Opinions

How do you make choices when everyone's opinion is so different. I can't decide right from wrong anymore.. I thought posting on here would help but it seems like everyone has a different opinion and I don't know what to do anymore.. So how do you deal with your problems? What's your method? Any tips on how to sort things out?

Usually common sense is a good bet. If it goes against common sense then you probably shouldn't do it. If you are speaking of morality, then you are on you own to decide that, but religious books are pretty safe to read if you atleast want their wisdom. The tao te ching, th ei-ching, proverbs, ecclesiastes, psalms and other parts of the Bible, pieces of the Koran, and the upanishads have got to be great, along with books from buddhism as well. They all give wisdom, you just take pieces from each one and decide what you want and what you don't. Other than that you learn from experience, yours and others'

I don't know. When I first started going through this, about my second year of college, I pretty much just decided to do the things that I had always been told were wrong. Hindsight, those were probably some really bad (stupid, naive) choices, but I don't lose any sleep over it. Experience, preferably your own, is the best teacher. I'm a better person because of it. I regret nothing. When you learn to develop your own opinions about stuff, just also learn to develop atleast some kind of tolerance for opinions of others. No matter how different they may be. Be willing to accept the fact that not everyone is going to be able to think the way you do. And no one 100% of the time. Some people you can't convince by arguing. Sometimes all you can, or have to do is listen.

What if that's part of the problem.. What if in this situation i can't figure out right from wrong and it all seems about the same

I was in a situation.. Some call it rape.. some say i was taken advantage of.. It doesn't really matter because im not going to the cops or anything.. But whatever the situation sucks. and it's been driving me crazy for the last 9 months.. to the point that i barely eat.. i have nightmares.. and I black out if i get alone with a guy.. even with my amazing boyfriend. i've only told two people. And only the whole story to one person adn that was this boy .. who told me he was raped and he wanted to know what was wrong with me so when he told me his story he said he figured it out by my reaction and he's so concerned about me and how im dealing with and all i do is worry about him.. I mean it has to be worse of it to happen to a guy then to me. And it's all just so confusing and I can't figure out right from wrong anymore.. I don't know anything.. Like im so afraid someone will find out and i WILL NOT tell anyone.. I just don't know.. This probably doesn't even make sense because i feel like im rambling on here.. i just don't know

Well personally I stopped listening to and trying to please the thoughts and opinions of others a damn long time ago! Why you may ask, well because in reality i soon discovered that no matter how hard or what it is what that I tried I never made everyone else happy, in turn I experienced many a sleepless night over issues in my life. So instead of living my life to make everyone around me happy and instead of basing my decisions on the thoughts and opinions of others I made the choice to live my life for myself and for my own happiness, afterall if I was to continue to loose sleep and feel unhappy it may as well be for my own choices right? Since coming to this conclusions I have had the opportunities to do things I never would have dared to even dream and although I may not be the epitome of happiness, Im satisfied my choices were mine alone and thats brings me pretty damn close to feeling "happy".

common since works best usually

Well, I gather opinions, as many as I can get, and when all else fails, I listen to my heart and do as it says.
Of course, I might follow the opinion that is in the majority, but that isn't always a good idea.
Making a list of pros and cons helps. :-)

//T.L.//