Single. What are your opinions on this?

Well, I've never had a boyfriend, and as I am homeschooled I don't have the chance to meet boys. As it is, I've been pretty fine with that, I mean, it's acceptable, but just recently I've had...well, a kind of longing to be closer to someone.

I'm trying to make myself feel okay about being boyfriendless...
Can you help?

//T.L.//

Um If you are fine let it be..... But if you think you want one, when you look at him it should be like you looking at your self but in a male form... that is how I find girls and friends

I understand your situation. I am 16 and I've never had a boyfriend or been 'romantically involved' in the least. I sometimes too have the longing to be close to a guy. I find though, that I mostly feel like that in certain situations, like a cold winters night or if I'm out with friends who ALL have boyfriends. But then I see all the stuff they go through; drama, heartbreaks and what-not, and then I think to myself that I am pretty lucky that I don't have to go through that, and that I am free to do whatever I please without having to check in with someone. Right now I'd rather have guys as close friends, rather than intimate relationships, because I know that when I get older I'll have more opportunities, and that God has someone special out there for me, so I don't have to date to find him. I know that you're not saying you want to be close to someone to find the one, I'm just sayin that, it's that thought that comforts me and its posts like this that make me realize I'm not alone =)

I'm not saying that there's anything wrong in having a boyfriend - there's definately not. But what I mean is that if you are ok with being single, then stay single until you know you are ready to date, because even though you may get the longing to, it doesn't mean you're ready. I'm definately not ready, that's for sure ;P

If you want to be single, then stay single. But if you really do want a boyfriend, then try to go different places that you usually don't. That way you could try to meet guys. And it might be a good idea to bring a friend with you. And if you like being single but once in a while feel lonely then try to think of the positives of being single, and hang out with friends more.

I love it...For now

Time will lead you down a path of love, and you will least expect it. It will be the most beautiful thing you have ever experienced. All you have to do is wait for it, don't go out looking, because if you find it, it would not be the same. You will not even realize what it was meant to be. The best kind of love, is the one that hits you when you least expect it. Enjoy being single, commitment is tough.

Jeeze Darien, I feel like some loyal dog always agreeing with you. You must be able to read my mind or something...lol :D

Lol, haha that would be a scary thought for many people. Yeah, I know you were thinking it was scary. I did read your mind ;)

Hmm..what am I thinking now?

You should say those things in the post "giving up on love", Darien.

i nkow this is horrible, considering that im pretty deep in a relationship right now, but there are some days i just WISH i was single. its a great thing to be single, and its also a good thing to be in a relationship. being single, you have choice, freedom. it may feel to you that you are lonely, but you can meet guys in other ways than at a school. go shopping with friends, go to the movies. i met my b/f at the movies. really, being single is just as good as not being single. you dont need a guy to complete your life. just have fun being yourself, and the right guy will come along sometime. it may seem that hes a little late, but dont worry, he'll come. in the meantime, embrace life and live it with fun. dont hold yourself back. youre single, and youre free. being single is not a bad thing at all. feel a little better? i hope you do.

nothing wrong in being single. absolutely nothing. especially if it saves you from all other ill fated relations and terrible heartaches. be honest in your thoughts and yes.. wait a little. get a better grip on your perspective. relationships are profound and consuming. being single though offers complete freedom. like i said, wait for your love and it will come to you all by itself.

being single and ready to mingle is pure fun. enjoy till it lasts....!

i was single up until 9th grade... just so you know, im about to be in 10th. yeah. but trust me, guys arent that great. ;-) theyre all jerks anyway!

(says the girl with a total of two boyfriends in her lifetime!!!)

still... if you think you need someone, go out, have fun, show who you really are! just dont rush into something that isnt right...

hope i helped a little...
- ARP

Yeah, thanks guys.
As it is some pretty cool things have just popped up in my life, and I guess I will be busy enough as it is, without having to worry about boys, and finding a boyfriend.
Lots of thanks to those who posted.
I am still open to more views. :-)

//T.L.//

I already posted but I just thought of something else. Well I'm single too, and today I went to the beach with my 13 yr old neice, and we saw a bunch of hott guys. Then I realized if I wasn't single then I would end up feeling guilty for looking at them. So... the point to this is since you're single if you see a hott guy and you wanna look... you can do it without any guilt, none at all! I thought that was a pretty positive thing to being single. I don't know about you but I find looking at hott guys to be fun... and I'm gonna stop writing now.

I think u should go out with a guy...I don't see anytihng wrong with dating someone

What's the point in dating someone if you wanna be single?

"You should say those things in the post "giving up on love", Darien. "

Ok, don't give up on love.
Is that what you want to hear?

ur really 13..? well... boys.. are not important right now. relationships aren't important right now. the only thing waiting for you is complications guaranteed. don't have problems at this age. study and have fun. when you get older, you'll eventually have the mental and emotional capabilities to deal with relationships. don't focus on your longing for something that's not a necessity..

"I think u should go out with a guy...I don't see anytihng wrong with dating someone"

Well neither do I... except that I can't find a guy! Which is sort of the topic of this post *hangs head*

And yes, you have a point..I can look all I want. And yes, it is also true that I shouldn't start dating yet, but sit home, study and have fun. Oh well.

//T.L.//

Yeah, you shouldn't worry too much about dating. I mean, what do you plan to do? Hmm, not plan a future, so I don't really see the point. You can have as much fun, and more by being single. You don't have to worry about commitment. Just enjoy your time being single. Don't rush into something you are not ready for, and don't think you are ready for it, because trust me, you aren't.