Gave him a second chance...Now in deep regret

Hey everyone, I just need to tell my story about my boyfriend for about six months. I broke up with him around a month ago because I found out he was cheating on me. It upset me so much and even brought me to a horrible time of depression. He apparently also was very sorry, or so I guess, I fell for it, and gave him the second chance I thought everyone deserves. At first our relationship started out well, but now it is quite going downhill and I realize I can't trust him because of the past. He is a personal trainer and manager of a gym and always talks to a million girls...Plus he is a college boy...very built and hot, and so well-known in my area. I always see girls all over him...and I feel like in the relationship he is not all there for me. I don't know what to do now, because I always desperately wanted to make this work. Any advice anyone can give? Should I wait and see how things work out? I'm not so sure...

Ah, if no one has anything to say about my vent, I didn't even need to post, I was just wondering who has given second chances and regrets it.

i would say if you really think things are going downhill... talk to him. he could be feeling the same way, and if he is then you can find a way to fix it. if he cheats on you, leave him. you dont deserve somebody like that.

and i never gave anybody a second chance. they werent that lucky. ;-)

sure try talking to him, maybe he'll see where you're coming from and with a snap of the fingers you can change hime. Magically. Here's the deal. People don't just change, it takes time. Something take very long. If he didn;t respect you enough the first time I wouldn't bet on it that he respects you now. I am willing to bet that there hasn't been any change because things don't happen magically. Another thing, if you say you lovehim, but have to work on changing him that much to be the person you can love, then you don't really love him. You love the person you picture him as, which he isn't. So go find someone who fits you're picturesque mold instead of finding someone who doesn;t and wasting effort trying to change them into it. That really isn't fair to you or them. In your scenario righ tnow it really isn't fair to you.

^^ annoys the crap outta me... >.< but has a good point. people dont change overnight, so while he might have thought about changing... chances are he hasnt.

Aww, thanks for the advice everyone. It all makes sense. I really appreciate it.

I don't think I am upset to the extent I want a break up...