was really nervous and wanted to go on an actual date sometime soon. I didn't reply. Hours later, I get home from work and check my email and it says I have new MySpace comments, so I read them. She left me a commet that had the instructions as to how to use a condom, and then it said "I bought a box of condoms today and I was bored so I thought I'd tell you what the box said" And I had more messages practically telling me she wants to have sex.

Heres the question.

I am 17, and I'm a virgin. It's not that I don't want to have sex, It's just I've never had many chances. I look at this as: I've gone this long, I could wait for someone I love and know well, or I could have sex with her so I have experience so I don't dissapoint someone I love. I also tell myself "you know, fck it go for the gold" but then I'm like "well is it worth it?"

So what do you think? Should I go out on a date with her and get laid or tell her that I'd rather not loose my virginity to a "no good words describes this" that I don't know that well?

Colby,

I am a very moral-driven person, so my advice follows MY morals. Just to let you know.

Okay, I am 20, and I am still a virgin, okay. Why? Because I am waiting until my wedding night. Why? Because I think that fornication is wrong and I believe in monogamy. Sex is supposed to be something special. It's not supposed to be a spontaneous act of impulse. You should wait until you find the one you love, who loves you back.

Considering the fact that this girl likes sex, I assume that she is well educated in that area. With all of the STDs floating around this world, she could have one, or many for that matter. Would you really want to risk getting an STD from a girl who you don't love? And from the sound of it, barely even like now that you've met her?

In my opinion, if you are going to risk something like that, then wait until you find the one you love. Don't worry about not knowing what you're doing, because it won't matter. What if you found a girl that waited to have sex, and you fell in love with her... But you chose to have sex with this current girl... Is that fair to the new one?

And there is also the possibility of the condom breaking, resulting in an unplanned pregnancy... Would you really want to be a father at the age of 17 with a girl you don't love?

Wait for love... I know I'm being redundant, and I'm sorry for that.

~BJ~

agreed with everything above
its supposed to be special, id say wait for marriage but at least wait for someone you really like, dont throw it away like that

xxALLYxx

You don't even like this girl, you're going to give away something that special to her just so the one you like/love won't be disappointed?
Look, if the person you fall for really felt for you back, then they wouldn't complain.
I think they'd like teaching you a thing or two, no? ;)

Good luck !

SOUL --

I don't think you should loose your virginity to her. You said you've waited this long... might as well wait for someone you actually care about & like.

One word: Wait.

Don't throw something so special away on a person who is willing to 'do it' with someone she may not know very well. And, in my opinion, if a person loves you but found out that you basically threw your virginity away, then that won't make her feel good because you've had 'experience'. It'd make her feel special if you wait and she shouldn't be disappointed if you're doing what's right for you.

Who knows what STI's this girl may have; do you really want to give it to that special someone when she's probubly been waiting for you for a long time, while you gave it to someone that is not who you think?

Think about it. 'Experience' doesn't always pay off.

"Okay, I am 20, and I am still a virgin, okay. Why? Because I am waiting until my wedding night. Why? Because I think that fornication is wrong and I believe in monogamy. Sex is supposed to be something special. It's not supposed to be a spontaneous act of impulse. You should wait until you find the one you love, who loves you back."

^^ I whole-heartedly agree. I'm 16 and I'm a virgin for this exact same reason. I'm posting this now because I never read the other posts until after I posted my own opinion. Definately wait =)

I have a great deal of respect for you. You've gone this long without having sex. The question i have for you is, why lose it now? You may regret it. Besides that, you have so much time to find a special person you will fall "in love" with. I believe you should wait. This girl just wants sex because she has probably lost her virginity and wants more. My advice is to wait for that special someone who you're not 100%, but 500% sure you love. The time should be when you feel ready, and you're with the right person. ^ I also agree with the above post. I'm 15 and i'm a virgin. I plan to stay one until my wedding night as well. I want to be with someone i know i love, someone who i could possibly spend the rest of my life with. Good luck.

I say that you should wait for someone u love cuz u dont even like this chick...i mean its kinda mean..and plus if you did it she might take it like u really like her...and thats hurts...u waited this long...wait for someone u love

Yap..as everybody says..

Wait..

you may think i'm too small to tell you this but..well..

Sex is not for fun, you know.

What if she has an STD? Let's say you go for it, condoms don't protect you from STD's 100 percent and that's potentially something you have to live with for the rest of your life, i.e HIV, Herpes. The risk is very real and it can happen to anyone. She might have something and not even know it because sometimes a lot of these diseases and viruses don't come with symptoms.

Colby: If she's hot and you fancy her get stuck in there mate (no pun intended). Use the condoms. It's like anything else - it needs practice. Why not start with someone who you won't be spending the rest of your life with nor love. And then if goes wrong it doesn't matter.

I won't be popular for my reply - but I aint here for popularity. I'm here to speak my truth and the way I see things. Good luck.