Giving..up on love......any reasons to not

I think I will finally give up on love, unless there is a reason I shouldn't. All my life I have been hoping for the fairy tale endding, but now I see that I can never truly be happy. LOve, cries for me to come near but when I go near I end up carrying it's sorrow.....what should I do....I am so lost... :(

it's cliche. but some people say that you shouldn't go looking for love. let it come to you. sometimes you never know what you really want until you see it.

^^ I whole-heartedly agree.

The problem could also be that, even though some guys are great, they still may not be right for you. I'd say just wait until the right one comes along.

Sometimes the 'fairy tale ending' is not realistic. Once you find love you have to work at it, in a sense. That sounds like a confusing game, but that's sooo not what I mean lol.. I hope you get what I'm trying to say ?

Did anybody understand that? lol if you did please elaborate.. I'm not one for words at this moment.

im gonna guess and say what you meant or were trying to say was that,
people dont just fall in total love with each other
like in the disney movies,
it takes time but you'll know when they are worth
your time?

idk i suck at explaining things

anyway, i would say dont just GIVE UP on love
maybe just take a break from it

have you ever loved someone before?
and i dont mean just some guy i mean
family or friends or whatever?
and do you remember how that feels to be loved
and have that place inside your heart
that is always filled with the fact that you
have someone that loves you?

theres a reason not to give up.

everyone deserves to be loved and eventually will be.

love is all healing, all transformative. all encompassing and ever inspiring. people could disappoint you in the projection of what you presumed your love was in them, but don't ever give up on love because it has the power to uplift you from your misery...

take my word.. the currrent depressing phase will heal completely when you finally feel that cathartic emotion of being in love all over again. i pray that you meet someone who could make you understand the depth of love through him... until then pause, ponder, reflect and be strong and DON'T GIVE UP......!!

Yeah i agree with the person above me. lol sorry i didnt read your name. but it just takes time to find the one you really love. as you pass through the guys youve dated. you see that different ones that you want to be with.

Don't give up on love. If you do then you'll probably end up missing out on something great. And the whole "fairy-tale-ending" thing... to be honest is un-realistic. You can't set your standards for people, or how you want things to turn out. Becuase if something doesn't meet Your standards it could still be just as great. And you can't really go looking for love. Which I know a lot of people say. It just has to come to you. So stop looking for it, and don't give up on it. Just try and have fun, and stop thinking about it so much.

And just becuase you don't have a guy/girl to love, doesn't mean that you don't have Famliy, or Friends to love. If you gave up on love, wouldn't that mean giving up on the love for them too?

^^ Good point !

hey. dont give up, please. you know that weird kid, who may be ugly, or just plain crazy, talk to him, sometime the people you dont even know end up to be some of the most amazing and influenceing people you'll ever meet. dont go for one guy, talk with all of them, someone out there is completely head over heels with you, and you wont let them in. i mean, its not like i have a lot of experience or anything, like i like, "or love" this one guy, but hes my first real one(i think) and i dont know if its love, it feels great, but is it just cause i feel that hes the only one who will like me for me? i dont know. love is complicated. try to be very open, and talk to guys who you would never ever talk to, and he could be the one your looking for. everyone says the "fairytale"ending" is unrealistic. i think it can happen. if you work at it, and try to be happy, let him have space, let yourself have space, and you will be almost perfect. if you dont think you can do it, you cant. if you give up on love, others will see it. and they will be afraid to approach you. there are a lot of people who love you (family, friends) and you have to have a connection with them. your life will be screwed. i know that at times love seems like the most horrible, annoying,frustrating, and saddening thing in the whole entire world, but you know what? your not going to stay the same. do go out searching for love, and only focus on love. form friendships first, then try for more, and in the end you'll still have a friend there for you. please dont give up, cause there is someone waiting.sorry this is so long, but i wanted you to have my opinion. love and luck, mollyjade

Geez, I feel the same way. I need reasons on not to give up love, because it is just plain evil. What everyone here is saying makes perfect sense and I think you should listen to them. You never know what can happen in the future and though I lay towards the pessimistic side of the situation, I think you should stick with the replies and their optimistic views on love. Ciao.

thanks..

omg i'm giving up not on love well.. he's the only one i want in my life n i'm giving up on him cause i think we wont work out cuz of the DISTANCE i could go on but my parents r strict n there r so many other problems that r gonna make me sick to point i'll end up killing myself. And God it's gonna be so hard to let go of him like that but I have no other choice. So yea the person i wanna get married to im gonna let go of him... wish me luck.

as for u let love come to u..

dont give up, just dont try so hard to find it.
its gonna come eventually.
right now your young.
have fun.
look later.

xx good luck

It's a lot easier to give up on something than to stick it through. People always look for the easy way out. That's why they never end up in high places. The people that persist, are the ones that get further. If you give up on love, you will never find love.

why would you make a post trying to get people to tell you to not 'give up on love'. its plain ridiculous. ovbiously you really dont want to, if your trying to get people to talk you out of it.

I think even if you say 'I'm giving up on love' it doesn't make any difference, when me and my ex hubby split up, I never wanted to fall in love again, and 3yrs later love found me.. then when me and her spilt up I went through the same.. never wanted to get hurt again, never wanted to love again.. Even when I met my present gf, I was still saying I didn't want love, but it bit me on the ass anyway and I am so glad it did, because I am happier now than I have ever been.. give up, don't give up, it will still come and find you eventually anyway :]