i just need to tell someone about my problem

ok. my boyfriend, Alex, has been sneaking in my window at night and leaving in the morning for about 3 weeks. well, my dad got up early today and saw him leave. he told my mom (because he's a little bitch) and now i'm grounded for the rest of my life. then dad drove up to Alex's house sand told his parents and they flipped out!

i've wanted his parents to like me for so long and last night alex told me that they wanted to invite me to go with them to his grandparents house. i was so happy! now, they probably wanna kill me. i don't know for sure, because my phone is taken away, so i can't call him and find out. but if i did call, i doubt his parents would let me talk to him.

i am so severely depressed... i don't know how to communicate with him... i don't know if he's mad at me... i want to die. i want to commit suicide, and i'm very close to doing it.

i know it doesn't seem that bad, but trust me, it's ALOT worse than what i've just said.

you are right, it doesn't seem that bad. It is a bummer that it happend thats for sure. And it sucks that you are grounded and can't call him. But it's not like you wont ever see him again right? It will all blow over. People get mad and they forget about it (some people) eventualy his parents will like you. Don't worry about it, take a breath. I'm sure he isn't mad at you, why would he be? If he should be mad at anyone it should be himself for getting caught or your dad for telling.

sarah

Uhh.. and? Sitting here typing it out to us won't get anything done. Winging about suicide definitely won't. You're close to committing suicide because of THIS? A ton of people have it worse, and if you honestly wanted to, you'd have done it by now. So maybe you should DO something about it instead of typing this out and not even asking us anything.x

uh a little harsh? she was just expressing herself.

She'll figure something out eventually. Just let her deal with it her own way.

sarah

It probably seems like a huge deal right now, and I'm sure to you it is. But you will eventually be able to talk to him and see him again. And I'm sure that his parents will like you, becuase it's not totally your fault he snuck over... you both did it. Just try to relax, and find a way to talk to him. You could always write him a letter.

^I'm sorry but people just can't "Get over" things as quickly as some people can.

rite now ur probably flipping out... and really mad... but trust me... in the future u'll look bak and be like... haha that was some fun fuking nites... i mean god you must've expected they'd come up eventually and you'd get beaten up a bit for it... but i mean... don't beat yourself up for it you no??

trust me the more you put on yourself the worse it will be... if you jsut keeo positive and say like... ok this will all blow over... we'll stay together no matter wut my parents think or his parents... and maybe jsut for like this week or 2 weeks bc of this insedint... you mite have to be a bit seperated... but this happens to a bunch of kids...

if it happened to me... I'd probably laugh about it... i mean your parents like practically walked in on u having sex... kinda funny... uncomfortable... but funny...

so just like stay positive... no big deal... trust me... your probably making it worse for yourself by getting so depressed...

It'll all work out i swear..

~PEACE~

sorry if any of this came out bitchy i really jsut ment to state facts...

if you ever wanna email me and tell me about wuts the "MORE" that going on you can.... just say wut the beginning story is a bit... like who you are and hwo i no you... cuz sometimes i get mixed up with people from this site if they don't

k ~PEACE~

email- MOTOR_mouth1991@yahoo.com

First of all, it's wrong to have a guy spending the night in your room when you're 16. What is wrong with you? Whether you were doing anything or not doesn't matter. Second, a guy is not a reason to consider suicide over. Your parents only did what they did because you made a mistake and need to learn from that. Getting depressed and thinking about commiting suicide isn't going to solve anything. He's just a guy, and before you know it you will be able to see him and talk to him again. Don't let something so small have such a big impact on you. Just try and make the best of things, and they will probably get better.

Oh and i would reconsider having a guy stay overnight in your room at 16. That is just plain stupid. I'm not trying to be mean. I'm just being straightforward with my thoughts on the matter.

"I am so severely depressed"
no, I don't think you are.
Maybe I'm not sure what I'm talking about, but there is a big, big difference between very upset and severely depressed.
Also, I agree with Anglelina Taylor (which is also a very cool name, p.s.).
this may seem like a "bashing", so don't take it personally. I mean ya, it totally sucks, and I'd probably cry for a while if it happened to me and then allow myself to be somewhat sulky and sad for a couple hours/days. But it will turn out okay, your parents will get over it, and you will make it out alive. So don't lose hope, K?

"uh a little harsh? she was just expressing herself.

She'll figure something out eventually. Just let her deal with it her own way."

really? I don't think she was harsh. I think she was right and honest. She will figure it out her own way, but she posted it here and she's going to get some response she might not like.
She was expressing himself too, with her own opinion.

For every action their is a reaction.

You did something you know was wrong so you have to suffer the consiquences.

Your father wasn't be a little ***** do you like when you bf or best friend keeps things from you?
Your mother and father are supposed to be best friends.

Btw watch your langauge in the forums.

Rachel

Firstly shame on you hun you go sneaking around and taking foolish risks like having your boyfriend sneak in your PARENTS HOME at all hours of the night - then expect to get caught and dont be so pathetic and gutless as to not accept the punishment for your actions. You were behaving inappropriately and so was your boyfriend, you got caught - now deal with the consequences.

Secondly - now I know your angry but calling your own father a lil bitch? I wouldnt only ground you but I would wash your bloody mouth out with soap, its obvious to me that you have a lack of respect for your parents and you really need to change that to make your own growing up alot less painful, you are the only person complicating things here, dont blame your parents for your own stupidity. Your father had every right to tell your mother, its there home and as long as you live underneath there roof you should abide by there rules.

Okay your depressed its hard and Ill give you that but suicide I mean come on, thats pretty harsh towards people including your boyfriend that actually care for you, and more importantly yourself. Suicide is a PERMANENT solution to a TEMPORARY problem. I think more than anything you are not suicidal as much as you simply miss your man and are extremely embarrassed...

Seriously just grow up hey? Start acting your age, if you want to be treated like an adult a good starting point is to act like one.

um, well if I was a parent and found out that my daughter's boyfriend was sneaking into her room at night, I'd probably flip out.
I am not a mother as it is, but I have been close to a mother whose daughter got pregnant out of the blue, and it tore her to pieces.
If she could have stopped it, she would have.

Chances are, your parents really care.

//T.L.//

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wow really great answer to above.x