I'm really, really confused about this guy...basically ex-gf.

Okay so this might be a bit drawn out, but here's the jist of it...

I've liked this guy for about two years, even though I've had a b/f in between now and then. At first, it accidentally got out to the girl he was dating (who is one of my good friends) that I liked him. She got really scared that he'd leave her for me, or I'd try to steal him. I promised her that wouldn't happen, and he did too. Since the beginning of this year, I've been talking to him more and more, (they've since been broken up, she dumped him for her football player,) and I really started to like him. Confused about my feelings for the then-boyfriend, I broke it off. Since then, March, we've been talking almost everyday.

Well it came out not too long ago that he has feelings back for me. Wonderful! Now we can go out. WRONG. My friend, and his ex-girlfriend, doesn't really seem to like this much. She never came out and said it, but the signs are all there. Before it came out he liked me back, she would tell me stuff like, "Oh don't call him, he doesn't do well on the phone, and he doesn't talk much either." and "Joy, I hate to say it like this, but he doesn't call people he doesn't know that well. You really never talk to him." Well I DID talk to him quite frequently, but I don't know how aware of that she was.

So then on the Fourth of July, she had a party, and of course invited us both. Well I basically hung out with him the whole day, and she kept trying to snag a moment with me and was saying, "Wow, why is he talking to you so much? What's going on?" It was that night that his feelings came out. Well I told him of my concern with her, and wanted to know how he still felt. He said he saw her, and felt nothing. It was so reassuring. I did ask him to talk to her however, so she could hear HIS side of all of this. She proceeded to tell me then that, "YOU MADE HIM ASK YOU OUT TWICE?!" and "OMG Joy, you're really making him feel bad about all of this." Well one, he never asked me out. Right now we're both getting acclamated into this, it was a shocker for me when he told me. And when I asked him how I was making him feel bad, he said that I wasn't. So I told him what she told me and he said, "Don't listen to her, she doesn't know how much I feel for you, and I could care less about her feelings anyway."

Well since then it's been pretty good. Then tonight she IM'ed me, and started a convo about her homecoming dress. (Her b/f and the kid I like both go to the same school, boy's private basically, and she and I go to separate schools.) Well I'm pretty sure she brought that up to make me tell her whether or not he mentioned homecoming yet. So to push the convo further, she said, "Well yeah his mom is going to alter my dress for me." She's doing that DELIBERATELY so she can get a chance alone with him or something. Then she again proceeded to tell me how I'm a pessimistic person about all of this, and that he's not going to be around forever if I don't make a move and whatnot.

Maybe I'm just blowing this ALL out of proportion, or I'm right or something. But WHY would she do this to me, when they've been broken up for over a year, and she's so "in love" with her new guy?

Okay, wow, I wrote a lot. Thanks for reading this far.

Any suggestions/comments about how I should go about all of this?

May be she's jealous and still, secretly, has feelings for him but does not want to admit it because she has another bofriend. Or she doesn't like him, but since he was once hers does not want anybody, namely her best friend, to have him. At least I think that's how I would feel and it's seems as if that's what she's doing. Sometimes, and correct me if I'm wrong, friends kind of 'compete' with each other. And although it's lame and pointless, it's human nature and it happens. Maybe she feels like, all of a sudden you are going to replace her with her ex and doesn't want that to happen either. I think you should talk to your friend. Have a one-on-one intimate girl time and really talk it through like the good friends you are - or were - who knows lol. Just trust that everything will work itself out in time, but don't just leave it and 'let it be' so to speak, because that could only cause more problems.
Hope I've helped somewhat? :-)

It sounds to me like she is jealous. You really need to sit down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel because a true friend would be happy for you. If you really have feelings for this guy, i say go for it. He obviously has feelings for you to. Or it could be something else, but stick with the positive thought. Both of you need to tell her how you feel and that she shouldn't be doing this. A true friend may get jealous, but they should be supportive. All three of you just need to communicate. I hope things work out. If she really cares about you as a friend, she'll stop. Good luck.