i really need some advice... and not just from the girls!!

well, i've liked this guy for about 5 months now i guess... ever since like january... i've totally fallen for him... i knew him last year and i liked him then too... but a week b4 i broke up with my bf he got a gf (which was middle of april) and he's had the same gf ever since... he always tells her how much he loves her and i know how much he loves her (i talk to both of them online)... this guy and i are best friends, and we've talked for up to 5 hours straight online b4, and we saw each other all the time in school, walked to each other's lockers together, what not... he always gave me hugs during the day too... he's gone for 2 weeks now on vacation, and the day b4 he left we talked forever and he was like "i'm gonna miss you sooo much!!" and then another thing he said was "don't tell anyone, but you're the first person i look for when i get online, even b4 i had a gf"... he says "i love you" you know in the friendly way and he's been texting me while he's gone and saying "i miss you soo much!" or "i really do miss you"... i'm just so confused b/c once i ask him about it, he's like "nono it's just friendly"... now this guy is a really big flirt, i've known that from the beginning, but we're such good friends and we tell each other everything, and when we went to home days last week we flirted the whole time... o and one other thing, he does know that i like him and how much i like him. PLEASE HELP ME! (and i want a guy's input on this too)

Ok, I've been known as a big flirt as well, and I've had a lot of girls tell me they like me. Most of them are still my friends, and I keep them close. The girls I hang out with are really nice people, and there is one of them in particular I hang out with. She and I have sorta the same relationship you have with your friend, and yes, remember this, he is your friend. That is something you don't want to ruin, so you need to be there for him, as a friend. You can't have a relationship with him, because he has a girlfriend, and you shouldn't force him to choose between the two of you because it would hurt him, and the person he doesn't choose.

Just be his friend, you are having a good time with him, and you aren't even going out. Just keep that going. I'm IN love with my girlfriend, but I also love my friend. There is a difference. A huge difference. A friend is one of those people you go to when you're fighting with your bf/gf. A friend is one of those people that help you up when you are down, they will be there no matter what. So don't lose that with your friend. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say.

Tip: All men like good grammar.

Thanks Darien... yeah i get what you're trying to say... and he does come to me when they're fighting, we were up at 4 in the morning texting the one night... he's just, different for me i guess, and a wonderful guy... you're right we really are great friends and it's a shame to ever ruin that... sometimes he just seems like he leads me on and it frustrates me... i don't know if i should just forget about liking him in that way and move on and just be best friends with him or what... thank you for your help and if you have anything else, just let me know... right now i'll take anything i can get!

This has happened to me before.... I still liked the girl... but nothin happened until two months later... but that was along time ago.... So either way.... I think you have the same chance

thanks for the help... that gives me a little confidence something may happen, i just don't know how much longer i'm gonna stick around... i'll still be best friends with him, but once school starts i'm moving on in that part of my life... if there is something there, i dunno, either i'll throw it away and never know, or he'll b blunt enough and tell me... knowing my luck i'll have found a great guy and he'll tell me and then i'll be like "you have GOT to be kidding me!!"... but i wanna show him what he's missed out on, and make him hurt for it... whether or not that will work, i dunno, but i'm sure as hell gonna try!

Thanks for all the help guys... anyone else???

you prolly have a chance....maybe also...he liked you alot ...when you had a b/f....but didn't want to say anything ....would you of broke up with your b/f to go out with him...ask your self that and truly answer the question...think back when yall were going out...not would you now that you are single...just keep being there for him...sure eventually something will happen....don't sit there and just throw it away...just maybe postpone it...

thank you so much.. that really gets my confidence high... i think i would have considering it was in that 2 months that i was deciding what to do about me and my bf, like whether or not to break it off, that he had liked me, and i liked him a lot at the time... i might have been reluctant at the time, but i woulda come around i know... and the postponing thing really sounds good... that's what i was planning on doing anyways... thanks again!

Chances are he's a flirt, but perhaps confused about his girl. Best bet is to not interfere with him and his girl, and just stay friends.

//T.L.//

OMG !! YOU REMIND ME OF WHAT IM DOING RIGHT NOW !! YOU'RE LIKE ME. SHITTTTT I MOVED ALONG WITH THE GUY THAT I LOVE, JUST TO HURT HIM, THAT WILL SHOW HIM , WHAT'S BEEN MISSING ;)

Thank you all for your help... well, last week, just as i was set on moving on, he broke up with his gf, said he has feelings for me, and now we will be together very soon... he still needs some time, which i totally understand... he's the greatest to me, and thanks again to you all! your advice was greatly appreciated!

oo..lucky you..and if you are not lucky yet..wish you luck on ur new coming relationship..hehe
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